Mylah is “IN” & she speaks :
Hello Hello All!
Happy almost Summer 2014!
The weather here in my beautiful city of Montreal has been pretty good to Us. A few cloudy with chance of real down pour but hey, no complaints because the most wonderful thing is currently happening : NO SNOW! YAY!
SO, in reference to the topic at hand, I decided to fill you all in on my outlook of single parent living because it is a subject that has taken place in my life and I would like to briefly address my pros and cons to it and my overall statement and feelings towards the matter. Now, I do not believe this is the most ideal way of living with all the crazy situations that transpire from this lifestyle; from maturing into a beautiful and well rounded male or female to enduring the utmost hardships and triumphs that take place without the other parent present can be very traumatic, overwhelming and at most saddening. I for one grew up with just my mother at home. My father was around and I was very close with both my grandmothers who helped raise me. I can respectfully say that I love living with my mother and she is by far the most tremendous and strongest person I know. She had me at a young age and has never once steered me wrong and still to this day continues to have my very best interest at heart and partakes in taking care of me. My father on the other hand, we are not as close and have a very strained relationship; almost close to non-existent but yet I still feel that I am a stronger person for being in this type of family-type situation.
In regards to the lifestyle of single parent living, besides the cons previously stated, one must obviously consider if the parent is deemed ‘fit’ to have a relationship and let alone engage in a bond with their child in regards to more extensive matter (i.e different types of abuse, wilful absent parenting). In my case, my father was very much apart of my life up until I was 11.5 years of age when our relationship became distant when I had resided in Toronto for 5 years. The relationship has for sure deteriorated since I have returned back to Montreal and its just been ‘hell-bent’ since.
The pros however to the single parent living is naturally to not have any cases of abuse and neglect present around the upbringing or ever for the child but more so the child ( I was lucky) to have other members of the family and close friends take part in my life as often as possible. The lacklustre relationship with my father of course did some extensive damage but I believe that I am still truly blessed that I have had many people who have entered into my life that have stated and those who came and went and as I look at it, served a purpose for that window of time to help me cope along the way. Today I can say that though I would love for things to be different with my father, I am at a place where I can handle day by day remembering that having a relationship is a two-way street and showing any signs of abuse will NOT be tolerated period.
Single parent living definitely has things to take into account whether good or bad but I strongly feel, that lifestyle is far from the worst and I truly believe that anyone that has endured that is a stronger individual because of it. I know I am.
This was tough for me to discuss with you all but I feel this venue allows me to express my deepest feelings and lets others know they are never ever ALONE in any circumstance and ultimately someone cares for the other and vice versa all around this beautiful place call Earth.
STAY TUNED, now that its just at the cusp of summer, I should be blogging away more! No excuses! Happy reading, blogging, take care xoxo.
Mylah is “OUT”!