replied to your post “callmehabie replied to your post “IMO i question ur views on…”
this is rly important to recog ise and v on point imo and def applies to being trans as well
ty i agree…… i pass as a cis lady IRL so i stay in my own lane as far as trans discourse on here despite the fact that i do not identify as cis in the slightest….. (and i s2g… pls dont gender me) but like…. i don’t have the same kind of experiences as someone who doesn’t pass as cis so like why would i think my onions on transness are More Legitimate or just as legitimate as someone who is Seen and immediately tagged by the public as trans??????? like trans ppl who are Seen by society and labeled as trans have obviously a v different and more thorough perspective bc of how Society Views Them so as someone who is more or less still in the closet as agender (to most of my family despite my best efforts, and most of my IRL friends) i hav no place trying to insert my experiences, u kno??
like….mayb this is untru but, i feel like there are some peeps on the tumbels who identify as something other than het but have only ever been in cishet relationships and they have a lot of opinions on like, gayness
and as someone who can comment on the difference betw dating someone of ur ‘opposite’ gender vs. someone similarly gendered… like…. there is such a difference. and the way society treats a person affects their views like there’s literally no way around it. unfortunately there are just a lot of people that still exist who give 2 many fucks abt the sexual orientations of others and of course the level of homophobia is fading faster than the levels of transphobia that are present in society…. but like its still enough to be impactful to a person
sooooo tl;dr i think ppl w/o lived experiences out of the closete have a limited scope of ‘gayness’ an therefore are not as informed abt the Gay Experience an should probably stay in their goddamn lanes and stop trying to ‘Call Out’ gay ppl on ‘bi erasure’ when they relish in the newfound gayness of a character they loved *coughs so hard their lungs fall out*