(( Over the last year, I have had a lot of eye opening experiences and personal conflicts that I’ve had to deal with, some self inflicted and others inflicted upon me, and I’d like to, for a moment, address a few observations I’ve had, and a few lessons learned.
It is amazing to me that someone can receive countless positive and uplifting compliments, and yet the second another human being throws a negative or degrading comment in their direction, all of the positivity vanishes. All of the confidence flies away.
Why spend your life and energy paying heed to the negative, when it will literally do nothing for you? Dragging yourself down will not help you progress in life. It will not lead you to better things, it will limit you. It is nothing but fear. Fear that you will not fit in, fear of what others will say, fear that you can’t achieve something, fear that you are not good enough, fear that you will fail. No one can tear you down but you. Words are nothing but words, it’s you that puts the power in those words.
Why spend your time and energy putting out negativity, dragging others down, when it will literally lead to nothing. If you have felt agony, if you have dealt with any form of unwarranted cruelty, why would you carry on the acts that have hurt you so much, knowing the pain it causes? You will not have improved your situation… you will not have improved the lives of others. You will not feel better. You do not have to follow in the footsteps of your tormentors. You can do what others didn’t do for you, you can rise above the circumstances of your situation and become better.
Why not spend your precious time here, in this life that we’re all living together, loving and accepting others, no matter their background, their culture, their faith, their lack of faith, their preferences, their looks, their anything.
Why not look at each individual as just that, an individual. Do not categorize, do not judge, do not force yourself or others to fit into the stereotypes society has set, because no one can fit into another person’s mold.
You are unique. No one is like you. No one understands you the way you do, and no one should have the power to make you feel like less then you are, which is incredible.
And if no one has the right to do that to you, you do not have the right to do that to anyone else. Do not say hateful things, do not respond to hate with cruelty or anger, do not let insecurities cause you to hurt those around you. Do not tear others down for a cause, even a just cause, when you can lift everyone up instead.
No one knows, truly, what the people around us are going through. No one can truly empathize with another person, because everyone has varying life experiences under their belts, and everyone views the world differently. No one can empathize, but we can sympathize. We can relate, we can find common ground, we can help each other.
I am not a religious person, but I believe in basic human decency, and I also believe that in spite of all the negativity that is present in our society, all of the fighting and politics and pessimism in our media and images, all of the crimes and internal conflicts amongst families and friends… in spite of all of that… most people are good, wonderful people. If we just took time to strip away our judgments and fear, we might be able to see the good in the world around us.
Listen when people compliment you. Don’t shrug it off and throw it aside. Say thank you. Take it in, see yourself through someone else’s eyes. Negativity is a habit, so is positivity, and you can fall into the same degrading patterns, or you can lift yourself out of it.
Wake up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror, find all the things you love about yourself, and repeat it over and over again. Throw everything else aside, don’t listen to any of the nagging voices trying to drag you down. They don’t matter.
Tell the people around you how amazing they are. Tell them how talented, beautiful, and meaningful they are, because everyone matters. Everyone is important. Everyone has a purpose.
We all have our own struggles and realities, and if more people spent time helping themselves and the people around them create a positive and loving reality, we would be limitless. ))