Choosing the Color of Your First Suit

LK Weiss in a suit by Saint Harridan

Author | Blake

Are blue suits more versatile than black suits? What about charcoal suits? Does color even matter? Recently we got a question from one of you regarding what color to get a first suit:

“I’m going to be buying my first suit, but don’t know what color I should get for the most use. I can’t decide between navy or a charcoal grey. I’m leaning toward charcoal because I love to wear colorful shirts and the charcoal seems to be more flexible. On the other hand, a navy jacket would pair well with chinos and a colorful shirt. I can’t afford two suits, yet, so I want to make the first one count.”

Here are a couple of tips to think about before deciding on the color of your first suit!

To ensure that you will get the most use out of your suit, consider where you will be wearing it most. If you’ll be wearing your suit mostly at work, there are a couple of considerations to take into account. A black suit is always formal. Moreover, it is near impossible to dress down a black suit. Unless your work calls for black tie, a blue, grey/charcoal, or brown suit will be more versatile. Let’s break it down:

Every color suit is a blank canvas, however, each color lends itself to certain color combinations, seasons, and dress codes.

(from: dapperQ)

Black suit: Always formal; Looks best with black accessories.

(from: voxsartoria.com)

Blue suit (and by blue I mean navy blue): Can wear for all seasons; goes with almost all color shirts/ties/all that jazz. Great for separates –wear blazer one day, trousers another.

(from: www.gq.com)

Brown/tan suit: Primarily a fall and winter suit; looks best with neutral accessories (shirts, ties, pocket squares); Can be dressed casual or formal.

(source unknown)

Grey/charcoal suits: Second in versatility to a blue suit; great for all seasons. Suit separates not as versatile (gray pants and blazer don’t go with as many color combinations as blue separates); can be dressed casual or formal.

Outside profession, there are no logistical concerns that you should worry about in regards to color. As mentioned above, if you’re not going to wear your suit at black tie functions, the color of your suit is up to your personal style. If I had to choose, I would get the navy suit. As this inqwearer said, a navy blazer goes with just about anything. It can be dressed up or down. I can’t think of a color that looks bad with blue, so shirts shouldn’t be a problem. Also, navy blue suits look great with both black and brown shoes (charcoal not so much). 

For suit shopping, Qwear recommends Topman, Men’s Wearhouse, Saint Harridan, Fourteen, Indochino, Tomboy Tailors (for those in Bay area), and J.Crew

I leave you with one amazing picture of something you can do with a navy suit jacket:

(source unknown)

Cutting Your Own Hair

By Raimi, with moral support from Lee

(Thanks for the photo, Allison! Photo cred: Bryce Falcon)

An anon recently wrote in, “Hi Qwear, what are your thoughts on cutting your own hair?”

I’m so glad you asked. I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had recently that went something along the lines of this:

Friend/acquaintance/random person I’m talking to who finds out I cut hair: I hate getting my hair cut!
Me: Why’s that?
F/A/RPITTWFOICH: They never listen to me! They either don’t believe I actually want what I’m describing, or they think they know better!
Me: That’s really shitty.
F/A/RPITTWFOICH: Especially when I want a queer haircut. Somehow I always end up with more hair than I asked for/less hair than I asked for/soccer mom hair.

So you can imagine why I started cutting my own hair in the first place.

Sure, there’s something to be said for the experience of getting your hair cut by someone else – it can be a relaxing leisure activity (especially if you go to one of those fancy salons that gives you coffee and a massage while you get your cut), and it’s certainly easier than trying to see the back of your own head or getting your bangs even without accidentally hacking them all off (most people tell me this is almost impossible).

BUT. If you have what we call around these parts queer hair or have any kind of style that seems out of the norm, getting your hair professionally cut might not be your favourite activity. Professional beauticians and barbers see dozens of people every day, so I understand why their immediate reaction might be “this person is describing a haircut I have never given before or that I would never want. Maybe I’m misunderstanding and they really mean something else.” And that’s how you end up with whatever today’s version of The Rachel is, when all you wanted was an asymmetrical mullet. And this applies to people with perfectly symmetrical, non-”queer looking” (whatever that means) hair, too.

Ok, long story short: I think cutting your own hair is awesome. It lets you take charge of how you look. No one has to interpret (or misinterpret!) what you want because you do it yourself. You can give yourself exactly what excites you! And bonus- it’s free! Why pay the salon $40+ bucks every month to get your ‘do done? Think of all the glitter you could buy with that extra dough!

Before I send you all out willy-nilly to hack away at your locks, here’s a few suggestions:

  • Find a three-panel mirror, like the kind over many of your bathroom sinks. Having the three panels means you can tilt the two outer panels so you can better see all angles of your hair , including the back of your head.
  • Enlist a friend to help you out! This gives you someone who can see the back of your head for you, and who can give you a second opinion if you’re not sure how something is working out. They can also hold a mirror behind you if you don’t have a three-panel mirror.

Wahl 79524-6001 Chrome Pro 27 Piece Haircutting Kit, White/chrome

  • Try to get better equipment than your run-of-the-mill kitchen scissors. There are some pretty good hair cutting kits (containing electric clippers, attachments, a pair of hair-cutting scissors/shears, and probably a few other tools) available online and in some large pharmacies that are pretty cheap. You can also look at beauty supply stores (Sally Beauty has been my go-to and has tons of locations).
  • Honestly, the scissors that come in the kits I mentioned above don’t tend to be the best, so I do recommend getting a nice pair of shears. This FAQ list will tell you everything you need to know about hair-cutting scissors!
  • Get a cape! Not only does this make you feel like some kind of hairdressing super hero/queero, but it prevents all the itching from stray hairs stuck all over you and in your clothes. Or do what I do- cut your hair naked in the bathroom and step right into the shower afterward.
  • Watch some tutorials online. There are literally thousands of videos on youtube specifically about cutting your own hair.
  • Look up hairstyles online (or look at your friend’s heads!). Having an image or images to look at can give you a great frame of reference for what you’re trying to achieve. Fuck Yeah Queer Cuts is a great place to start.

Fall is the perfect time to start practicing your DIY skills! Why? It’s hat season. Be daring! And if you mess up, just have a rad hat on standby.


The Unbuttoned Suit Vest

Anonymous asked: recently, i’ve been on the lookout for a vest and today i tried a couple on at h&m. they didn’t look great buttoned (because of the whole i have boobs issue) and for them to work for me i would have to get them tailored. they looked alright unbuttoned though, and i was just wondering if you had any tips for the unbuttoned vest look. thanks!

(LK Weiss on dapperQ)

A.D. says:

PROTIP: Make sure everything else you’re wearing is well-fitted for you. Make sure your shirt isn’t too big or your pants aren’t too tight.

(Fourteen photoshoot with Patty Nash Photography)

PROTIP: Look super dapper everywhere else. You want people to know you’re purposefully not buttoning your vest.

(from lorrannyeerodrigo.com)

PROTIP: You’re great! ROCK IT.

More inspiration at Vests with A.D: The Suit Vest (Part 3 of 4)

“Is it me, or is ’Veto’ starting to sound really good?” - Pheobe Buffay

Feminine/Masculine Balance For a Professional Wardrobe

Anonymous asked: My work wardrobe consists primarily of jackets, ties, and button-downs, and while people sometimes call me “sir,” I identify as female. My job is about to send me to a conservative region in South Asia where concepts of “man” and “woman” are pretty sharply defined. I need to look professional when I’m over there, but it would not be socially acceptable for me to be walking around in a tie and jacket. Any suggestions for androgynous work clothes that are neither overtly feminine nor masculine?

Bing says: To be honest, this is a challenging thing to do. People often see gender presentation on a spectrum, and it can be quite difficult to land right in the middle. I think of it as a balancing act. Androgyny to me is part feminine and part masculine, and I mix elements of shape, style, and fabric weight to find that perfect spot right in the middle. To others, androgyny feels genderless. You’ll know when you get it right for yourself.

You can still wear you jackets and buttons downs if you are able to balance them by textile. More masculine articles of clothing are made with wool, tweed, and heavy cotton; they are thicker material than the chiffon and lighter materials used to make more feminine clothing. Try pairing a wool blazer with a lighter shirt to balance the pair.

The key is to not go the extreme with your attempt to balance. Most of the time, less is more.  A button up and slacks is fairly neutral ground. It’s like slight details like buttoning the top button that may make the ensemble appear more masculine. Rolling up the sleeves to the shirt may also help to create a balance. 

(left) Sharp V Neck, Open Collar Shirt, Madelena, by The Shirt Company 

The women’s suit is often wide-legged and cut for a curvier figure. This can skew an individual to appearing more feminine. I would suggest a men’s tailored suit with fitted leg to balance the fit of the women’s suit and the straight lines of the men’s apparel.

(Left) Women's Marmot Rock Spring Pigment Cord Pants (Right) Topman Charcoal Skinny Suit Pants*

Blouses are also an option if you feel as though the button up will appear to masculine. If you pair an open neck blouse with a blazer, it contains both feminine and masculine traits. If you feel uncomfortable in blouses, you may look into crewneck shirt, which can be worn by the masculine, feminine, and all those between.

(left) from: www.wearingitonmysleeves.com (right) from: www.walkingtalkingstyle.com

And last but not least, patterns! Play with your patterns solid colors can often appear too bold to be in middle ground. Mix and match your patterns to add playfulness and that semi “effeminate” touch to your look. 

(Left) Topman White Classic Long Sleeve Shirt* (Right) Selected Homme Print Shirt*

There are millions of combinations and ways to balance an outfit. Try out a couple of these suggestions and see what feelings right to you. When you get just the right balance for you, you’ll know!

*Topman is sponsoring Qwear

untetheredasacloud-deactivated2 asked:

Hi there Qwear! I'm on the look out for other LGBT and Queer-friendly blogs like yours and I was wondering if you would be willing to share some of your daily reads? Blogs on fashion, life, food, creativity, whatever. I just want a break from all the hyper-hetero blogs out there! Thanks a lot!

I mostly follow fashion blogs, but my personal favs are (in no particular order): 

But I’m a Tomboy
Closet Freaks
Queer Fat Femme
The Unfeminine Female
The Handsome Butch
I Dream of Dapper
Queer Plus Fashion (Blake)
Ex-Southern Belle (A.D.)
Genderqueer Fashionista
Fit For A Femme
Tomboy Femme
Everyone is Gay (Advice column)
The Phat Ally (My friend Karen’s blog about body positivity)

Leave yours in the comments! -Sonia

Qwear Dandy on a Budget Round-up

Author | Blake

Greetings Dapps! One of our readers really liked Sonny’s post about dandy inspiration from Mr. Turk, but wanted to hear about more options for people on a budget:

“Can you do a budget roundup? Especially with cute bow ties. I’ve gotten the most amazing printed ones on Etsy for <$12 and they’re still great quality. I want to see more interesting bow ties (I own 3 Sailor Moon ones and a superhero one)!”

As the holiday season deals start to taper off, there’s no better time for a roundup! Below I’ve compiled some resources and tips for fashionable queers on a budget. Enjoy!

Thetiebar.com: I can’t say enough good things about The Tie Bar. They offer a variety of ties (standard width, skinny, knits, and more) and bow ties (pre-tied and self tie diamond tip, wool, plaid, “conversational”, and slim ties, to name a few) all for just $15 each! I was skeptical of the quality of a $15 bow tie. However, after owning a couple I can say with confidence that the quality is excellent. In addition (in case you need more), they offer socks, suspenders, tie clips and bars, pocket squares, and cufflinks. They also ship internationally. (I disagree with Sonny about the tie bar)

Trad Stripe - Navy/Red (Diamond Tip Bow Tie), $15 at The Tie Bar

Knit Stacked Stripe - Blues/Orange (Wool), $15 at The Tie Bar

Belk: I know I’m always talking about Belk, but for the price and quality, their bow tie selection always amazes me. They’re a little pricier than The Tie Bar (about $19 per tie).


Saddlebred® Pigs Fly Bow Tie, on sale for $14.99 at Belk


ASOS - Although they offer every level of clothing, I’m most fond of ASOS’ selection of shoes. They offer durable, and fashionable, oxfords, wingtips, work boots, sandals, loafers, and athletic shoes for as low as $40. I recently got a pair of wingtip boots that I loveeeeee (pictured below). Plus plus plus they offer a student discount! International shipping is available.


ASOS Brogue Toe Cap Shoes in Leather, on sale for $37.04 at ASOS

ASOS Brogue Boots With Leather Sole, on sale for $77.78

Lately designers are perfecting the “vintage” look. Loving the designs of Mr. Turk like we are? Try thrifting! Thrifting is an affordable way to find vintage and one-of-a-kind pieces. I’ve found some of my favorite pieces from thrift stores. When I’m thrifting, my main concern is quality (holes, sweat stains, missing buttons, etc.). If the quality checks out, the possibilities are endless. To get the Mr. Turk look, look for statement pieces. Statement pieces don’t have to be the most useful pieces in your closet. Use them to freshen up an outfit from time to time (Mr. Turk’s camo blazer is a fabulous example of a statement piece. You can’t wear it everyday, but when you do it’s a good day). Never seen it before, go for it! Don’t be afraid to take a fashion risk (besides, if it doesn’t work out, you won’t be out too much money). Below are some of my favorite thrift store finds. 

Both trench and tie are thrifted:

Pocket square and tweed blazer thrifted:

Tie and Shirt Thrifted:

Also, this shirt:

Overall Tips

Many companies offer up to 20% of your overall purchase when you sign up for their newsletter (Don’t want to get emails everyday? Make a junk email address - they are free after all.).

Outlet malls: Lots of big name brands (My favorite are Brooks Brothers, J. Crew, Tommy Hilfiger, and Cole Haan) have outlet/factory stores that offer extreme savings. If there isn’t a store near you, a couple that I know of allow you to shop their outlet store online (I only know of J. Crew and Tommy Hilfiger, but I’m sure there are others). 

Happy shopping,


The Color Post: Mixing Bright Colors

Anonymous asked: Any tips for matching coloured shoes with outfits? I have a pair of blue heels that I love but rarely wear because I don’t know how to match them with my outfit unless my shirt/pants are blue. And now I’m eyeing a pair of blue brogues but hesitate to buy them for the same reason. Also, inspired by your website I bought a pair of red pants and a similar bluish-green pair, and I love them! But I don’t know what tops to wear them with apart from black T-shirts

I’ve been super into unlikely color combinations, myself. Color is strange. Like all shades of blues look good together. Hell, blue goes with everything. But mix two oranges and it can look horrible. Sometimes you just have to hold things up against each other and see if it looks good.

Texture is really important to keep in mind. The texture of blue jeans go with EVERYTHING, whereas blue chinos of the exact same color doesn’t. Crazy, huh? And like, brown pants with a black shirt in the same material is a horrendous combination, whereas brown boots and black leggings looks totally baller. Another example: you can die your hair red and wear an orange dress, but put that same red on a sweater with the same dress and people will cry.

Here are some words that might be helpful when starting to think about color:

Neutrals: Color that does not attract attention, like beige, ivory, taupe, black, gray, and white. However, almost all neutrals have an undertone of other colors. Unless they are completely gray with nothing else mixed in. Here are some dark neutrals:

You can see how some are greenish, others purplish.

The easiest way to avoid clashing, is, like you said, to repeat one bright color against an otherwise neutral outfit:

(from: tessetnils.canalblog.com)

You can also use neutrals to offset several bright colors. This preppilicious ensemble combines bright green, blue, and red:

(from scullandoars.tumblr.com)

(from: featherandoar.com)

This is genius: the blazer and tie are neutrals with the sweater’s maroon mixed in. Perfect example of how you can use the undertones in your neutrals to compliment the bright(er) colors.

Complimentary colors: Hues that are opposite from eachother on the color wheel. Purple and yellow can be pretty fun:

(from: diyfatshion.com)

Blue and orange are an excellent choice:

(from menswearstyle.co.uk)

Red and green, however, can be tricky. Because, Christmas. And, just ew. But if it’s an olive green like this that doesn’t scream Christmas, it can look fantastic: 

(from: usgirl.info)

But then, olive/army green is close to being a neutral. That coat would go with anything.

Shades: The same color, just darker or lighter. Check out this genius ensemble. Three different shades of teal. Who would have expected that??

(from waynetippetts.com)

Pastels: Pale and delicate. Most commonly worn in spring. Just think Easter.

(from filippocirulli.tumblr.com)

Jewel Tones: Highly staturated, rich colors, that resemble well-known gemstones. AKA emeralds, amethysts, rubies, topaz and sapphires

YUMMMM (from: aopevents.wordpress.com)

(from: theberry.com)

Jewel tones are notoriuos for looking amazing with brown. Which is why Missy wound up with an entire teal wardrobe (be careful.)

Primaries: Red, Yellow, Blue. The colors with which every other color is made. Think legos, Ashley Yielding.

(from dapperq.com)

Analogous colors: Colors close together on the color wheel that share similar hue and saturation. When placed together, they look very harmonious. No one does it better than Dustin in his oceanic blue and green combo:

(from: closetfreaksblog.com)

Monocromatic: Colors that are the same thoughout. According to Macy’s, it’s in this season. But be careful of overmatching. Sometimes matching too much can look calculated. Unless you’re this dude:

(from: contemporaryartdaily.com Claus Rasmussen at Neue Alte Brücke)

People might try to impose rules on you, but in the end you have to just use your eyes and intuition. The more you think and observe color in the world around you, the better your eyes will become at figuring out what looks good together. Have fun!!

- Sonia


Cislady binding

Anonymous asked: I have been thinking that I might want to experiment with binding, but I’m feeling really confused and new about it. I am a cislady and I dress fairly femme, and I’m not sure how reducing my books would affect the fit/look of my clothes. I also have ABSOLUTELY no idea where to start/how to go about it. And I don’t know how to respond to people asking me about it. basically I just feel really lost.

Can I just say that I <3 you? You summed up the human experience so beautifully in this question. 

Fit of your clothes: If you are wearing cislady clothes, there may be some extra room in the chest area. Some lady clothes are built for larger racks, or meant to enhance the look of them knockers. For others, it doesn’t really matter what your blinkers look like, because it will just hang.

(from: shopbop.com)

This top is totally cute and femme, and would look great on a variety of chest sizes.

Modcloth may as well have called it the “Look at my boobs dress.” Aside from the fact that part of it is see-through, you might be left with some unfilled cups.

I’ve become more comfortable with the idea of wearing lady tops once I started binding, because they now fit in a way I’m comfortable with. I’m less concerned with only buying shirts that hide my chest. I’m confident you will find things that look great if your current collection doesn’t work for you.

Brands and binding safety: I’ve tried a few different brands, and the Underworks Tri-top Chest Binder works the best for me. I’ve heard less awesome things about T-Kingdom, although one reader on Autostraddle wrote, “it was nice to have the velcro when i first started binding because it made it easy to put on and to adjust tightness while i was getting used to binding.” I also recently tried the Buckle Elastic Chest Breast Binder at sohoeva.com and it was kind of a joke. Did nothing for me.

Chestbinders.wordpress.com also has pages of comprehensive binder reviews.

Binders should feel a little too tight when you first try them, and then adjust over the next few days. But if you can’t breath it’s too tight! Ace bandages are dangerous, and you want to make sure to take your binder off at night to give those books some time to breath. If you live in an area where you can find a trans friendly health care provider, you should find one who you feel comfortable talking to about binding. Just google the name of your city + trans friendly health care provider. (You don’t have to be going through a transition to see these doctors. It is just the easiest wording to find what you are looking for on the web.) 

Responding to people about it: Changing the subject, or “I don’t like talking about my undergarments,” seems good to me. But seriously you guise, you never have to say anything. People often think they have a right – especially with women and trans* folk – to talk about their bodies. As if your body is their’s to comment on and approve of. If you want to bind, that’s enough reason to bind. You need no other reason, and you never have to talk to anyone about it. If someone asks you where your headers went, you can tell that that’s an inappropriate question. Like, even if it’s your best friend.

People like to try to understand our gender choices, and their need to understand can make us feel like we shouldn’t do anything we can’t explain. Talking to people you trust is great, but people you trust will accept whatever explanation you want. “I’m binding because I want to,” should be all you have to say in order to get their support.

I’m really proud of you. Embarking on binding for the first time can be totally overwhelming, but just keep looking for ones that fit. Hopefully you have some queers in your community to talk to about it too. You’re gonna be great, kid!

- Sonia

Hay Boston: hairdids and nails today! woooo!! If you still need the address, email me: sonia@qwearfashion.com.


Sweaters Over Collared Shirts: Pro Tips

Anonymous asked: hi, I absolutely adore the classic “sweater over a collared shirt” look- casual-cute yet professional enough to go to work in. However, every time I’ve tried it, it doesn’t work and I just end look looking frumpy, so I’m thinking maybe my sweater/shirts are too big or too cheaply made or something like that. I know it’s a classic layering technique that tons of people of different shapes/sizes pull off all the time, so i know i’m the one doing something wrong. any tips?

(source: intriguemenow.blogspot.com)

A.D. says: 

PRO-TIP: Tuck in your under shirt and collared shirt. Often, the frumpiness is from wrinkled shirt tails or undershirts. Tuck these babies in and you’re on way…

PRO-TIP 2: Fit, fit, fit. Whatever look you’re going for, make sure the fit of whatever you’re wearing conveys it. If you want to look professional and put together, a conservative but tailored-looking outfit will serve you well. If you want butch/dyke, a looser more layered look will convey that. If you want femme, shoot for thinner materials and an even tighter fit, with a few buttons undone.

PRO-TIP 3: Find the best quality sweaters you can. This sounds silly, but sweaters are some of the best investments you can make (even if you buy everything at thrift stores), because they’re so versatile. (Sonia interjects: It’s so true. I got these sweaters from H&M that kinda stretched out and make me feel frumpy. They just don’t fit that great. The ones I own that I spent $10 more for are wayy nicer!)

PRO-TIP 4: Pair the sweater/collared shirt combo with a blazer or jean jacket to round out the outfit. You’ll look like swag city. Trust me.

Related posts: Casual Ways to Layer Button-ups

anonymous asked:

Is there a Grown And Sexy way to wear undershirts as shirts? Or is there something else that has the same in-your-face vibe (and torso-lengthening power!) that doesn't look like pajamas?

A.D. says: Ladies, gents, and homoqueers, I present you with Everlane. (Qwear has blogged about them before, because they’re awesome.) These are the best shirts in the entire world, and no one will mistake them for undershirts. They’re constructed in such a way (high quality materials, design, and production) that they hang and fit beautifully; and, they’re made right here in the USA, so you know you’re not contributing to dangerous clothing makers elsewhere in the world.  


The Men’s Crew in Mediterranean, at Everlane for $15

Ironing with A.D.

Anonymous asked: My biggest barrier to awesome style by far is ironing! Most of the clothing styles you show seem like they need to look crisp and ironed to look good. I am more likely to iron wrinkles in than out. And oh that thing where you iron the crease down the front of the pants? Mine always end up off center! I can wear dress shirts/pants once - the first time they come home from the store – and after that it’s a disaster. Any tips on ironing / how I can learn how to iron well?!

(source: knitly.com)

A.D. says: Alright, alright. If you have never ironed before in your life, see these Ironing Tips For Bachelors instructions. (My tips don’t include things like how to not burn yourself.) Wrinkle-free clothes are the way to end up with wrinkled clothes, if ya know what I’m saying, wink! wink!… I digress. A few things to know before we get started:

1. First look at the fabric. Cotton and linen can withstand high heat, but polyester, silk, etc., can’t. It’s hella-easy to ruin clothes if you iron on a high temperature. Most irons have settings for different fabrics. If there is no fabric setting, here is a helpful temperature guide.
2. Some textured fabrics, like corduroy, need to get ironed on the wrong side. Otherwise it could ruin the texture. 
3. It’s best to iron when a shirt is still a little bit damp, because it’s easier to reshape.
4. If your clothes have a stain, don’t iron over the stain. It could permanently set it in.

OK Let’s go:

Lay pants flat on board, seams parallel to the board. Iron ‘til mostly wrinkle-free.
Line up the seams of the fabric. Crease pants. Iron front of pants to create crease. DONEZO.

Sleeves: Un-button shirt and cuffs. Grab the ends of of the sleeve (where seam of sleeve meets shirt and where seam meets cuff) pull taut, and place on the board. Iron to create a crease. (You may have to iron the back side, and then the front side again.) Repeat for other sleeve.

Place right side of shirt over the sleeve of the board (Women’s: holes; Men’s: buttons). Iron from collar to bottom, from the middle outwards. Once a “section” looks good, rotate shirt around, until you’re at the other side. Make sure the bottom hem is ironed well and not rolling up. Iron the side with button-holes extra-well, since that’s the first thing most people will see. Move the tip of the iron around the buttons. Just make sure to iron in the seams and pleats as they were meant to be.

Open up the collar and iron flat.

Upper back of shirt:
Square this section with the ironing board.

1. Dry cleaning is really bad. It literally removes a layer of your clothes. Try not to take anything to the dry cleaners unless you must.
2. When you’re done ironing your shirt, hang it to cool (OR, if you’re hella-OCD about wrinkles, place it on a flat surface). This will give your shirt time to cool down and “set.”
3. Use the water-sprayer like it’s going out of style. The sprayer helps get the wrinkles out, and preserves your clothes from the crazy-hot iron.
4. Keep the drier half-full at all times to give clothes room to move around and avoid extra wrinkling.

Qweary: Cardigans Over Suit Vests

bgnarly3 asked: "I just bought a tweed vest/waistcoat and was wondering if I can layer it with a cardigan over it? Or would a different sweater look better?“

A.D. says: The cardigan-vest combo is amazing!


1. Tweed vests are statement pieces, so center your outfit on that piece, and make sure everything else compliments it.

(from: dressedtoill.com)

2. If you’re wearing a tweed waistcoat (vest), do it up with your tie and socks, but keep it simple with your shirt and cardigan.

3. Make sure your cardigan is well-proportioned with the rest of your outfit. I love a slouchy cardigan on lazy Saturdays, but be sure to pull out a well-fitted cardigan to compliment the structure of the vest.

Ask Qwear

anonymous asked:

I'm a butch-leaning gay lady who dresses more femininely than I'd like. I secretly dream of wearing "men's" clothes, but I've got two things in the way (at least in my head): long, curly hair and boobs. I just feel like all the sharp-dressed butches out there have short hair and small chests. What advice do you have for getting over this mental hump so I can dress the way I really want?

You’ve already acknowledged that you have a mental hump and had the courage to write in. These are huge strides!

I mean, it’s scary, man. But it feels amazing. Firstly: You can be butch with long, curly hair and boobs. You can be whatever you want. So don’t feel like you have to dress like the other sharply dressed butches to be butch. But you can take inspiration from them if their presentation resonates with you!

Check out A.D.’s hair for short curly ideas. They get a new cut every 3 weeks! 

If you like your chest and just want to wear more masculine items, check out the brands Blake recommends for large chests. Here are some additional tailoring tips.

If you DON’T like your chest and would prefer for it to be smaller or non-existant, check out these flattening sports bras and binding tips

Note: If you feel that you like your boobies some days more than others, that is completely normal. If you try flattening them and then decide it’s not for you, that’s also completely normal. Also check out Genderqueer Fashionista for more bra tips and gender fluid goodness.

Saturate your eyes with body positive and queer positive images to block out all the previous ideas about how you’re supposed to dress! Aside from Qwear (duhh) and the blogs I’ve already mentioned, check out dapperQ, Blake’s Tumblr, Butches Leaning On Things, Jack Tar 207, Bklynboihood, Queerbois, and whatever else people leave in the comments!

If you’re still having some issues moving forward, try asking yourself what will happen if you dress the way you want. This can help you problem solve and calm your anxieties. What will you gain? What will you lose? (Thanks, Missy) All these things are worth looking at.

Good luck, friend!

- Sonny

Mixing Mens and Womens Pieces

Anonymous asked: Hi there! So I just started dressing a tad bit more masculine and I’m finding out that I enjoy it. However, I still want to wear a lot of my more feminine pieces. Any clue on how I can seamlessly blend my new masculine interest with my old feminine clothes and accessories?

I’ve been trying to come up with a rule for gendered clothing mixing, but I can only think of things that would look awesome. Mens belts with girls jeans. Mens polo shirts with womens jeans and heels. Frilly blouse with mens suit. Wrap around shawl over guys pants. Boy shirt over a dress. 

Messing around with gendered pieces is the BEST. Have fun! Post more pictures in the comments, my friends.

Sources: www.audrey-tautou.rublushingambition.blogspot.comshorthaircutswomen.comannalynnreilly.blogspot.comthisfits.me

Related Posts: Peter Pan Collars, bow ties, and beretsMiss Hootie Baby Brings Chic to ArkansasLindsie: Femme with Lesbian Flair

The Semi-Formal Tuxedo Shirt

Anonymous asked: how can you rock a tuxedo shirt?? semi formal events included.

A.D. says: Nothing gets me more excited than the ruffles on a tuxedo shirt. (They take me back to high school orchestra. Anyone, anyone? OK, moving right along…) We all know that anyone can rock a tuxedo shirt in a tuxedo, but can you rock one without shiny shoes and a cumber bun? 

Like most of my answers on this blog, you can do anything! But here’s the trick: wearing a tuxedo shirt without a tuxedo is bucking tradition, so go ‘head, and wear those sneakers, roll up the sleeves, and don’t wash your hair.

(From franciscolachowskifiles.comSorry A.D., When I found this picture of my internet boy crush, I had to add it. - Sonia)

Here are three ideas for rocking a tuxedo shirt:

Tuxedo Set 1 by qwear featuring dsquared

Jeans + Vest + Tuxedo Shirt + Ascot + Chuck Taylor’s (I’m thinking high brow/low brow w/ sass.)Tuxedo Set 2 by qwear featuring tux shirts

Khakis + Braces + Oxfords or Boots + Tuxedo shirt + undone bow tie.

Tuxedo Set 3 by qwear featuring theory blazer

Slacks + tuxedo shirt + blazer + wingtips + top-button swag + sleeves rolled up + bracelets.


Qweary: Gender Dysphoria

Anonymous asked: “I’m 14 and I’ve decided to do a fashion overhaul. I’ve been out as a bisexual for 2 years now, and tomorrow I’m finally cutting my hair, Miley style. I’m wearing increasingly androgynous clothing, but it’s difficult with DD’s and an hourglass body. I’m struggling with being appealing to both sexes while being true to my gender identity. I’m worried about binding at this young an age, so do you have any tips for dysphoria? How do I settle on a gender identity? I guess I’m just frustrated/confused”

Sonny says: This question came in a while ago, but congrats on cutting your hair! In terms of being appealing to all genders, the most appealing thing will be you doing you, however that is. If you are just your beautiful self, people of all genders will be falling all over you. Ignore any other messages telling you how to have to dress in order to attract a certain type of person - those are limiting and inaccurate.

Do you have any tips for dysphoria? oh boi, I hear you. I’m not sure if anyone told you that binding at a young age is unhealthy, but I’m a firm believer that mental health should come first. If you do decide to bind, here is Qwear’s binding 101. Key points being that you should be able to breath in your binder, and to take it off at night. Other tips are to surround yourself with supportive friends and other people who get what you’re going through and don’t make you explain yourself.

Getting involved with a physical activity you really enjoy also makes a huge difference for me. Whenever I’m being active I become more aware of my bones and muscles - my internal parts that make us all the same - and it gives me a little relief from my gender dysphoria. DapperQ wrote an awesome piece recently about working out called Our Bodies, Our Swag.

How do I settle on a gender identity? Discovering our gender identity is a process that for some people, can last their whole lives. Others find something that fits pretty quickly. Don’t worry too much about labels, but instead just find the things that will make you happy. You’ll settle into whatever identity feels right for you. Sometimes there aren’t words to describe exactly the way we’re feeling, but that’s kind of a beautiful thing. (Beyond genderqueer, I personally don’t have a word for what I am, other than ‘Sonny.’ It’s been working pretty well for me!)

You’re frustrated/confused? Join the club! Everyone at your age feels this way, but with gender identity thrown in the mix, it can feel totally overwhelming. Just know that your feelings are natural and try to find people who are going through the same thing. I have no idea what the climate is like where you live, but if you are in high school, join a club and hang out with other queers. Sometimes there are GSA’s, and other times there are secret GSAs like rugby and roller derby. So find where the queers are and go to them, my friend!

Finally, the questioner didn’t really ask about this, but for many people with gender dysphoria, changing in locker rooms can be a total nightmare. Especially if you start binding and don’t want people to see it. So if this is an issue, I want to let you know that it might be helpful to go to your school guidance counselor and work out a private place to change. If you need additional help and are in the US, check out this “Know Your Rights” info by the ACLU.

Congrats on already being far along the path to being yourself, and thanks for writing to Qwear!

The Casual Blazer

Anonymous asked: I’ve been wanting to incorporate blazers into my wardrobe, but I’m just not sure how to and I want to be able to on an everyday setting. Any tips? Thanks :)

I mean, we can always reread the article I wrote for Diva about blazers. They can pretty much go with anything; all kinds of T-shirts, polos, dresses, hoodies, blouses, jeans. Here is some blazered outfit inspiration:

(source: global-couture.tumblr.com)

(source: labelleza.ru)

(source: closeupandprivate.com)

(source: guerreisms.com)

(source: blackfashion.tumblr.com)

(source: iamgalla.com)

(source: carolinesmode.com)

It can be really fun to put them over printed Tees like this and step up the outfit. (source: aliexpress.com)

Lesbro Lessons: How to Wear Snapbacks Without Looking Like a Tool

(from this post)

Anonymous asked: What do you think about snapbacks? Tips on wearing them without looking douchey?

A.D. says: Wearing a snap-back requires a few things, including swagger and a slight smirk. Both can lead to douchey-ness, BUT you can totally rock a snapback without looking like an asshole. You just gotta strike the right balance. Snapbacks, for starters, should be paired with something other than shorts and a tank top. I think snapbacks go with most outfits, even a blazer and tie (but, like, outside the office, obvi). In a snapback, avoid the ‘I’m so cool’ face, in which you never smile, have your earphones in, and look miserable. You will look like an asshole; instead, SMILE. 

That’s it.

(from: www.isaaclikes.com)

(from: theampalcreative.com)

Related posts: Hat Do’s and Do’s