Of course some tumblr feminists are also misandrists. So? Shall we say that misandry is a direct consequence of feminism? Maybe they had really horrible personal experiences with men, so horrible that they can’t help but generalizing? Some of them might be victims of rape, or abuse. Should we expect a victim to be perpetually apologetic and respectful because ‘not all men’? Some of them might be simply shitty feminists. Do I, as a feminist, have to apologize on behalf of them?
Let’s be real, anyway. A certain degree of resentment among oppressed groups towards their oppressors is understandable. I won’t go tell black people to stop generalizing, to stop talking shit about white people because ‘not all white people’. I may not agree with their ideas, but I get where they’re coming from. Oppression, frustration, marginalization, both on a personal and on an historical level.
When you look at women, as a whole, as the oppressed group in terms of gender discrimination, you will understand that misandry is just toothless compared to misogyny. Misandry doesn’t affect every aspect of our society, on a global level, like misogyny does. It can’t, because as much as women will rant about men, we don’t wield any actual power. We don’t have control on institutions, we aren’t the dominating presence in most countries’ governments, we aren’t spreading hate on top of a millennium-long tradition of seeing men as inferior human beings.
So forgive me if I’m not TERRIBLY concerned with misandry. Never mind that most of (if not ALL) the issues suffered by men aren’t a consequence of misandry, but of sexism and toxic masculinity — less masculine-looking men are shamed, marginalized and victimized because our culture expects men to be aggressive, physically bulking, never showing any interest or inclination towards traditionally “feminine” occupations; men generally lose their legal battle to get child custody after a divorce because society still thinks that women are ‘genetically’ predisposed to take care of children; men are obligated by law to pay their ex-wives alimony because women are still viewed as incapable of looking after themselves, and there’s still this logic that once a woman is divorced, she’s “ruined” forever (‘cause marriage is still seen as a woman’s primary and most important goal in life, you know) (it’s also a hypocritical consolation prize that society grants to women while being perfectly aware that it’s way harder for women to find a job, keep it, and earn just as much money as men of the same age do. just saying); etc.