anonymous said:

I really don't think abortion is a good excuse for the lack of care that someone had. Except in cases of rape. But aside from that, there are so many ways to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. Why does a little soul must be punished for lack of oversight of its generators? If you don't want the baby, there's adoption, I think it causes far less suffering than abort, because there are people who really are willing to love this new being. Don't you think? Didn't mean to be rude before or now.


First off, you can be using three forms of protection, and still have an unplanned pregnancy. Birth control is not flawless. It helps, of course, but no matter how responsible someone is being, they can find themselves with an unwanted pregnancy. 

"Well if you choose to have sex you have to be responsible for and accept the possibility you might get pregnant and have a baby. You shouldn’t have sex if you don’t want a child!"

Whether someone gets pregnant when theyre on three forms of birth control or gets pregnant from completely unprotected sex, repeat after me:
Children are not a punishment for sex.

Children are not a punishment for sex.


Pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting are not punishments for sex!!!

We don’t deny smokers cancer treatment because they accepted the risk by smoking, we don’t deny people who got in car accidents medical attention because they took the risk by driving, hell, we don’t even deny criminals who shoot others, and OD on drugs medical attention, so we sure as hell can’t deny a pregnant person medical attention because they took the risk by having sex.

Adoption is a great option, but it only solves the problem of not wanting/being able to parent a child. Not the problem of being pregnant.

Pro-lifers seem to forget that pregnancy and childbirth itself, even if adoption follows, can ruin a person’s life, and is extremely transformative, be it in a positive or negative way. You are never going to be the same once going through that. It changes your body, your hormones, your emotions. Many people experience crippling sickness and complications, causing them to lose their job, lose their home, have to drop out of school, etcetera. Prenatal care is not cheap. Mothers who fall pregnant may struggle to feed their already living breathing feeling children and lower their quality of life if forced to carry a fetus they don’t have the means to provide for or deal with. 

And it all comes down to the fact that people cannot and should not be made to sacrifice their bodies for a pregnancy they do not want, for whatever reason they do not want or can not have it. We have an awesome thing called bodily autonomy. Meaning nobody can use our bodies without our consent. Even when we are DEAD. If you and I got in a car crash, and I died, and you desperately needed one of my organs to survive, you STILL couldn’t take that organ, even though it is of no use to me, to save your own life, unless I had consented when I was alive to be an organ donor. Therefore, claiming that a fetus has a right to use a pregnant person’s body for 9-10 months, has the right to take over all the pregnant person’s organs and body chemistry, has the right to change their body forever, not only does it give a fetus more rights than anyone else in the world, it also gives the pregnant person less rights than a dead body.

There is also a major flaw in your argument, which is “Except in cases of rape,” because in that statement, you are proving that it really isn’t about the fetus. If you truly believed that fetuses had rights, were sentient souls deserving of a chance at being born, it wouldn’t matter whether they were conceived through rape or not, would it? Fetuses that result from rape and fetuses that result from loving relationships are biologically the same, so why does one deserve rights in your opinion, and the other not? Perhaps you have internalized misogyny which causes you to believe that females deserve to be punished with unwanted pregnancies because they had sex.

I am pro-choice because I am pro-pregnant person. I am on the side of the living, breathing, loving, crying, feeling, struggling people who find themselves carrying a pregnancy when it is not convenient, and I am pro-giving them the option to protect themselves, their jobs, their goals, their bodies, and their pre-existing families, by supporting their access to a safe and legal abortion with no judgement. 


We’ve been protesting all spring and summer, and we won’t give up.  People across Canada have shown their support for the pro-choice movement in NB and PEI, and together we will ensure that everyone has equal access to reproductive healthcare services.

There may be a rally in your city on Saturday! Come out and raise your voice! Show us your signs! Demand abortion access and reproductive justice!

Thank you everyone for your continued support.

#NBProchoice #ProchoixNB

Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason.
Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason.
Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason.
Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason.
Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason.

Today i had a very interesting thing happen. 

First, some pretext:

I work in an abortion clinic. It is my job to accompany the patient from beginning to end making sure they have the information they need to make an informed decision about their procedure. I test their blood, I dot the Is and cross the Ts and i do it all while doing my best to be cheerful and polite so their day might be a little easier. I do a very good job. I am excellent at patient care. I am informative, knowledgeable and kind.

Today, I spent part of my day with a pro-life woman who was visiting the clinic for an abortion. She was nice and polite but i could tell she was torn and defensive about her decision. It is not my job to judge people or why they have abortions. Personally, i don’t care if you have a dozen abortions in two years so long as it’s your choice.

Part of the conversation that i have with her is one on one making sure she has a support system in place, that she is firm and clear in her decision and that she has the resources she needs including counseling referrals, contraception, and emergency phone numbers. 

Part of this conversation is also important to make sure that she has not been forced to have an abortion. It is called a consent conversation. 

I asked her “Tell me a little about what brought you to your decision today.”

To which she responded “Well, i don’t personally believe in abortion but i think my situation is special. I have been sick to my stomach for weeks. I can’t eat or drink and i can’t take care of my other child.” 

Now, i really really wanted to be snarky about this. Instead I said “Well, i’m glad that you made your decision today and had the chance to consider all the options. It’s really fortunate that we live in a state where you have the opportunity to make this decision. Not all women in this country are that lucky.”

That’s when i saw the light switch on. I sat and watched as her perspective changed right in front of my face. What i think this person was lacking was the understanding that not everyone has the same experience or personal life. This woman, who later told me that she has been staunchly pro-life all her life, was finally considering the other side of the argument. That not all people live the life she does. She was pro-life till she was faced with a difficult and dangerous pregnancy, a son whom she could not take care of and a precarious financial situation that could not bear the weight of another child.

I saw someone transform from a person who had never considered why women get abortions to a person who understands why abortion access is so important.

THIS is why i do this work. I changed a life today. Not because i convinced her to have an abortion. Not because i tortured or forced her to change her mind. Because I shined the light on hundreds of thousands of women who choose to have an abortion every year, each of whom has a different story, different reason and different experience.

This is the culture of choice, folks. You can be personally opposed to abortion and never choose to have one. There is nothing wrong with that. But the second you shame or belittle someone who has chosen to plan for their personal or their families future by having an abortion you step into the realm of hatefulness and oppression.

If you don’t personally support abortion but you don’t care about what other do when it comes to that subject:

You’re pro choice. 

Saturday Chores #1, March 8, 2014

This was our very first counter-protest. It happened on a bit of a whim. There’s no big box hardware store very close to where we live, so Grayson and I were driving toward a suburb of Raleigh called Cary, which runs over with strip malls. I had gotten a gift card to Home Depot for my birthday, and we decided to get supplies for a garden box. We passed the clinic on the way.

Grayson and I both grew up not too far away, and we’ve seen the clinic in question hundreds of times. But for some reason, on this morning in particular, the protestors got under our skin a little more than normal. Grayson suggested that we make a sign that said “Weird Hobby” and point at one of the protestors. We tried to buy poster board at Home Depot, but they don’t carry it. As we were leaving, I ripped a vinyl sale sign off of a display and took a Sharpie to it. We posted the results to Instagram and Facebook, and people flipped. 

So, we vowed to continue our Saturday Chores. 

"Fetuses have rights, too!"

In order to have rights - that pertain to US laws - you have to be a citizen of the US. 

To be a US citizen you either:

  • have to be born in the US
  • born to US citizens (if born abroad)
  • pass a citizenship test.  

Fetuses are the “pre-born.”

So, nope, fetuses do not have any rights in the US. :)


I have very tenuously tied my discussion of the Hobby Lobby decision to the theme of this blog through the clever use of Doctor Who gifs, so thank you to all of my followers for putting up with me for the past few days. This will (probably) be my last post about the case, but I just had to respond to two arguments that I’ve seen cropping up again and again in response to my posts. 

Myth #1: Employers were being forced to pay for contraception, and people should pay for it themselves.

Let me show you how health insurance benefits work. 

Let’s say a company has $100 dollars which they will use to compensate their employee in various ways. They’ll give $50 directly to the employee in cold, hard cash, $10 will go into a retirement or savings account, and $40 will go towards health insurance benefits (These numbers are made up to illustrate a point, so just work with me for a minute). It’s all part of an employee’s compensation. Employer provided healthcare is very common in the United States because consumers can usually get cheaper healthcare when they go into together in large groups, and so employers often group all of their employees together in a group, purchase a healthcare plan, and use the size of their group to negotiate better rates.

People use their health insurance benefits in many different ways. Some people need allergy medication, some people need hip-replacement surgery, and some people need insulin. The health insurance plans handle all of those individual transactions. But now, thanks to Hobby Lobby, closely held corporations can say, “Actually, we don’t want the insurer to provide these forms of birth control. So don’t pay for them.”

Sure, the employee has $50 in cold hard cash, but that cash is already being used to pay for rent, food, clothes, and health care (because you still have to pay a co-pay out of pocket for a lot of care). Many people simply can’t afford to buy that birth control out-of-pocket (that stuff is EXPENSIVE).

They were promised a health plan worth about 40% of their total compensation that would provide for their medical needs, including birth control. But those companies aren’t providing their employees with birth control or an extra bonus in cash now that they won’t provide those methods of birth control. Therefore, their employees are being unfairly denied their compensation.

This is not a person of faith being forced to pay for birth control. This is a company providing compensation to an employee, and the employee choosing to spend that compensation on their medical needs. If a company isn’t allowed to determine how I spend my paycheck, it shouldn’t be allowed to determine how I use my health insurance.

Myth #2: This decision only impacted a few forms of birth control. It’s not a big deal.

Nope, nope, nope. The Supreme Court didn’t just say that excluding those forms of birth control was okay. They established a legal precedent which could have devastating long term consequences.

First of all, this won’t just affect Hobby Lobby. 90% of all corporations in the U.S. are “closely held,” and they employ about 52% of the American workforce. Millions of Americans could be denied the birth control they need.

And we’re not just talking about a few forms of birth control. The Supreme Court has ordered several appeals courts to review cases in which employers object to all forms of birth control using the Hobby Lobby decision. Their legal precedent may allow some companies to refuse to provide all forms of birth control to their employees. 

Furthermore, this decision could affect a myriad of things beyond birth control. The decision specifically says that their reasoning wouldn’t apply to things like blood transfusions and vaccinations, which some religious individuals oppose, but gave no particular reason why not. A future court could decide this distinction is arbitrary and allow employers to refuse to provide these services too.

The court also said this decision wouldn’t necessarily allow employers to discriminate against employees based on race, but what about sexual orientation or gender identity? The Hobby Lobby decision could provide the legal justification for 90% of corporations employing 52% of the workforce to request an exemption from non-discrimination protections by claiming those protections are against their religious beliefs. 

I agree with Justice Ginsburg, the majority decision stepped into a legal minefield.