Do not message me saying that I’m being ‘victim blaming and abusive’ for leaving a man who made me feel massively uncomfortable.
Who said he was fine with my asexuality but then sent messages to mutual friends like ‘Oh my god Phoenix is wearing nothing but a towel’ and talked about how ~hard~ it was for him.
Who, despite me constantly saying ‘When I’m upset, I need to be left alone’ pressed and pressed to make me ‘open up’ and called the coping method my therapist told me (that helped me survive rape, I’d like to add) was ‘unhealthy’.
Who got so paranoid abut me wanting to leave that he blamed my friends, claiming they’d ‘brainwashed’ me, as if I wasn’t capable of making my own rational decisions.
Who did this twice, in fact, with different friends.
Who, when I tried to leave him by saying I was pretty damn sure I was aro, told me it was a tumblr fad and not to ‘buy into the hivemind’.
Who found out about my plans to leave him (which I was going to talk to him about maturely, face to face) by looking through my computer and finding my messages.
Who was so, so scarily invested in the relationship that everything was an ‘us’ problem and I felt like I was no longer a ‘me’.
Who accused me of cheating for developing feelings for someone who made me feel safe and secure and loved, even though I did not date them until I was out of a relationship with him.
Do. Not. Tell me I am being victim blaming and abusive when you only know his side of things. Do not.
From now on I’ll just be deleting messages like that.