20 HABITS OF HAPPY PEOPLE YOU SHOULD ADOPT THIS YEAR
1. Forgive more.
The Buddha once said,
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.
Remember everyone is fighting their own battle, and everyone is trying their best. Learn to forgive other people and set yourself free.
2. Meditate daily.
Meditation is a beautiful way to still your mind — giving you a break from circling thoughts, worries and anxieties. Start with two minutes a day and build your way up to longer sittings.
3. See the world as awe-inspiring.
Imagine if you woke up this morning and saw the world around you for the first time. You would be absolutely amazed, fascinated and excited. Start seeing the world through fresh eyes and notice all the magic and beauty you may be missing.
4. Let go of things you can’t control.
When the bus is late, the queue is long or the café runs out of your favorite salad, take a deep breath and let it wash over you like water off a duck’s back. Don’t allow external events to steal your inner peace and joy. Master the art of letting go.
5. Experience the flow of things you love.
When you’re completely focused on doing something you truly love, you lose your sense of ego and time. It may be through dancing, cooking, writing, running, building, painting or something unique to you. Make this experience of “flow” a part of your weekly schedule.
6. Be more present.
When you worry about things going wrong in advance of them happening, you’re creating your own private hell in an otherwise peaceful and beautiful present moment.
Try bringing yourself back to the present moment throughout the day by noticing the sense of your body in your chair, the touch of the fabric against your skin or the gentle sensation of air on your face.
7. Spend time in nature.
Nature can have a calming effect and reminds us to slow down, take deep breaths and soak up the present moment. So make time for more bush walks, beach trips, picnics in the park and reading by the river.
8. Take up yoga.
Yoga is a beautiful way to align your body and soul — this in turn can increase your sense of wholeness and inner peace. It’s also the kind of exercise you can do anywhere, without equipment, once you’ve learned a few simple moves.
9. Spend time alone with yourself.
You need time alone to catch up on updates from the person you really need to stay in touch with — yourself. Spend time alone unpacking your worries and anxieties, and getting back in touch with your deepest desires and dreams. Schedule weekly or monthly solo dates in your yearly planner.
10. Keep an inspiration file.
Some days, you wake up feeling incredibly motivated and inspired to achieve your dreams. Other days, you wake up and the motivation has completely vanished.
That’s why it’s so useful to keep an inspiration file filled with your favorite quotes, stories and words of wisdom when your soul needs a boost. You can use a physical scrapbook or an album on your phone.
11. Practice gratitude.
There is a reason gratitude is being promoted everywhere lately — it’s one of life’s sweet shortcuts to happiness. By focusing your attention on all of the beautiful things and simple joys in life, you will notice and attract more and more of them.
12. Give without strings attached.
Giving and receiving are one in truth. When you give to someone with no strings attached — whether it be a physical gift, a compliment or your time — you are nourished as well as the receiver.
13. Embrace uncertainty.
Uncertainty is a natural part of life and an inevitable factor in making big life changes. Learn to embrace it, and know that you will always be okay at every moment in your journey, even if you can’t quite see the road to the finish line yet.
14. Write a soul journal.
Writing a soul journal is a bit like keeping a traditional journal, except that you ask your soul tough questions and seek guidance on things you’re struggling with. The key is to write your stream-of-consciousness without self-censoring. You may be amazed by the wisdom residing deep within you.
15. Replenish your well.
Life can feel so busy and fast-paced — before you know it, you’re running on empty. You don’t serve the world by burning yourself out. Take breaks. Schedule a day off for fun and laughter. Book a holiday. Don’t always cut short your lunch break.
16. Compare less.
Mark Twain once said, “Comparison is the death of joy”. Life would be pretty boring if every restaurant was the same, every romantic partner was the same, or every day was the same. Accept when things are not as you expected and appreciate that it makes life interesting.
17. Make time for friendship.
One of the top five regrets of the dying is not spending enough time with friends. Create a weekly or monthly ritual with your friends, like dinner at a local restaurant, trivia night or morning yoga session.
18. Trust yourself.
So often we make mistakes and bad decisions in life because we’ve ignored the inner voice of guidance inside of us. Trust your intuition. Your soul knows what is right for you.
19. Commit to living a life true to you.
When you live, work, date, play, eat, drink, create, dance, travel and dream in ways that feel right with your soul, you come alive, and the whole world benefits.
20. Be gentle on yourself.
You are perfect and complete exactly as you are. Even when you are striving to improve and grow, you are complete and worthy of self-love.
As the Buddhist saying goes,
We are all perfect as we are, and we could all use a little work.
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I am the type of person that likes to keep my own tally of grades and dates so that I am reliant on someone else. Also, not all of my professors post all grades to the online gradebook we can view. So, anytime I turn in an assignment I write down what is was, what date it was due, and what my grade was once we get it back.
I also do the same with exams and papers. I keep a running total so that I can easily calculate how well or poorly I am doing in a class. Professors make mistakes, but if you have all of the information, they can easily corrected. Example being, my Shakespeare professor lost out midterm objective tests, but I had written down everything when she gave them back (before losing them), and the problem was easily fixed.
Assignment/Exam Logs are a great way to monitor yourself. You will always have a reference on hand. I put my logs in my Erin Condren planner. In the back, there are blank pages which I taped the printable template into. They are cute and functional!
If anyone cares for the templates, shoot me a message and I can email them to you. They’re basic ones I made real quick in word, so they’re nothing fancy!
So, today I came across this website that has amazing posts regarding studying and organization. This blogger is what I strive to be… and what I would be if I didn’t work a full-time job while also in grad school. Below are just a few of the posts of hers that I came across that I really enjoyed:
Study schedules are really useful things to have because they keep you accountable and make sure you have time to get everything you need to done!
These are the steps I use to make mine (I used Microsoft Excel but you can just as easily do this on paper, the only reason I don’t is because I make so many mistakes)
I’m studying for A-levels currently so this will be mainly aimed at that but I’m sure it can be adapted to any level and subject/course you’re studying.
Draw out a table with rows all the days of the week and columns for time slots. Obviously adjust the time slots to suit you, so if you wake up really early then you can add earlier time slots, if you go to bed really early don’t make late time slots etc.
In your table, write in wherever you have classes - I have college from Monday to Friday and study four subjects (plus the Welsh Baccalaureate, ew) with two two-hour classes in each per week. I colour coded these in a red/orange colour.
Now add in any other regular commitments you have e.g. extra-curricular activities, family commitments etc. I colour coded these in blue. I added “lunch” as a commitment on weekdays because I often forget to eat in college, which is a bad thing. Always make sure you eat and drink enough!
This is where you slot in your study sessions. I added in my study sessions and colour coded them by subject.
This step will be different for everyone depending on what you’re studying, how close you are to exams etc. I aim for at least 4 hours study a week per subject, and then as exams get closer I’ll probably up this to 5/6ish. Allocate time as you need to - I’ve used less time for maths than my other subjects as I’m more confident in it, and more for music where I feel I need more work.
Make sure you don’t add in too many on any one day and be sure to give yourself breaks. I would also say that you should work with a maximum of two hours per session, but if you prefer to study in long sessions then go for it!
Basically, you know what works for you. :-)
Once I’ve added in my study sessions, I like to add up the total hours I’ve done for each subject. This acts as a target and if for some reason I can’t do one of my study sessions I’ll aim to make it up somewhere else in the week so I can still reach this target.
I also make a key for the colour coding as well.
(In this step I scheduled in instrument practice around my studying as well, treating practice sessions like study sessions - useful if you happen to be a musician idk)
That’s about it! If you have any questions about this or anything else, I’ll do my best to answer, the ask box is always open :-) Hope this was useful to someone! ✿✿✿
With exams coming up, and all that stress slowly pushing upon me, I thought that the only way for me to actually do something was to manage my time, and since a planner was too much, and apparently too much effort for me, I decided to stick with this method, that I made up. (I don’t know if I made it up, I just haven’t heard of it before)
The whole thing, was mainly inspired by The Bullet Journal. The way this works. Is that you sit down and make a lost with everything that you want to manage today, just like any other list, you make a little check box in front of the task. Now this is how the whole system works.
I am done with something. If you finish a task. Cross it of! Now that is out of the world
I have not finished it yet. If you haven’t finished a task, and believe that you don’t have any time to do so today, then mark the check box!
Plan for next day. When you plan for next day, simply add in the things that you didn’t finish the day before.
When should I remove a post-it? When every task is complete. Eventhough you have moved a task forward, then still keep the old list available for you to see. This will give you an overview of how much you have managed to do. And if the notes keep pilling up, you will know that you are doing things really slowly and have to push yourself a bit further.
This for sure helps me, an motivates me to do more, and I definetly hope that it will have an even creater impact on you.
As you can see in my bright pink post-it, I have a shopping list. Not a grocery list but for makeup and fashion stuff. But if that’s your first priority, pick something else to keep you in track. That and also a shopping list, why not. Have both. Like if you have a blog to run, make a list of potential posts. If you are trying to keep a record of a fast you a run a mile. Each time, write it down. Personalize your planner just for you. If you desperately need to stay hydrated, make a check mark if you drank 8 full glasses of water, you know? Whatever the doctor ordered.
I don’t get excited when people suggest to make goals every week, or treat myself. I always try to find new ways to stay organized online and every advise is all said before and frankly it doesn’t MAKE me want to do you know? It just sounds so..well not encouraging. Maybe because it’s not authentic enough. So, let me try my darn hardest to keep this interesting yet helpful.
1) Buy specifically a monthly/weekly planner. If you have a big exam or a doctor appointment, putting it on the month section helps you zoom out and really see how your month will play out. If you trying to see how much gas goes in your car and how fast you need to re-fill again, you can take note on the month section, it can really help you there. The weekly part helps seeing, obviously, your entire week. This is great for you because once you lay out when your papers are due and class, you can try to squeeze in time for your social life. Looks like you don’t have much hw on Friday, that means watching all the seasons of The Office without an ounce of guilt is A-OK!
2) Color Code! This helped me a lot. Even if I wrote whatever I had due mixed in with personal appointments, I didn’t feel like I had everything organized. Highlighting assignment due dates,helped me be like HEY, YOU HAVE A PAPER DUE TOMORROW AND HAVEN’T EVEN STARTED. GET TO WORK YOU POOHEAD.
3) This is kind of a silly one but on your monthly part, take a nice inky pen and once the day has officially been over, put a big x on the date. There is something uplifting about it. The day is over. It’s done, you can now sleep and you can worry and have panic attacks tomorrow but right now: you can relax. It’s over. Am I the only one who feels this way?
4) If you feel like you have a lot of stuff to do: get a smaller notebook like me OR some planners have a notes section too! Don’t waste paper like me! Find different alternatives. Use post-its, whatever suits you fancy. Write down every single thing you have to do to the bone. If you have to print out something, add to it “remember to put it in your folder”. It is known that you write exactly, step-by-step the things you have to do, it will help you get started and get in that mind-set, you feel me? Visualizing actually putting that 16 page paper in your folder helps you actually want to do and get it done.
5) Have a sticky note dedicated to your weekly goals. Let this be a place for you to improve. Start with the things you want to change in your life. One example would be not to be late for class. So, here is your goal “Have my lunch ready in the fridge, outfit picked out, backpack ready on the kitchen counter and have my alarm set for 30 minutes before my class starts AT LEAST.” Yes a mouthful and a handful (lol, because i’m typing it lolool) anyways. Stuff like that. Every time I open up my planner, I’ll be able to see my goals for the week. Every time.
6)Wake up: Check your planner. Before you go to bed:Check your planner. Let me tell you the times I forgot my teacher moved the classroom and I told myself, “That’s easy to remember. I’ll just put it in my planner.” I forgot to see that morning and there I was, sitting like a pinhead. Those 5 seconds, you glance at your planner, will save you a lot of trouble.
7) Put a quote on your planner! If you are someone who loves quotes and just sayings that change your mood instantly put them on your planner. Mine are super cliche and lovey dovy but it’s helps. Whatever get’s me through the day right?