When you call someone oversensitive (as has happened to me about a million times since this blog’s inception two days ago) you are telling them two things
1. I did nothing wrong
When you call someone oversensitive, you are telling them you did nothing wrong. Whatever it was you did that offended them was not actually offensive.
2. Your feelings are wrong
You are telling the other person that how they feel is wrong, that their emotions are invalid. You are telling them that they are the one at fault, that it’s their fault for feeling how they feel.
However, no one is ever wrong for how they feel, even if you disagree with it.
ALL FEELINGS ARE VALID
You are shifting the blame off of yourself, and putting it on the person you offended. You are absolving yourself of any wrongdoing (whether or not you actually did something wrong), and telling someone who is already upset that they are wrong for being upset.
Don’t call people oversensitive. It’s dismissive and demeaning.