(cont) against them. We then stopped talking for a month and I since met another guy also in the army, who is on paper an “upgrade” from “A”. He has a much better position, lives on his own because he is an offcer and isnt in the barracks, better car, more educated, financial stable, ready to settle down, (they even look alike), etc. I know I should say fuck “A” he gave up on us and now I have someone who is like him, just “better”, but I cant. Im still drawn to him. I caved and msg him today. he feels the same way. Now idk what to do. The other guy on paper is perfect and great marriage material, but I feel like he likes the idea of me more than actually me. He never trys to get to know me, just talks about us being together and getting married.help….:(
goodness gracious girl! you have an adventurous life! im jealous! i dont even know where to begin here haha.
first off. there is nothing wrong with long distance relationships. could you imagine if i cheated on my husband just because he’s 6000 miles away for a year and we are only promised to see each other once? the plus side to being with someone you love is patience. there is Skype, texting, calling, messaging, etc that long distance relationships dont feel so distant anymore. so i dont want the distant to be something thats drawing you away from A.yall can date long distance and see each other a few times a year. i dont suggest marriage, you do NOT know him well enough. before marrying a guy you should see him drunk, see him when he’s sad, and see him on a bad day. once you see his reactions in those situations, you can learn alot about a man.
im curious to what else he doesnt have compared to this new guy, im gonna call new guy B ok? im just gonna assume A is new to the military so he’s low ranking, no car, lives in the barracks, just got out of highschool, doesnt have much money besides what he’s earning now. and B is obviously doing a bit better than him.
this is when you ask yourself what you’re looking for right now. a husband? a boyfriend? a long distance boyfriend? a boyfriend whos around here?
being honest, B is not “the one”. if he was, you wouldnt being giving A the thought of day. and you can see yourself that he doesnt even get to know you! what is that! looks like he’s liking you for something else (you obviously must be extremely good looking, smart, or be good in bed if yall got there yet lol). love like that is temporary and divorce aint fun nor cheap honey.
take your little booty back to A. give him time to grow. he will be where B is in life, it just takes time. while he’s getting there, you work on yourself and goals so when you ARE ready to possibly marry the guy and move with him and such, you’ve done everything you need to do. he seems like “the one”. you guys have a connection you will never get with anyone else, i promise you that, so dont let him go just yet. :)