As I’m writing this, I have a 2 month old wrapped against me. His little head is resting against me, and he’s dozing quietly. I can feel his little chest moving up and down, and I can hear him snore softly. If I told you that just 10 minutes ago he was inconsolable, screaming his head off like someone was trying to murder him, you’d probably be shocked.
Today has been a very trying day. My two older boys have been on my very last nerve. They’ve made it their job, no, their mission, to fight me about everything. All day long they have done nothing but quite literally demand things from me! Apparently my oldest thinks he can boss me around like he’s the adult, which is news to me. Earlier he told me I better give him his game back or I’d go to time out, and he started counting down! ”3…2…1…, okay mommy, go to time out!” Uh, no kid, sorry, that’s not how things work. Guess who ended up in time out? Obviously not me.
My 2 month old has had one of those “I’m gonna scream my head off for a bottle, spit half of it up, then scream for more” days. Bath time rolled around and the second I set him down in the swing, he started with the screaming. I’m talking the kind that get your neighbors contemplating calling CPS type of screaming. So I told my other two to get undressed and ready for the tub, threw on a wrap, swooped up the baby, got him in snug, and put the other two in the bath. After a few minutes of getting him to calm down, he was out. I could finally breath easy and stop pulling chunks of hair out of my head.
In this moment, I took a step back and appreciated the moment for what it was; me snuggling my baby while I had free hands to bathe my rambunctious kids. In this moment, it doesn’t matter what kind of carrier you’re using. The price doesn’t matter. The style doesn’t matter. The name brand doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’re creating a memory that you’ll cherish forever.
As a new babywearer, it’s so easy to get caught up in the hype. ”Oh look at this wrap!” ”This carrier is so cute!” ”I have to try this brand!” ”This one is expensive but so gorgeous!” ”I don’t feel like a real babywearer unless I own this many wraps” I spend 99.99% of my internet time browsing B/S/T groups, looking at wraps and carriers that are way out of my price range. I try to talk myself into buying one or two “Well, if this person will take payments, I can totally get it!” I nearly did that today, even though I literally just bought a new wrap this morning! I stopped myself, and I’m glad I did.
My point is, try not to loose sight of what babywearing is all about. I’m new to it, 2 months to be exact, and I wish I did it earlier. Not for the wraps, but for the memories, for the quiet little moments that babywearing creates. The bond that you make while wearing your little one is something you’ll always remember, not what brand of wrap/carrier you were wearing at the time.