An "Anti-SJ" guide to anti-oppression work

1) Be like MLK.
2) Actually be MLK. Become him in form and mind.
3) Only talk about “real oppression” in “other countries”. You know, like MLK.
4) Bake cookies for oppressors. I’m sorry. I mean “people who may have maybe said something that’s a little oppressive and like if they could maybe be a little more careful maybe that would good”.
5) why r u reading this, get off yr computer lololol

I was thinking of this on my Twitter earlier but: there is no way for an oppressed social class to get justice for wrongs, for harassment, for abuse, for violence without a list of demands that are impossible to fill. Even if our oppressors allow that a wrong was done, they’ll still demand blood. 

You can’t bring it up yourself: you’re playing the victim. Timing doesn’t matter: either it happened too long ago or you’re overreacting too quickly. 

You can’t have someone from your own group (in this case, I was talking specifically about other women) as they’re too biased, too prone to hating men, too involved. How can we trust them?

You’re not supposed to rely on the kindness of allies as they’ll be accused of being white knights or too politically correct or pathetic because they just something from you and think that being a decent human being is the best way to get (in the case of men who defend women in the internet, it doesn’t take much imagination to realize what I’m talking about).

How do you demand retribution, or more accurately, how do we get it? How do we get apologies, and closure, and justice when the very act of naming that we were hurt is enough to make our hurt invalid? 

anonymous said:

I read your Power Dynamics and Role-Reversal post make me think of the dystopian novel Noughts & Crosses, which deals with what would happen if blacks were oppressors over whites (among other things, such as the possibility of Pangea still being intact). Never read, and admittedly I'd take it with a grain of salt, but I've heard it was well-acclaimed and the author really put her research into how such a society would work. Dunno though.

On Noughts and Crosses by Malorie Blackman 

Here’s the first chapter for free.  ~Mod Alice

I liked Noughts and Crosses well enough. Here’s an old review written 2-3 years ago. 

Summary: Persephone “Sephy” Hadley is a Cross and Callum McGregor is a naught. In this world, Crosses are the dark skinned ruling class and the naughts are the light skinned lower class that are being oppressed by the crosses.

Likes: The best thing about this novel is what is underneath the surface of the actual story. On the cover of the book it states that the story is a thriller. In some ways, it is a thriller dealing with the struggle of overthrowing a government from the ground up. It’s really a love story on the level of Romeo and Juliet. Thankfully Blackman has written the relationship in a way that doesn’t allow it to be the main focus of the story. The story was a little slow paced, but the author does a wonderful job of setting up the character’s backstories, their relationships with each other, and their motivation.

It is obvious that the racial angle of this story is its selling point, but the story couldn’t work if you flipped the races. If Sephy was white, I don’t think I would be inclined to see what she has to say about race and skin color. As a person of color, I have to experience what Callum was going through on a systematic level, maybe not the extreme that was in the novel, but I still had to deal with injustices. Sephy had her heart in the right place, but it was easy to see that she just wasn’t aware of how dangerous her friendship with Callum was. 

The author takes the issues of race and casts them in a different light. She doesn’t make a statement on who is right or who is wrong. She allows the reader to come to their own conclusion. It is amazing how the author was able to capture the complex feelings of institutionalized racism from both sides with an objective viewpoint. 

Overall: This was a great book if one can look beyond the surface of what’s actually there. The story in and of itself is great, amazing even. The plot is straightforward. To fully enjoy the novel, it’s interesting to see the context in which the novel was created. Maybe it’s because I’m a person of color, I might read it differently than someone who hasn’t experienced the stuff that Callum experienced during the course of the novel.


My current experience is that this would be a good book series to read if you are interested in power dynamics and role reversal. There was another book that was mentioned out here called Save the Pearls that had much of the same plot. I won’t read that book because it sounds ridiculous, but I think Blackman does a good job of doing the power dynamics in interesting way.

With Saved the Pearls it sounds like the author made racism into some sort of caricature of what she thought racism was for people of color and tried to translate that into a role reversal.

I don’t think it worked because the terms she used for the different races were based on actual slurs and she made White characters as “lowly down-trodden Pearls.” Naughts and Crosses has a slur that is only relevant in that world and also the “Naughts” (White people) were definitely treated as second class citizens in that world, but they weren’t “lowly” and “down trodden” neither were Crosses (Black people) “high” and “mighty.”

The characters in Naughts and Crosses, while in hindsight weren’t exactly the most dynamic or exciting, they were three dimensional. You were equally likely to find Black and White characters that all were on the spectrum of good vs. evil, with no one being entirely evil or entirely good.

I think Naughts and Crosses is a good book to read if you want to read a power dynamics and role reversal book. It’s definitely not the definitive answer on the subject, but at its core it’s an interesting book and an enjoyable read. I’m definitely interested in reading the rest of the series, but it’s been a struggle to find it at any of the local libraries. 

asexualpinkiepie said:

Basic psychology says that fear of danger is natural. Many cis people will murder and assault us if they found out we were trans. Being wary of stranger cis people because of hearing about or even experiencing the assaults that trans people face is not cowardice. It's safety

There is a difference between being aware of a potential attacker, and fearing an oppressor. 

If you fear an attacker, then you are prepared. 

If you fear an oppressor, then you are oppressed. 

Death march, death march is no fun...

Death march, death march hurts everyone. For the uninitiated, Wikipedia defines a death march as:

In project management, a death march is a project where the members feel it is destined to fail, or requires a stretch of unsustainable overwork. The general feel of the project reflects that of an actual death march because the members of the project are forced to continue the project by their superiors against their better judgment.

My team is on a death march right now. This project is destined to succeed because we won’t let it fail. However, we’re in a stretch of unsustainable work. 

What does unsustainable mean?

A software engineering job is pretty cushy - nice Aeron chairs (unless you have one of those treadmill desks), incredibly forgiving of mistakes, and of course: 

So how could this wonderland become unsustainable? During a death march, you do too much of a good thing. Those Aeron chairs that once caressed your back become the bowl, in which your body melts, due to lack of exercise. All those mistakes that were forgiven get forgiven at an even higher rate until your stuck in a web of bad coding decisions that you have to untangle at 4am before launch. Contrary to most manager’s beliefs, pizza should not be injected directly into your veins to keep you working at full strength.

As we pile up the hours, moving way too fast, and giving less fucks than George W., our foundation - codebase, minds, bodies, etc - erodes. No software engineering team can move at the pace management wants if it’s base is not strong.

How did we get here?

If you ask most developers, the answer is “I don’t know.” As individual contributors, we don’t have the organizational scope to understand the root cause. In a word, the cause is mismanagement. The only difference between death marches is where did that mismanagement happen - direct manager, middle management, or all the way from on high. Wherever it happens, there was a failure to manage resources, prevent scope creep, or sufficiently manage risks.

Who does the death march hurt?


Developers - I’m delirious and run down as I write this. Sleep and life deprivation are slowly eroding my mind and body. My soul still good though.

Everyone around developer - all the people around you get an out of shape, unintelligible, irritable version of you. When you were supposed to tell someone “I love you” or “Oh how was your day?” you say, “I hate pepperoni!” or “the cotdam servers are down again, brb”

Management - Loses respect from individual contributors. Management has some degree of control of my most valuable resource - time. When management fails to protect my time, I begin to question it’s capabilities.

Product/Code - Death marches are hotbeds for bad decisions. While the features will be “completed,” a few important edge cases get forgotten. For hyperbole sake, imagine we’re rushing to complete our company’s subscription flow and miss that edge case where the user is charged 10 times for 1 subscription. Whoops.

How do we prevent it next time?

Death marches aren’t always preventable but many of them are. In the moment, it’s hard to see that “it’s just how these things go” isn’t actually why the death march happened.

Management has to do a better job of assessing risk and pushing back on unreasonable requests. It should also take periods of down time to build infrastructure to prepare for any unforeseen insanity.

Developers need to hold management accountable to effectively protect our time. We need to snap out of accepting the timeless phrase "Shit rolls, piss trickles". We should never feel ashamed to question why we’re not sleeping, working on weekends, missing life events, etc. We need to guard our discretionary time at all costs because what we do in that time makes us who we are.

Does anything good come out of a death march?

Yup. Bonding. Shared suffering builds strong bonds

How do I have time to write this?

I don’t. I’m late for work.

Planning a vacation.

Addressing my fellow white people who post things like 'I had no idea I was appropriating a culture. You didn't have to be mean about it!' and etc etc etc after someone calls you out:

I had to learn the hard way that anger and frustration that the oppressed use against the oppressors (our ass) is part of the education. You also learn that it isn’t their job to educate you in the first place, what they are teaching and telling you is basic human decency, and the fact that you get to be ignorant and then get angry when they don’t coddle you about it should pretty much explain why the anger is even there in the first place.

Not only do we take from poc (always have) but we then expect them to tell us what we did wrong in a sweet kindergarten way that won’t make us feel guilty or take away things we don’t feel comfortable giving up but know it’s wrong to keep, only for us to continue to do the same racist shit.

Even if someone takes the time to kindergarten that shit for you, we still get to turn around and ignore it. If they get angry (as anyone would be) we get angry and either a. accost them with a hurtful racial stereotype or b. tell them their being big meanies and they need to be nice. 

You’d be livid too.

Stop telling poc to educate your dumb ass and get angry when they do. You don’t get to be mad at someone when they defend themselves against your hurtful actions in the first place. That’s not how it works.

Now if you get this and understand I want you to ask yourself why you just read this and understood this post coming from a white person but when you read a similar post from a poc you get angry or act like they just handed you the fucking Da Vinci code. They actually know and experience racism. Google some shit.

It kills me to see Black people holding up signs and it hurts even more when I see Black children forced to do the same. One of the reasons this happens is because deep down inside we know that all the Marching and Holding up signs that the adults have been doing has done nothing for us. It’s painful to say but all we have gotten in return is more innocent dead black bodies so we think that by having our children hold up signs maybe we can reach our oppressors; maybe they will see our suffering and show us some pity, maybe they really won’t shoot. We are always looking for pity from Whites. When is it going to be enough? Our Ancestors civilized this world and gave it life. Why should we look for mercy from White People? Everything we have ever needed to survive is in us. No other race of people responds to the murder of one of their own by holding up a sign and you damn sure don’t see their children doing that. Now I’m not going to sit here as if I have all the answers but we need to realize we are not dealing with peaceful people. The time for being Non-violent is long gone. Black children of the future should not have to wake up and deal with the same Racism and Oppression that we live with today.
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Birdette doesn’t count because in the manual she’s disgustingly misgendered as “a man who thinks he’s a woman” and not even a main protag

Vivian doesn’t count for the same reason, not a protag, grossly misgendered, purposefully having her trans description removed in the english patch

literally any trans rep in gaming is widdled down to a joke or grossly portrayed and we have to take the broken glass called our “representation” and fix it and display it among the other fabulous pieces like

"Hey, I know this looks bad, but it’s ok, we fixed it"

An Uppity, Non-Compliant Guide to Feminist Language (by Glosswitch)

By Glosswitch. Original here!

Yesterday Buzzfeed published a spoof guide to contemporary feminist terminology. As a contemporary feminist, how I laughed. Laughed and laughed and laughed. Then, after about half a second’s laughing, I thought “hey, wouldn’t it be cool if someone wrote an actual guide to some actual feminism? One that actually mentions male oppressors and doesn’t spend half the time focussed on which feminists hold unacceptable views?” So despite being female and therefore crap, I decided to give it a go.

Gender (noun):

  1. Oppressive hierarchy, situating adult human males (as the construct “man”) at the top, adult human females (as the construct “woman”) at the bottom.
  2. Nebulous thing that makes you want to wear certain clothes, have certain ideas, do certain activities, adopt certain mannerisms etc. Otherwise known as “being a person”.

Woman (noun):

  1. Adult human female who has, due to her sexed body, been placed in a class not of her choosing.
  2. Whatever the fuck anyone says it is, with final approval going to the dominant class (sorry ladies!).

Female reproduction (noun):

  1. Patriarchal justification for making adult human females do the vast majority of unpaid work on a global scale (regardless of whether individual adult human females have or indeed can have offspring)
  2. Cissexist phrase. In future please refer to “vessels”, “breeders” or “walking wombs”, you fucking bigot.

Male (adj.)

  1. Pertaining to the oppressor class under patriarchy.
  2. Whatever the fuck anyone says it is, with final approval going to the dominant class.

Oppressor, the (noun):

  1. Racist capitalist patriarchy, on the basis that this is an actual source of oppression.
  2. Second-wave feminists, on the basis that they were all evil frigid whorephobic bitches whose refusal to put out has given nice sexy feminists a bad name.

SWERF (noun, acronym):

  1. Woman who does not hold the view that jizz will be the solvent that finally erodes the patriarchy.
  2. Woman who once disagreed with Brooke Magnanti over something or other (no one involved can quite remember what).
  3. Word that happens to rhyme with TERF (see below), forming a handy, catch-all phrase to denote “women who are shit and deserve all the misogyny the SJW blogosphere has to offer”.

TERF (noun, acronym):

  1. Woman who believes that adult human females exist and are oppressed as a sex class.
  2. Woman who is friends with a woman who believes that adult human females exist and are oppressed as a sex class.
  3. Woman who once retweeted a woman who believes that adult human females exist and are oppressed as a sex class.
  4. Woman who on one occasion failed to publicly denounce a woman who believes that adult human females exist and are oppressed as a sex class.
  5. Woman who … (as definitions are continually broadening on this one – for instance, all of the above criteria may now be applied to gay men and trans people – please consult with Roz Kaveney and/or members of Blockbot).

Intersectionality (noun):

  1. Important theory expounded by Kimberlé Crenshaw, illustrating ways in which intersecting oppressions mean different approaches are required to tackle experiences of racism, sexism, homophobia, classism etc., as and when they intersect. See Mapping the Margins.

Intersectional feminist (noun):

  1. Feminist who isn’t a total hypocrite (i.e. who believes in actual intersectional praxis).
  2. Middle-class white woman who has hit upon a PC way of putting “I’m totes not racist, me” in her twitter bio.
  3. Middle-class white male university student who spends his days “educating” white women by ordering the uppity little bitches to stop “punching down”.

Feminism (noun):

  1. Movement for the liberation of all women. As Dworkin wrote:

Feminism is a political practice of fighting male supremacy on behalf of women as a class, including all the women you don’t like, including all the women you don’t want to be around, including all the women who used to be your best friends whom you don’t want anything to do with any more. It doesn’t matter who the individual women are.

  1. Whatever the fuck anyone says it is, with final approval going to the … (you fill in the rest)

some more further thoughts on the weird decontexualised romanticisation of armed rebellion: a lot of the photographs of armed female fighters seem to operate under the male gaze. You will almost always only see photos where they are touching their hair, are smiling, looking away from the camera smiling; most of the women photographed are usually young. This is not at all a commentary on these fighters and their armed resistance; this is a commentary on the photographers and the people who consume the photographs. The male gaze is very much present on these photographs; and it is present amongst the people who consume the photographs online or elsewhere. 

You know, if you read about most armed rebellion of the oppressed against their oppressors, it is under such extreme circumstances; under such horrendous pains. When everyday people have to take up arms… you cannot describe what they have gone through. No systems are in place to help them anymore; in fact the institutions either breakdown, or are an active part of the violence. People take up arms when their very existence and their entire groups are under the threat of destruction, annihilation and extreme continuous violence (can include ethnic cleansing; massacres; systematic rape; complete destruction of living places and the environment; displacement; mass torture, etc). So when there are these “soft” photographs which present these situations in a decontexualised manner, in which the lives and pains of the people is shown in such an empty way… it feels very jarring. As if they exist as empty frames to project our fantasies on. As if their (distant) lives should allow us to consume them so wholly. I’m not sure what way is the right way to depict things, because I have become increasingly wary of photography, and photographic journalism. (Who these photographers are would be interesting to look into as well.)

opalescentnanomachines said:

(1/2) I think you're the only person with whom I've never really wanted to have this discussion, because I think some of our fundamental viewpoints relating to it differ, but honestly, the fact that she's Japanese and from Japan changes the whole game. Racism is not universal the world over in the dynamics that make it problematic. I literally don't know enough about the way a Japanese person would or would not relate to the other cultures represented by that clothing. For the most part,

(2/2) I think the information for a lot of folk is lacking, and/or their perspective is heavily Western-centric, so the fighting against and calling out of racist cultural appropriation gets applied to contexts where it might not be appropriate. I’m not even saying it’s not in this case — I’m saying I’m not Japanese and don’t know. The only thing I can say with relative confidence is that the Victorian thing is likely, yes, a case of oppressor/oppressed dynamics making it not appropriation.

Yeah, that’s the thing too, like… We don’t know that perspective ourselves. 

The question I have then is, in what ways does the dynamic make it not appropriation. I’ve tried to do so much thinking and even research on it but I’m not too bright about this stuff, which is why I have a hard time reconciling it. 

Because like I don’t think lolita and gyaru are bad appropriation. But it makes me examine myself, and this whole discussion and ask myself, “Why isn’t that bad?” 

I mean I tried to think of things like how in America, non-white groups were stripped of their culture. But like, in Japan where a Japanese girl usually doesn’t ever experience the feeling of being racially Othered, and likes to wear blonde wigs and be a living English doll, I’m like… well obviously that dynamic is extreeeeeemely different but it’s hard to make clear sense of the real reasons why, unless I’m overthinking it?? You know? Gahhh.

But I’m just confused as to the whole thing with Kyary, like. That’s not… enough context for any kind of actual intelligent informed decision.

palantia said:

Hi Rat Grrrl, Super blog, extra credit for the porn industry hate A++. From one vegan to another I feel we need to get united on not being so condescending to the carnists. yes, they are quite terrible and I have no idea why they continue killing our animal palls. I mean gosh. but seriously, I have good friends who have become entirely vegan for years now and half a family gone vegetarian (just by being sweet and well informed at them). no one goes vegan because an activist hurt their feelers.

Yeah cheers but no thanks. I’ve had pretty equal success with my way of educating others about veganism and animal rights.

As always, I speak for the animals. I don’t act loving and caring to the people responsible for their centuries of suffering, oppression, abuse and murder. I’m not a fuzzy wuzzy vegan activist because no victim would want me to be that way to their oppressors.

Animals are being raped, mutilated, gassed alive, skinned alive, electrocuted, beaten, tortured, enslaved and murdered. cows are being strung up by one leg to have their throats slit. Calves are being stolen from their mothers and slaughtered. Pigs are being thrown in boiling water alive, chickens are having their bodies mutilated and abused, roosters are being ground up alive, geese are having pipes rammed down their throats and you want me to be nice about that? You want me to praise people and treat them with love, sweetness and respect?

Where is the respect for the animals? For their suffering, their pain, their eternal damnation? If you honestly believe that pats on the back, a few cute vegan meals, a “every step counts!” and a meatless Monday is an adequate response to the perpetrators of a holocaust, then you’re either a speciesist or you really need to get your priorities straight. And you should know that if you like my blog so much.

My stance has always been clear, and my opinions are all well informed with research and facts to back them up. But if people get offended by my stance on their participance in the greatest atrocities ever inflicted on sentient beings, that’s their problem. I’m not going to be nice to those who actively harm others.

tawassul of Fatima (sa) is all i care for tbh all the other masoomeen died indifferent to their oppressors, even Imam Hussain (as) called people to the truth in his last moments, but can you imagine the state of those who oppressed Fatima on the day of judgement? it must be the greatest shame upon any man to have never been forgiven by Fatima (sa). 

lovelywowcheers said:

hey so i completely realize that being white i am an oppressor. in an earlier ask you said to not apologize but to help change (idr the exact wording) but i was wondering what i can do to help??? also can you direct me to a site of ableist language to avoid? thank you so much <3

Late reply, sorry, but:

What you can do: listen to people of color, call out your friends and other white people when they’re racist, don’t speak over people of color or deny their experiences when they’re talking about them.

And this is a good page on ableist language and substitutes.

anonymous said:

not a gu y lmaoooooooo and yeah/ totally bisexual. i mean. not like you agree with every straight person in the rwby fandom and don't think representation is important and minorities just complain to much i mean. thats so very bisexual of u

im pretty sure bisexual means i wanna fuck both pussies and dicks, not that i have to agree with what you people say

great job showing how much of an oppressor i am by harrasing me on my inbox