Perfectionist Polar bear is up and running!

Hi everyone, 

Perfectionist Polar Bear now officially has a blog, I haven’t posted much content on there yet but there will be more to come! 

If you are a perfectionist, have perfectionist traits or simply want to have a laugh at a meme or two check out the blog. 

I would deeply appreciate if everyone gives this a signal boost. :) 

-Kris 

anonymous said:

youre probably not online right now but if you are PLEASE HELP, i have a script that my lecturer wants handed in tomorrow morning and its 2am and im not even 1/6 through im stressing the fuck out and im exhausted and i CANNOT DO THIS. what the hell can i do i am extremely behind, the whole thing was supposed to be written days ago but i havent even finished writing the 2nd page. i have no excuse and im dreading tomorrow. i am so sick of my disorganisation and anxiety about working. please help j

I got this three hours after you sent it and I’m responding right away.

First, you need sleep more than you need to finish this project. So do that. Sleep is important and you really won’t do much good by worrying instead.

Talk to your lecturer and ask for an extension. Tell them that it’s not finished and you need a few more days to have it ready. You don’t have to say that you’ve barely started or anything like that. Even if it’s just until Monday morning, that will give you a few days to get it sorted out. If the extension is refused, which it may well be, turn in what you’ve done and at least you won’t get a 0.

If you get the extension:

  1. How many pages is the script supposed to be? I’m guessing about 12, based on the numbers you gave in your post. Divide the total number of pages by the number of days you have to get it finished (don’t count the due date, you want to finish it the day before). Now you have the number of pages you need to write per day.
  2. Do you have an outline for this script? If not, it’s time to write one. You need, at the very least, an inciting incident (the thing that gets the story moving), a climax (the Big Moment), and a resolution (what happens after the climax). [You probably know these terms, I’m defining them for other people who might be reading this.] Even if that’s all you write down for your outline, it’s enough to get started.
  3. Who are your characters? Make sure you have them straight in your head. What are their roles in the story?
  4. Place your three outline components within the pages of your script. Typically you want the resolution to happen in the last couple of pages and the climax should occur right before it, while the inciting incident will probably be on the first or second page. These are just targets: you might hit something sooner or a little later, but at least you know what you’re writing towards.
  5. Each day, sit down and get words on the page. It doesn’t matter if they’re good words, it just matters that they are words. Do your best to make your goal page count every day. Use the timer method to get it done.
  6. On the last day, when you’ve finished the whole thing, read it over from beginning to end and make sure it’s all sensible and change words here or there. This is not a substantive edit; you’re just making sure it’s good enough to hand in, not fixing story problems. There’s no time for that!
  7. Get sleep.
  8. Be on time for class and turn in your assignment.
  9. Reward yourself!

This will get you through the current situation.

Anxiety about getting work done often stems from perfectionism, which also causes procrastination a lot of the time. Speaking as a perfectionist, what needs to happen is basically that you need to learn to be okay with “good enough” instead of “perfect.” Remind yourself that nothing can ever be truly perfect, and that even experts often satisfy themselves with “good enough.” There is always a margin for error. Different professions have smaller margins than others, but in general there are mistakes you can make without it being a huge disaster. (You might enjoy perfectionistpolarbear if you haven’t seen it yet.)

General organization requires a planner (that you take with you everywhere and check regularly) and a system for time management that works for you. I can give you some basic tips, but you have to figure out what will work (generally through trial and error).

So, basic tips:

  • Write down all of your due dates in your planner. As soon as you get your class syllabus, all the dates go in your planner. When a project is assigned, it goes in your planner.
  • Break down projects into smaller pieces and give each component a due date. For example, the last time I had to write a paper, I gave myself two weeks to get my research done, then I had to do an interview for it, and then I had a week to finish my first draft and a week to make edits. I was finished the day before it was due, no problem. (This is not a thing I was able to do before I figured this out. All through university I would start research, then procrastinate on finishing my research and finally write the paper the night before it was due. This new method works a LOT better and it’s way less stressful.)
  • Do the same thing with class readings so that you’re on top of your reading and don’t have to struggle through hundreds of pages of a textbook the day before your final.
  • Take notes on your readings. Colour-code them if you can.
  • Colour-code your lecture notes.
  • When you’re reading over your notes to study, look at both your reading notes and your lecture notes, and rewrite them using your colour-coding system and combine them as you do so, so that you end up with a comprehensive document that contains your notes from your text book AND from your lectures.
  • Every night, check your planner for what deadlines you have in the next month, what deadlines you have in the next week, and what deadlines you have the next day.
  • Every morning, check your planner for the same things and make sure you have all of your things together for your classes that day.

I hope this is helpful as a starting place. A great book for time management is Julie Morgenstern’s Time Management from the Inside Out. It’s not written for ADHDers, but her methods are really customizable and you can easily adapt her suggestions to suit you and your life.

-J

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I recently discovered that I most likely have OCD, but I never really thought of myself as a “perfectionist”… I’ve been thinking the same way for as long as I can remember so I never thought any of my behaviors were strange until about two months ago, when I was diagnosed. I just assumed I paid more attention to detail than most and didn’t think anything of it (figuring the rest was just the effects of my typical anxiety, somehow), because there are a few OCD symptoms I don’t have at all.

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