8 Ways To Tell If He’s Actually A Guy Who’s Nice And Not A “Nice Guy”

He Doesn’t Believe in the Friend Zone: A “nice guy” will complain about being thrown into the friend zone, which we know is a fake zone that straight guys use to guilt trip girls they like who don’t reciprocate feelings. An actual nice guy won’t pull the friend zone card because he knows it’s stupid, and he’ll still be your friend even if you don’t have feelings for him.

Nice Guy Syndrome

“Nice Guy™ is a term in Internet discourse describing a man or teenage boy with a fixation on a friendship building over time into a romance, most stereotypically by providing a woman with emotional support when she is having difficulties with another male partner.

There are, broadly, three schools of thought about Nice Guys™:

  1. That they are victims of women’s irrationality or cruelty, in that women say that they want "nice guys” but in fact prefer to have relationships with “jerks” or “alpha [alpha males]” (with the would-be suitor considering themselves to be in the “friend zone”: a romantic limbo of sorts).
  2. That they are using a failed seduction strategy and need to learn or be taught to be alphas or seducers, see Pick Up Artists.
  3. That the Nice Guy™ strategy of “doing things for someone so that she will have sex with me, because women do or should reward niceness with sex” is a sexist construction, of which more below.

The terms Nice Guy™ and Nice Guy syndrome are used to describe men who view themselves as prototypical “nice guys,” but whose “nice deeds” are in reality only motivated by attempts to passively please women into a relationship and/or sex.

Feminists and others have criticized many aspects of Nice Guy Syndrome, mostly arguing that in some ways Nice Guys (often now called “Nice Guys™” with a trademark symbol to distinguish them from men who happen to be nice people) are not actually good friends or nice to their interest.“

Read the full entry on the Geek Feminism Wiki

“Why do girls only date assholes and not good guys like me”
*makes sexist jokes about women needing to be in the kitchen*
*Calls themselves friend zoned when a girl just isn’t attracted to them*
*Calls any girls who rejects them bitches and sluts*

Nah man, if they just liked assholes you’d be surrounded by women.

A lot has been blogged about the fake “Nice Guy” and what is wrong with him. What Christina H wants to talk about is his mirror image, the “Nice Girl” – the female who goes a little nuts after failing to get guys. 

5 Confessions of a Female “Nice Guy”

#5. There Is A Type of Girl Who Cannot Get Any Guy

One of my pet peeves is guys who assume all women are all getting it on whenever they want, and that it’s only guys who worry about not being able to get a date. There’s no such a thing as a woman who can’t get a man, the view goes, and if she doesn’t have one, she must just be too picky.

If you’re a woman who can’t get anybody interested in her, like I was for a long time, this is confusing, because apparently you don’t exist. Or at least, you’re not a woman – you’re just some weird technicality that is nitpicking a nice rant about actual women.

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