The irony that is men who claim that centuries systemic oppression against women (in the form of sexualized and other violences, workplace and judicial discrimination, media objectification and misrepresentation, sexualization of children, the glorification of non-consent, etc) isn’t a big deal and doesn’t really effect most women too strongly, but a few women legitimately and personally hating or being distrustful of men IS THE WORST KIND OF OPPRESSION POSSIBLE AND EFFECTS ALL MEN ON A DAILY BASIS WAHHH

my absolute main issue with the concept of my oppression having “nothing to do with a vagina” or being told that they “don’t care what’s between our legs” by a trans woman is that it really suggests my lived experiences, and the lived experiences of most of the women in the world, are just some random coincidence.

if we suggest that sex-based oppression isn’t real, and our oppression is based on “identifying with a gender”, we can take the vagina out of the equation of womanhood and voila, we have our gender-based oppression.

however, i would then ask, what is it about gender-based oppression that ensures, globally, that cis women are reduced to what they are right now? what is it about women that just makes us so easy to oppress? what are the features of gender that make anyone who is woman-identified oppressed?

i’ve heard that it is the “stigma” of being a woman that contributes to the oppression of cis and trans women alike. Where does this stigma come from? What are the origins of the hatred of the gender that we know as “woman”?

it’s concerning to see the alarming rates of rape, forced impregnation, FGM, forced child marriage, destitution, global poverty, lack of education, sex slavery/trafficking, sex-selective abortion, lack of access to birth control, femicide, and all the other stuff cis women uniquely face being written of as a mere coincidence by virtue of us identifying as women rather than our bodies.

My Response To The “I Am Not A Feminist” Internet Phenomenon -

“First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”
But here is what I think you should know.
You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.
You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.
You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).
You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.
In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.
In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”

Planning my Wedding, Awkward conversations part I
  • Mom:So! What do you want your dad to wear when he walks you down the aisle?
  • Me:uhhh well....
  • Dad:You don't want me to walk you down the aisle?
  • Me:Well dad it's not that I don't WANT you to...
  • Dad:No no it's ok whatever you want...I guess
  • Mom:Whatever you want it's your wedding but I mean
  • Me:No Dad, I know you want to walk me down the aisle, I'm your only daughter...your only child. BUT I just want to say, and I'll only say it once I don't like the idea of father's walking his daughter down the aisle, it's a traditional rooted in a patriarchal society that oppresses women and views them as property to be transferred from their father's household to their future husband's household...and it's bullshit...but that's all I'm saying
  • Dad:yeah ok...I'll keep that in mind....
  • Mom:So what do you want him to wear?
A national shame: Men voters favor the GOP by 17%.

The challenge Republicans face was apparent in the latest Wall Street Journal/NBC News poll, taken between July 30 and Aug. 3. Among men, Republicans held a 17-point lead over Democrats when people were asked which party they wanted to control Congress after the fall elections. Women, however, favored a Democratic-controlled Congress by 14 percentage points.

What the hell do men think they’re going to get from a GOP Congress? I mean, besides more laws enforcing patriarchy and male expendability with a patriarchal touch. I hope the manosphere isn’t part of this support system for the GOP - voting against radical feminism is one thing, but exchanging feminist-driven male expendability for patriarchal-driven disregard for the common male, is just plain silly hour.

And really, do you honestly want to vote this kind of misogyny into office?


Of course Rush Limbaugh isn’t a politician, but the Republican Party’s policies reflect this inhuman thinking. Do you REALLY want to vote that into power?

We don’t need any patriarchy garbage, period. Misogyny begets misandry, and misandry begets misogyny. We can’t tolerate either. Vote NO on radical feminism and NO on Conservatism.

Republicans are NOT friends of women’s rights, OR men’s rights.


Columbia student will carry her mattress until her rapist exits school
September 2, 2014

While most students at Columbia University will spend the first day of classes carrying backpacks and books, Emma Sulkowicz will start her semester on Tuesday with a far heavier burden. The senior plans on carrying an extra-long, twin-size mattress across the quad and through each New York City building – to every class, every day – until the man she says raped her moves off campus.

“I was raped in my own bed,” Sulkowicz told me the other day, as she was gearing up to head back to school in this, the year American colleges are finally, supposedly, ready to do something about sexual assault. “I could have taken my pillow, but I want people to see how it weighs down a person to be ignored by the school administration and harassed by police.”

Sulkowicz is one of three women who made complaints to Columbia against the same fellow senior, who was found “not responsible” in all three cases. She also filed a police report, but Sulkowicz was treated abysmally – by the cops, and by a Columbia disciplinary panel so uneducated about the scourge of campus violence that one panelist asked how it was possible to be anally raped without lubrication.

So Sulkowicz joined a federal complaint in April over Columbia’s mishandling of sexual misconduct cases, and she will hoist that mattress on her shoulders as part savvy activism, part performance art. “The administration can end the piece, by expelling him,” she says, “or he can, by leaving campus.”

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As painful as I know the constant reminder of attending school with her rapist must be, I’m glad she won’t be the only one forced to remember. I hope the rapist drops out immediately…or better yet, I hope he faces the justice he deserves. 

In the 1890s, when Freud was in the dawn of his career, he was struck by how many of his female patients were revealing childhood [sexual] victimization to him. Freud concluded that child sexual abuse was one of the major causes of emotional disturbances in adult women and wrote a brilliant and humane paper called “The Aetiology of Hysteria.” However, rather than receiving acclaim from his colleagues for his ground-breaking insights, Freud met with scorn. He was ridiculed for believing that men of excellent reputation (most of his patients came from upstanding homes) could be perpetrators of incest.
Within a few years, Freud buckled under this heavy pressure and recanted his conclusions. In their place he proposed the “Oedipus complex,” which became the foundation of modern psychology… Freud used this construct to conclude that the episodes of abuse his clients had revealed to him had never taken place; they were simply fantasies of events the women had wished for… This construct started a hundred-year history in the mental health field of blaming victims for the abuse perpetrated on them and outright discrediting of women’s and children’s reports of mistreatment by men.

― Lundy Bancroft

(Male civilization will do anything and everything to shield men from accountability for their crimes.

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Tony Porter: A Call To Men
"Tony is the original visionary and co-founder behind A CALL TO MEN: The National Association of Men and Women Committed to Ending Violence Against Women. He is the author of "Well Meaning Men...Breaking Out of the Man Box - Ending Violence Against Women" and the visionary for the book, NFL Dads Dedicated to Daughters.

Tony's message of accountability is welcome and supported by many grassroots and established organizations. He’s currently working with numerous domestic and sexual violence programs, the National Football League, the National Basketball Association, colleges and universities around the country. He has worked with the United States Military Academy at West Point and the United States Naval Academy at Annapolis.

Tony is an international lecturer for the U.S. State Department having worked in the Democratic Republic of the Congo, United Kingdom and Brazil. In addition, he has been a guest presenter for the United Nations' Commission on the Status of Women and has been a script consultant for Law & Order: Special Victims Unit." - (x)

Alright guys, this shit got me heated. 

So today as I was getting ready for school, I get a call from my youngest sister’s elementary school clinic. My sister gets on the phone and tells me she is sitting out of class because her skirt is too short. “You need to bring me one that goes down to my knees, they said,” is what she told me.

Quick recap: My sister is eleven years old, in fifth grade, and has some mental and physical disabilities. She’s the tallest girl in her class. Also, the dress code states her skirt must be down to her fingertips, not her knees.

When I get there, I insisted I see her instead of just dropping her stuff off. I was not suprised to find her with a skirt obviously within the rules of the dress code. I asked her what class she was missing and she told me math. She’d been sitting out for atleast twenty or thirty minutes while she waited for me to come.

She only learns things at about a third of the pace as everyone else in her class. Even missing this short amount of time means missing a lot of information for her. Just to recap: she has to sit out of class because of the length of her skirt. She can’t even just sit in her classroom while she waits for me, because apparently that’s too distracting. To whom, you ask? I can’t really tell you. Are ten year old boys, fifth grade boys already old enough to be sexualizing her to the point that they were going so insane with horniness that they had to whisk her away until she could put on something ‘decent’. 

So not only are the sexualizing a fifth grader, they are giving her different rules for the dress code based on her height and making her miss valuable class time. This bullshit needs to stop. Eleven goddamn years old and she’s already being taught her body isn’t her own anymore, that she’s being too provocative if she wears a skirt to the same standard as all the other short, skinny girls in her class just because she looks older.

As a P.S., I would like to point out that she is already bullied because of her disabilities. Pulling her out of class and making her change is even more of an embarrassment, and only leads to more teasing.