Just A Reminder...
You don’t have to be polite to people who have harassed you.
You don’t have to give in to visiting places with family or being around certain relatives that bring about traumatic childhood memories just to make your family happy.
You don’t have to be kind to people who know your triggers but blatantly joke about things that traumatize you and you have a right to feel angry and express that when they do.
You, alone, hold the choice in deciding if and when (ever) you want to engage and interact with people who used to mean so much to you. Don’t be pressured by those said individuals, our your friends, our your parents or whoever.
Sometimes, you have to let go of people from your past even if they used to mean the world to you so you have can peace of mind and the ability to move forward. Toxic people will always be around to latch on to you and to suck away your energy, your time and most importantly: YOU.
There will be people who have broken your heart, taken a dump on your feelings, muddy up great memories, made you feel anything else than great about yourself…If you don’t want them in your life anymore don’t allow them to be.
It was Audre Lorde who said:“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
Self care is revolutionary because when you take part in it, you are putting yourself on the top shelf. You are important to YOU and you are taking the necessary steps to make sure that you are mostly well oiled machine and that you can function.