So You Want to get Pregnant... Just Not Now
Studies have shown that the older the person is, both those that donate sperm to the cause and those that get pregnant, the more difficulties that can occur. THe older you and/or your baby making parther are the more time it may take to get pregnant, the more problems you may have getting pregnant, and the more likely that there may be health issues with the baby. This tends to be especially true after your 40s.
It’s a good idea if you’re wanting to put off pregnancy for a few more years, to see a doctor if you can. Doctors can do an ultrasound examination and perform an antral follicle count. These tests can be performed at any time even if you’re on birth control. This will show how many years of fertility you have left. If you don’t have as much time as you’d like, you can freeze some eggs for later.
There are a few things you can do to take care of your reproductive help to make getting pregnant later easier. One thing that may help is getting on a form of birth control that could be fertility enhancing. Combination birth control like the combination pill, nuvaring, and patch changes the consistency of the cervical mucus to reduce the chances of bacterial infection in the uterus and fallopian tubes. It also prevents ovarian cysts, helps treat endometriosis, and decrease your chances of ovarian and uterine cancer. Progestin only methods also change the consistency of the cervical mucus and help protect against Pelvic Inflammatory Disease. The shot can also help protect against certain cancers and infections, help treat endometriosis, and help with bleeding due to fibroids. The IUD can also be used to treat endometriosis. Talk to a doctor about what would work best for you.
Pay attention to your gynecological health, if you have any problems talk to a doctor as soon as you can. Symptoms that may need a doctor include discharge from the breasts, not menstruating at all, painful menstruation, increased facial hair and acne into your late 20s, or pain with urination or other signs of an infection. Also talk to your doctor about reproductive issues that run in your family. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Practice safer sex at all times, as STIs can cause reproductive issues.
Other things that can increase your fertile years include quitting smoking, minimize your exposure to toxins in the workplace or at home. If you’re the one with the sperm in the equation, it’s best for you to also quit smoking and to watch your alcohol and drug usage as it is more difficult for smokers, drinkers, and drug users to maintain an erection. It’s also a good idea to be careful of sports injuries, cycling long distances, and exposure to toxins and radiation as well as steroids and some types of medication and herbal suppliments. Make sure to avoid things that heat up testicles like overuse of hot tubs, wearing underwear that’s too tight, and keeping a laptop on your lap. If you experience burning, itching or discomfort in your reproductive equipment see a doctor. If you have difficulty maintaining erections, see a doctor. Unhealthy eating, lots of fats and cholesterols, can mess with your hormones and make it more difficult to make a baby. If you have any chronic illnesses, talk with your doctor about when would be the right time to get pregnant.
Keep in mind that there is no perfect time to be pregnant or have a baby. There’s always something; finances, your job, family situations, your relationship, that may make you hesitant to have a baby. While it’s great to plan ahead and make sure you can afford a baby at this time, and definitely to make sure you want to start a family with whoever is part of your family and support system. Make sure to have a talk with your partner or partners and talk about your ideals, parenting styles, and what you both find important. Re-evaluate your relationships (including with friends and family) to make sure it’s healthy. Think about who you want to be a part of your baby’s life.
The most important thing is to make sure that you and your partner or partners are ready, that everyone wants to have a baby. If not, it is a good idea to wait until everyone is ready. Talk it out and ask why they’re not ready and try to see their point of view. Address their concerns and help reassure them. Focus on other parts of the relationship. Focus on what it was that drew you to them in the first place.