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Perfectionism

Some good tips on how to break the perfectionism/procrastination cycle:

http://www.insidehighered.com/advice/2012/11/14/essay-breaking-cycle-academic-perfectionism

PS- kind of a watershed moment when I read the author’s comment about how perfectionism thrives in isolation. Tis true. We hide our unrealistic expectations from others because … well, we don’t want to be told they’re unrealistic. But that might be a key to breaking the logjam (so to speak).

- Flynn

It’s so discouraging when I still don’t fully get what composition is even after explanations

So discouraging as a growing artist ;;

Add that with art perfectionism and I consider just doing something else with my life but art :)

HAHA

We praise people for being “naturally” smart, too, “naturally” athletic, and etc. But studies continue to show, as they have for some time now, that it is generally healthier to praise schoolchildren for being hardworking, than for being naturally gifted. We know now that to emphasize a child’s inherent ability places pressure on that child to continue to be accidentally talented, which is something that is hard for anyone to control. When the children who are applauded for their natural skills fail, they are shown to take the failure very personally. After all, the process of their success has always seemed mysterious and basic and inseparable from the rest of their identity, so it must be they who are failing as whole people. When students are instead complimented and rewarded for their effort and improvement, they tend to not be so hard on themselves. When they fail, they reason, “Well, I’ll work harder next time.” They learn that they are capable of success, rather than constantly automatically deserving of it, and they learn simultaneously that they are bigger and more complex than their individual successes or failures.
—  Kate of Eat the Damn Cake, The Stupidity of “Natural” Beauty (x)
Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfect, and work perfect, I can avoid or minimize criticism, blame and ridicule, the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame. All perfectionism is, is the 20-ton shield that we carry around hoping that it will keep us from being hurt
—  Brene Brown
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