FAQ #3: I'd never have an abortion. Can I be pro-choice?
The very definition of pro-choice means that you support the three options available when pregnant: parenting, adopting or aborting. There is nothing in the term that would suggest that you, personally, must choose abortion. If you support the right of every person who can get pregnant to have access to a safe and legal abortion, then you’re pro-choice. Your personal choices in life have zero bearing on that.
However, this question is often loaded with a problematic side. Many people frame this question like, “Well, I’d never do it, but I support it.” It just makes it sound like abortion is still something shameful and wrong that you wouldn’t personally partake in, but feel like it should be an option for people with lesser morals than you. I personally used to think the same way, until I realised one day that I really can’t say that I know for sure what I would or wouldn’t do until faced with the situation of an unplanned pregnancy myself. I can’t predict what my mental, physical, financial, or emotional state would be at that time.
Even if you do for sure know that abortion isn’t ever going to be the right choice for you, just bite your tongue on that little bit when you say that you’re pro-choice. It really does sound like you’re judging those who choose it and that you consider yourself morally superior to them. Abortion isn’t anything to be ashamed of, and pro-choice people are the last people who need to be furthering the stigma against it.