One of the things I’ve learnt in all the years dealing with half naked females, is that us women are rarely happy about the way we look.
No matter what there is always something that make us feel inadequate. We are not thin enough or curvy enough, we’re not tall, we hate our thighs, our arms, the shape of our nose or the way that pinkie toe sticks out on the outside. There is always something..
Most times these “problem areas” are really only obvious to us.
I am always surprised to hear some of my clients and friends - beautiful, stunning women, talking about how much they hate their bodies and the extends they go to to hide those problem areas.
When they come and see me for personal lingerie fittings, I often ask them to do a little exercise before we even try any garments on.
I ask them to list the things they don’t like about their body on a piece of paper. Most times I have to tell them to stop, as they keep writing with gusto, it seems like that list could go on forever!
Then I ask them to grab that piece of paper and rip it into pieces, violently, with passion, as if they would never want to see it again in their whole life.
The next step is not as easy.. I demand they write on a new sheet the things they love about themselves.. And they need to write at least three things.
When they finally produced their list, I tell them: Ok, from now on we’re going to focus on these points only!
I can see that they’re not happy. They’re here to see me because they want me to tell them how to camouflage their hips while still looking sexy. And I will.
But I use a different approach. I really want them to learn to love themselves. Fall in love with their womanliness, day after day. Respect and nurture their body, rather than fighting it.
Sounds easy? Actually it’s not.
But what do you think it happens if all the time we talk about your “problem areas”? You will always think about those.. when you dress (or undress), all you will be conscious about will be hiding your hips, or tummy or thighs or whatever bit you’re not too confident about.
What if instead of focusing on the things we cannot change, we decide to focus on the things we love about ourselves first? I think that’s a much better approach. Don’t you?
Today I want to share with you some of my personal favourite bloggers.
These women are curvy, voluptuous, full of life and a true inspiration!
Their confidence is powerful. The way they’ve come to love and embrace their body and their womanliness transpires in every photo they take, every line they write.
And let me tell you, this is what I call sexy!
Katya Zharkova (Russia)
First plus size top model in her country.
She says: “When you look at yourself in the mirror and you’re unhappy with what you see: it’s not you. It’s the dress that doesn’t do you justice.”
She feels perfect in her own skin and she believes beauty is a result of by positive thinking, eating well and appreciating the people around you. “Beauty is created when you love yourself.”
Georgina Horne (UK)
Her mission is to share bra fitting tips and find beautiful lingerie for women of all shapes and sizes.
She says: “When I hear or read tips like “curvy girls should wear dark colours to achieve a slimmer silhouette, I think :maybe there are women who are not interested in that at all. Looking slimmer is not an achievement. When you love what you wear and you create your own unique look - that’s an achievement!”
Marie Denee (USA)
Her nickname is Kumbaya, from the spiritual song for the 1930s that symbolises unity, closeness and compassion.
Determined to show the fashion world that plus size women CAN don the latest and greatest of trends.
Tanesha Awasthi (USA)
This blog is a top source of style inspiration for the curvy community.
She confesses that she’s finally come to embrace her body after years of eating disorders, and she’s never been happier.
Edith Dohmen (Holland)
She believes inbetweenies, women wearing ‘in between sizes’ - size 40-48 EU/10-18 US/12-20 UK - are a forgotten group.
Her mission is put these women into the spotlight.
I couldn’t agree more with her when she says: “Looking good and being stylish has NOTHING to do with size!”
And I would like to leave you today with my own personal own motto, which is:
Love yourself. Love being a woman. Dare to be noticed.
Have a fabulous week,
*These bloggers have been interviewed and featured on Marie Claire Italia. All images have been sourced from MarieClaire.it