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Matriarchy Lyrics

我不会 耕田吃草 让人下注
I don’t plow, or eat grass; I won’t let you anchor me like stakes
什么理由发明什么叫马子
So why’s there a term like Mazi?*
(Mazi is a Chinese slang to call girlfriend, sorta like bitch/work-horse)
难道是想让匹马为你生个儿子
Don’t tell me all you need is a horse to bear your son
有没有兄弟聚会那些幌子
Party with your pal is a good cheating excuse
还可以煮好宵夜当做没事
You think I don’t know? Even though I look calm as I’m making a midnight snack
仔细想想你就会知道谁才是傻子
Think about it and we’ll see who is the fool

我笑得柔软 心却比铁还钢
I smile softly, yet my heart is tougher than steel
世界男人称王 女人却什么都扛
Men proclaim to be king in this world; but it’s women who shoulder the burden
不要再说要进厨房能出厅堂
Don’t say we must cook well in kitchen and look nice in public
不要再说 要会铺床又能着床
Don’t say we must make the bed and be good at sex
这个世界没有女人该怎么办
What if there are no woman in the world?
你想 你想
Think about it; you think about it

不要以为西装革履就是战袍
Don’t think only suits and ties are armor for battle
不要以为 浴帽围裙就是渺小
but that shower caps and aprons are insignificant
信以为真 连续剧里的那一套
do you think this is a period drama?
皇上 吉祥
‘Huangshang,jixiang.’ *
(This is a term when imperial concubines greet the emperor, meaning ‘Auspicious, Your Majesty.’)
简直可笑
Such ridiculousness!

我记得 你最喜欢 哪双袜子
I remember which socks are your favorites
朋友聚会 演戏 让你有面子
I play it cool at your friend’s party to save you face
难道我没有发现你目测谁的Size
Do you really think I didn’t catch you eyeballing boobs?
我记得女娲补天岳母刺字
I remember nvwa and yuemu*
( Famous women character in legends and history)
你只讲少说多做相夫教子
But you tell me to be quiet and be obedient
仔细算算 最值钱的 只是结婚戒指
Turns out the only thing you gave me that was worth anything was the price of the ring

我笑得柔软 心却比铁还钢
I smile softly, yet my heart is tougher than steel
世界男人称王 女人却什么都扛
Men proclaim to be king in this world; but it’s women who shoulder the burden
不要再说要进厨房能出厅堂
Don’t say we must cook well in kitchen and look nice in public
不要再说 要会铺床又能着床
Don’t say we must make the bed and be good at sex
这个世界没有女人该怎么办
What if there is no woman in the world?
你想 你想
Think about it; you think about it
不要以为西装革履就是战袍
Don’t think only suits and ties are armor for battle
不要以为 浴帽围裙就是渺小
and that shower caps and aprons are insignificant
信以为真 连续剧里的那一套
you think this is a period drama?
皇上 吉祥
‘Huangshang,jixiang.’ * (‘Auspicious, Your Majesty.’)
简直可笑
Such ridiculous!

你可以抱我重复爱我的台词
You can hold me and repeat the same staged words that you love me
我不相信你有放弃我的Guts
you don’t have the guts to let me go
我无所谓女人就该是这样子
I don’t care what you think women should be like
安静 该死
Shut up, fuck off
不要以为西装革履就是战袍
Don’t think suits and ties are the only armor
不要以为 浴帽围裙就是渺小
and that shower caps and aprons are insignificant
信以为真 连续剧里的那一套
you think this is a period drama?
皇上 吉祥
‘Huangshang,jixiang.’ *(‘Auspicious, Your Majesty.’)
简直荒唐 无聊
Such ridiculousness, pathetic
荒唐 无聊
Ridiculous, pathetic

Hi I’m Tessa

This is me now ⬇

That’s my boyfriend next to me! I’m about to graduate high school and head to college and I realized that I really haven’t accomplished much lately. I’ve been pretty lazy tbh. I’m ready to change that. I want to start drawing again for one..

I drew that and I am ridiculously proud of it!! Anyway, I decided to make this blog to inspire myself to do more cool shit by sharing what I do. Here’s what’s coming up

1. A graphic novel on Socrates’ idea that having a conversation is like giving birth

2. A graphic novel on the matriarchs of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam

3. A “My Body My Choice” inspired photography project.

Stay tuned!! xx

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Pre-Islamic, even … pre-patriarchal Triple Goddess: al'Lat (Crown Goddess), al-Uzza (The Mighty) and Manat (Nemesis). This triple Goddess was the most important solar female deity in the Arab world, long before was born patriarchy. When born male deity cults, three goddesses became the daughters of Moon-god - Sin. The most sacred place (Sanctuary of al'Lat) was on east of Mecca/at Ta'if (Mecca at that time was just a bazaar). Symbol of the Triple-Goddess, which arabic tribes worshiped - was plain, black stone! But later cult of male god-Sin became overriding and after the birth of Islam, all the old symbols of the goddess were attributed to Allah. However…. Did you know that Great Goddess al-Lat was called in old times: al-lla-ha?? Is this a coincidence? I wonder … ;)

How to Write a Matriarchy

I don’t see a lot of matriarchies in fiction and that saddens me. It also saddens me when people say there is a matriarchy BECAUSE. Hence, this post.

Free/easy to access birth control. Number freaking one, guys. If women have reproductive freedom, they aren’t tied down for years at a time caring for their children, who really can’t be left alone until they’re eight or nine. That’s eight or nine years stuck in one place. Unwanted pregnancies also tie girls to abusive or unloving relationships. Easy access to birth control would alter society’s view on virginity and promiscuity as well. No one will know how much sex you’ve had if you can control the most negative side effect.  

Different emphasis on childcare. Women are equated with motherhood and all that entails, especially childcare. Women are necessary to feed the baby until it’s weaned, but they are not necessary to teach their child to walk, talk, or play baseball. If, for example, cultural norms stated children had to be raised by their grandparents or by a group instead of by individuals, then women are free to do other things. Like run the government. And mothers aren’t even necessary for feeding the baby, because there are wet nurses and (if your society is sufficiently advanced) formula.

Matrilineal inheritance. Western culture’s basic unit is the married couple and their children. Families are patrilineal – the married woman takes her husband’s surname and their children also take his surname. This has led to problems. Men want to know their inheritance is going to their biological children, which discourages female promiscuity and glorifies virginity. What if your culture was matrilineal? Women pass property to their children and they will always know which ones are theirs, making the father irrelevant or at least less important. If he suspects the child isn’t theirs, there might not be much he can do, since all the goods go to the kid solely because it’s hers. Matrilineal inheritance would also allow male promiscuity because any woman he would potentially impregnate needs not enter his family. Matrilineal inheritance might also result in the woman being seen as the center or focus of the family (the paterfamilias, as it were), as it is through her that inheritance runs.

Family structure. As I just stated, the basic unit is the married couple and children. As a woman, you’re either married or a spinster. If society were communal, then perhaps single women would not be as strange. There’s always something to do in a group other than churn out children, like doing something that will earn the group money. Also, if the marriage is not as important as the community, then members would theoretically have more freedom to terminate it, allowing women – and men – to leave abusive or unfulfilling relationships.

Religious justification. It always helps to have some spiritual backup. If you can justify female superiority in a few early religions, then you have the basis for a powerful belief in the natural role of women as leaders in the era your story is set in. You should probably draft a few mythical/legendary women/goddesses who rule the heavens, dispense justice, or do whatever role you’ve prescribed women in your society. You should also make a few tales detailing what happened when men tried to take over – or what happens when men take the lead. Think of a reverse Pandora’s Box or reverse Eve eating the apple.  

One last note. Matriarchy does not equal utopia. There will be plenty of societal problems you need to address. I postulated a communal system could result in a matriarchy. Divorce might not be a big deal, but leaving the community would be. A matrilineal system in a matriarchy could result in rampant sexual activity in both sexes, which would in turn pass STDs to children. It may also involve the devaluation of men, since titles come from women. The MRAs of today might actually have a point in your matriarchy. Do not assume a world ruled by women will be utopic. Women are just as violent, just as power-hungry, just as greedy, and just as inclined to prejudice as men, especially if they’ve been told from birth that they deserve it. Also, all these topics (excepting perhaps religious justification) have led to egalitarian rather than matriarchal societies in our world. Doesn’t mean that it will in yours. Have fun with this!

Separating marriage from child rearing: The Mosuo of China.

By Jonathan Harrison, PhD

In the Yunnan and Sichuan provinces of China lives a small ethnic group called the Mosuo. Among the Mosuo, romantic and family life are separated into different spheres by design. Children are usually raised in the home of their maternal grandmother with the help of their mother. She may maintain a long-term, monogamous romantic relationship with the father but, unlike in the West, this is considered separate from her role as a mother.

The role of the biological father is discretionary.  There is no word in their language, in fact, for husband or father.  A father is allowed, but not required to provide financial support and he is usually permitted to visit the mother and their child(ren) only at night. They call it “Axia” or “Walking Marriage.” The children’s primary male role models are usually their uncles, who remain under the authority of the children’s grandmother as they live under her roof.

From the Mosuo point of view, separating marriage from the raising of children ensures that the vagaries of romance do not disrupt the happiness and health of the child and its mother. Nor can the father wield power over the mother by threatening to withdraw from the marriage. Meanwhile, because the family of origin is never eclipsed by a procreative family, the Mosuo system reduces the likelihood that elders will be abandoned by their families when they need support in old age.

“Think about it,” writes an expert at Mosuo Project.

Divorce is a non-issue…there are no questions over child custody (the child belongs to the mother’s family), splitting of property (property is never shared), etc. If a parent dies, there is still a large extended family to provide care.

This way of organizing families is an excellent refutation of the hegemonic view that children need the biological father to live under their roof (and by implication, to be their patriarch). You can learn more about the Mosuo in the documentaries The Women’s Kingdom and The Mosuo Sisters.

Image: A 78-year-old grandmother with her family (from Gender Across Borders).

Dr. Jonathan Harrison earned a PhD in Sociology from the University of Leicester, UK. His research interests include the Holocaust, comparative religion, racism, and the history of African Americans in Florida. He teaches at Florida Gulf Coast University and Hodges University. 

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Freestyle Friday: FemDom

  1. The possibly one of the most social viverrids (which really isn’t saying much), lady binturongs (Arctictis binturong) are the dominant partner when paired up, in both size and attitude.[x]
  2. Spotted hyenas (Crocuta crocuta) are the first mammal that comes to mind, their female favoring hierarchy that starts straight out of the womb and ambiguous external genitalia are common knowledge.  [x]
  3. The pint sized dwarf mongoose (Helogale parvula) society is similar to their meerkat cousins. The dominant female of the group of anywhere from 12-15 is the one that calls the shots and has exclusive breeding rights.[x]
  4. Another famously matriarchial mammal, the female African elephant (Loxodonta africana) lives in a cow led and nearly cow only herd, young male offspring don’t tend to stick around once they can fend for themselves. [x]
  5. The New Mexico whiptail (Cnemidophorus neomexicanus) takes it one step further, getting rid of males altogether. The reproduce via parthenogenesis, so it’s always ladies night. Despite not needing males, they need a bit of hot lesbian lizard on lizard mock mating (as seen here) to stimulate egg production. [x]
  6. Aggressively defending her territory, the polyandrous pheasant tailed jacana (Hydrophasianus chirurgus) leaves the tending of eggs to her mates.  [x
  7. Far more vividly colored than the green males, the red and blue of the eclectus parrot (Eclectus roratus) hen is both a “hello boys I am here” signal and “watch out ladies this is my nest” warning they will violently enforce. Cocks blend into the forest’s colors since they forage far and wide for food, while hens stay at home pampered and happily accept food offerings from sugar daddies that might not be their offspring’s father when hubby is out. Wiki says that they are polygynandrous, though males are less than pleased when they see other males at her doorstep [x]
  8. The female emu (Dromaius novaehollandiae) has no time for caring for her eggs, which is the male’s job.  She is the one who woos her mate with sweet moves and deep baritone booming, and fights rival females for them. After laying, she struts off into the sunset to find another man to seduce.
  9. European honey bee (Apis mellifera) queens. Eusocial animals are stuff of legends, you can’t get much better than a queen. A huge chunk of arthropod species have larger and longer lived females compared to males, far more than mammals. [x]

This is a teeny tiny minuscule list, species chosen mostly had to do with picture quality/consistency!