that anon was so rude - and well done for handling that really maturely, i'm a virgin and i'm 17 it's not a big deal people live their lives how they want, being a virgin or not doesn't diminish your self worth or value. Just a side note your blog is one of my favourites!
Thank you! :-) I honestly have never viewed people choosing to remain a virgin (or not) as even so much as a topic of discussion. What people choose to do with their own bodies is their own goddamn business, and it is of no concern to anyone else but them. Only insecure people lacking the propensity for respect for others judge people over such a subjective, personal choice. I agree that the decision to have sex (or not) does not diminish one’s worth or value in any way, shape, or form.
Virginity is a completely individual thing for everyone, and people should be free to make whatever decision they see fit based on what feels right to them, not what nosy morons or the ridiculous double standards of society dictate they should do. In the judgmental eyes of society and ignorant misogynists (like the anon I encountered earlier), a woman is “dirty” or a “slut” if she chooses to have sex, but “undesirable” or a “prude” if she chooses not to. It’s a lose-lose situation, no matter which meddling outside influence you’re trying to please. All the more reason to do whatever you want, and fuck what anyone else thinks! At the end of the day, you’re the only one who has to live in your body or deal with the aftermath of your actions/choices, so do what feels right for YOU :-)
(Btw I don’t mean “you” as in you specifically, as you already seem to have a very well-formed perspective on this subject. I mean “you” as a general term, especially for those who need support, guidance, and encouragement in regards to the topic of virginity and human sexuality in general)