Lindy is 12 weeks today and if you ask Ashtyn - they both have something in their belly (she gets really defensive if you tell her otherwise).

Lindy’s nausea continues, but we’re hoping it fades as she goes back to work for the start of the school year.

In a few weeks we will know the sex :)


This is Tim, owner of Tim’s Place. He has Down Syndrome, but he’s not sad or suffering. He’s happy and loving, and he shares that love with everyone he meets through his restaurant, where he says the hugs are more important than the food. 

Richard Dawkins said yesterday on Twitter that, if you have the choice, bringing people like Tim into the world is immoral. He recommends having preborn babies who might end up like Tim ripped apart in the womb or given a heart-attack-inducing drug. That’s the moral and civilized thing to do, he says. 

The twitter user who had originally asked him what he thought then continued to ask whether people with Autism should be aborted before birth if the mother knows while she’s still pregnant. He says that people with Autism have a lot to contribute, while people like Tim don’t.

So apparently, your contribution to society is what makes you valuable. Or is it your emotions

Dawkins was quick to cover his tracks, insisting that he didn’t wish that anyone currently living with DS had been aborted. 

But his comments still stand. He hasn’t backed down from what he thinks “the right thing to do” after a prenatal DS diagnosis is. In Dawkins’ view, it’s immoral to bring someone like Tim into the world. Despite the fact that our ability to care for people with DS has greatly increased over the last few decades and people with DS now have a much greater quality of life, it’s apparently immoral for their mothers not to kill them in the womb.

If Dawkins had his way, we’d be facing a future without people like Tim. I don’t want that. Do you?

anonymous said:

there's no easy way to put this, i have issues going to the bathroom. i only ever poop about twice a week, sometimes less. lately ive been considering having a baby in the future and i want to know what i might expect in terms of the bathroom.

It sounds like you need some fiber in your diet!!

You folks ready to talk about poop?

During pregnancy, most people sort of cycle between total constipation and total diarrhea.  Expect constipation.  Progesterone is a great hormone for pregnancy because it relaxes smooth muscle (the type of muscle the uterus is made out of) so that it doesn’t contract and expel the pregnancy.  Good thing, right?  But guess what else is smooth muscle?  Your bowel.  So when high levels of progesterone relax your bowel, it doesn’t have the same oomph behind it to poop it out.  You’ll be sitting on the pot, straining and feeling bloated, and all you’ll do is give yourself hemorrhoids.  So what should you do about that?  I really suggest trying to get your poop schedule a little more frequent to begin with, at least so that you can figure out what does and does not work for your body in case you get constipated when you are pregnant.

Start with:

  • Drink at least 8 glasses of water a day.  You need fluid to keep your poop flexible and moist enough not to either hurt you or just get stuck.
  • Eat at least 6 fruits or vegetables a day.  Let’s imagine that scenario: banana with breakfast, peach midmorning for a snack, apple at lunch, 2 carrots at lunch, side salad and a serving of kale with dinner.  Easy!
  • Switch all your carbohydrates from simple, white carbs to complex carbs.  For example: no more white bread.  Switch to multi grain.  Eat high fiber breakfast cereals (they’ll say if they are on the box).  Try whole grain spaghetti.
  • Add legumes to your diet - that means more black beans, more kidney beans, lima beans, lentils.  They are so high in fiber. You’ll be wowed.
  • Switch from fruit juice to fruit.  
  • Add nuts and seeds to your diet.  For example, walnuts in a salad, or sunflower seeds for a snack.  Remember, though, nuts and seeds are also quite high in fat, so maybe keep the portion size small here if that’s concerning to you.

Ok, so you’ve done that, but you’re still not pooping the way you want to.  Let’s kick it up a notch:

  • Make yourself green breakfast smoothies.  The taste is going to take a little getting used to, and it can be expensive to buy so many fresh fruits and veggies, but the impact on your poop is pretty impressive.  A smoothie recipe, for example, might include: 2 cups of spinach, 2 cups water, 1 cup pineapple, 1 cup mango, and 2 bananas.  Pop them in a blender and WOW.  Delicious.  Or try: 
    • 2 cups kale and dandelion greens, fresh
    • 2 cups orange juice, fresh squeezed
    • 2 cups strawberries
    • 2 kiwi
    • 1 bananas
    • 1 lemon, squeezed
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  • Still not pooping enough?  Try adding in fiber supplements like Metamucil, Benfiber, Fibercon, etc. Find instructions for that here.

Important note: a sudden increase in fiber in your diet can cause you to have stomach aches, lots of gas, and feel bloated.  Increase your fiber slowly by starting with the simpler methods listed above, and give everything a week or so to show its effects before moving on to the next intervention.

So how much should you poop?  Everyone has a number of poops per day or per week that’s normal for them - each gut is slightly different.  The very basics, though, are that you should poop at least 3 times a week, and between 1-3 times a day.  

Good luck deciding to parent!!

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The Colemans Talk Baby Making/Having by TheShadyColemans

An anon recommended this channel for us, and we’re glad they did! This is an excellent youtube channel by a gay couple (one trans, one cis) about their relationship and experience becoming parents. 

Today’s conversation…

Student (female): Is it a boy or a girl?
Me: Is what a boy or a girl?
Student: Your child.
Me: Oh, I don’t have kids.
Student: But… you’re pregnant.
Me: I am?!
Student: (looks uncomfortable, waits, stares)
Me: (walks away)


So….the only “hate” people can come up with for me include:

- OMG you’re fat. (ouch, that SO hurts my feelings, ha. Considering I’m pregnant and gaining the necessary weight for my son to be healthy, I really don’t give a shit.)

- Ew, your fiancé is old and it creeps me out. (Also does not phase me. Since when have I cared what outsiders think of my romantic or sexual lives? I didn’t care when I dated a woman and it freaked out my conservative friends, and I don’t care now that I’m with the most amazing person I’ve ever met. He makes me happy, and your comfort means nothing to me.)

- Wow, you used to be an addict omg drugs. (Yeah, this one actually makes me feel PROUD because to overcome something of that magnitude takes strength and determination and I beat it.)

That’s it? Well, damn. I’m flattered. I must be pretty fucking awesome if that’s all you can come up with. Thank you!

It irks me when people tell me I will be begging for the drugs when I’m in labor. Like, I tell them I’m giving birth at a birthing center with a midwife and no drugs (provided everything goes normally, of course), and they start in with that! My own family! Why doesn’t anyone think I can do this? I think I can do this. This is the birth experience I want for myself and my son. I know it’s going to be painful, but I think the pain is meant to be part of the process. 

Just like…damn. Believe in me a little, won’t you?