How to Leave the Past Behind

When you’re feeling overwhelmed with your sadness and loss, it’s hard to believe that your life will ever change, or you’ll ever be able to smile or laugh again. But the truth is you will – it won’t always be this bad – and there are things you can do help move on with your life:

1. Decide to face your pain. An unresolved past never really goes away. You may think you have buried your anger and pain but the hurt is still there and it will surface later on. If you don’t face what happened, and the feelings it unleashed, you will end up being ruled by your subconscious mind. So try and find the courage to revisit all the pain.  

2. Accept there’s nothing you can do to change the past. What’s happened has happened, and what’s done is done. There’s nothing you can do to turn back the hands of time, or to rewrite the story so the ending’s happier. But you can change how you think, and you can start over again, and build a different future that’s not poisoned by the past.

3. Be grateful for the good times. There’s usually something good that you can be thankful for. You don’t have to pretend that everything was bad – or write off any good times and happy memories.

4. Consciously let go and set your focus on the future - Don’t let the baggage, or the failures of the past, affect your identity or self esteem. You are NOT what you did, or how you acted previously. You’re not just a product of what happened to you. You are valuable, unique and you have so much to give. You’re the author of your future; you control your destiny.   

5. Remove your past from your future. We all have a tendency to think that the past will morph into our future – and become our lot in life. But that doesn’t have to happen. The future’s a blank page. You can change your expectations – and work towards those goals. Instead, look hard for the exceptions – the times when things went right – and notice what you did that resulted in success. You still have those same strengths, skills and great qualities.

6. Be realistic and take small steps at first. You can’t snap your fingers - and find that life has changed. Accept it will take time, and you will still have some bad days – but if you keep on going then the past will lose its grip.

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Good Girls - 5 Seconds of Summer 

[This song is off of their first self-titled album which is set to be available for pre-order on May 14 (in AUS).]

If you’re in the 5sos fam you’ve probably only heard the live version of this song and usually, like most live songs, it isn’t understandable, but we have finally gotten the original studio version! Can we just take a minute (or five) to hear how good they sound? The drumming is on point, lets not forget the bass and guitar. Literally, this is more than I expected! 

mikey owned this song so hard. his solo and his commentary parts are ofF THE CHARTS! calum sounds so cute when he says “styoo-dent” baBE. luke and the do dodo do do’s ayy werk et and the few seconds Ashton sings between Lukes do do do’s is panty-dropping worthy fuck i love this band so much

Life choices.

I am a loser. When I think about where I’m going in life I see a dark tunnel that goes on for forever and all it is is nothing, I know what I want to do, but I have no idea how to get there…

I decided that I’m going to go back to Ferris and I’m going to start working towards a creative writing certificate, I love to write but I’m not very good at it so this will help with that and make me feel a little more okay with myself.

I think it’s about time to come to grips with how sick I am, my chemistry has major flaws, and I need real help. My anxiety has gotten to the point where I become crippled, I literally can’t move, sometimes I can’t even cry, I can’t breathe and I feel like I’m imploding. My depression has gotten worse as well, I was previously diagnosed with Dysthymia but I don’t think that’s the case anymore, I slept and cried all day yesterday because I was so sad that everyone I knew was starting college again except for me and I felt terrible for not doing something with my life… I contemplated suicide, and even wrote my grandma a goodbye letter because I was feeling so useless.

I need to stop letting my conditions hold me back, if I’m always too afraid to try I’ll never make it anywhere. I am going to get control over myself again, and I am going to be successful.

I got tagged by idontcarefordiamonds

1) What’s your name? Jessalyn
2) When’s your birthday? March 25
3) Where are you from? South Dakota, US of A
4) Have a crush? Do Alois Trancy, Momotarou Mikoshiba, and Kisumi Shigino count????
5) What are your favorite colors?Periwinkle and Violet
7) Got a favorite band/artist? Demi Lovato, Taylor Swift, Paradise Fears

8) Favorite Number? 12

9) Favorite drink? Pepsi
10) Tag 7 other people: no

i got tagged to do a thing by petras-wings-of-freedom

Name: Menal
Nickname: Minnie, Min, Minnie Mall
Birthday: July 26
Gender: Female
Sexuality: Straight

Height: 5 ft

Time Zone: Eastern Time Zone
What time and date it is there: 3:10, 08/25/2014
What time and date it would be in Antarctica: what
Average hours of sleep I get each night: 7-8, 9 if it’s a good night
RL OTP: Andrew Garfield and Emma Stone Levi and Me
Other OTP’s: Riverta, Percabeth, Jerza, Nalu, Eruri, Eremika, Aruani

The last Thing I Google’d was: how to finish a 327 page book in 5 days
My most used Phrase/s: I HATE ALL OF YOU
First word that Comes to my mind: I
What I last said to a Family member: Yeah Mommy will pick you up but only if you’re not super loud
One place that makes me happy and why: The Bahamas, they just bring back a lot of great memories 
How many blankets I sleep under: 1
Favourite beverage: Reichenbach Recovery Tea

The last movie I watched in the Cinema was: HTTYD 2
Three things I can’t live without: Books, Music, and Wifi
Something I plan on learning: French (and maybe Latin)
A Piece of advice for all my followers: Ok here we go, DON’T FUCKING PROCRASTINATE. 
You all have to listen to this song: The End of All Things - Panic! At the Disco

My blogs: butheichou-no and well this one

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5 Seconds of Summer - SLSP (Live at the BBMAs)