Oldie but goodie: As Twitter user @MrPooni points out, this is worth a reshare today.

The list of what 9-year-old boys don’t like about being boys:

  • Not being able to be a mother
  • Not supposed to cry
  • Not allowed to be a cheerleader
  • Supposed to do all the work
  • Supposed to like violence
  • Supposed to play football
  • Boys smell bad
  • Having “a automatic bad reputation”
  • "Grow hair everywhere"

Gender norms are the worst. So is growing hair everywhere, I guess. (h/t BuzzFeed)

I’m not scared of desperately uncool cultural reactionaries like Jack Thompson or anti-witchcraft Harry Potter burners. I’m scared of the people who do hold cultural power, who have the loud voice, who are, in fact, the cool kids, but think they’re embattled underdogs. I’m scared of the people who think that because disco was “taking over music” they had the right to “fight back” bullying and attacking disco performers and fans.

I’m scared of people who look at someone like Zoe Quinn, an individual who makes free indie games, or Anita Sarkeesian, an individual who makes free YouTube videos, and honestly think that these women are a powerful “corrupt” force taking away the freedom of the vast mob of angry young male gamers and the billion-dollar industry that endlessly caters to them, and that working to shut them up and drive them out somehow constitutes justice. The dominant demographic voice in some given fandom or scene feeling attacked by an influx of new, different fans and rallying the troops against “oppression” in reaction is not at all unique. It happens everywhere, all the time.

But let’s be honest: It’s usually guys doing it. Our various “culture wars” tend to boil down to one specific culture war, the one about men wanting to feel like Real Men and lashing out at the women who won’t let them. Whenever men feel like masculinity is under attack, men get dangerous. Because that’s exactly what masculinity teaches you to do, what masculinity is about. Defending yourself with disproportionate force against any loss of power? That’s what masculinity is.

A 9-year-old boy’s list captures the problem with “being a man” 

When we talk about the unreasonable expectations of gender roles, we’re normally talking about women. But a 9-year-old boy made a good point: Men face a lot of pressures too.

The boy made a list of all of the things that he doesn’t like about being a guy, and his answers are incredibly spot-on. While it’s originally from 2012, the list went viral on Twitter on Thursday as part of International Men’s Day

Masculinity problems that often go undiscussed | Follow micdotcom

The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men to enact rituals of power that will assault his self-esteem.
—  bell hooks
  • Tumblr:Women should be able to do what they want without society judging them and making them feel insecure about it!
  • Men:*feel insecure about doing certain things because of societal pressure*
  • Tumblr:Haha, masculinity is so fragile!
In one survey, women and men were asked what they were most afraid of. Women responded that they were most afraid of being raped and murdered. Men responded that they were most afraid of being laughed at.
—  Michael Kimmel, “Masculinity as Homophobia: Fear, Shame, and Silence, in the Construction of Gender Identity,” Toward a New Psychology of Gender

16 stunning images shatter the emasculated stereotypes of Asian men

What makes a man handsome? 

Whatever your opinion, few can argue that these metrics are inclusive. The American beauty standard is undeniably a white standard, and people of color are bombarded with words and images that celebrate features they, as a matter of genetics, do not possess.

It’s part of why Idris + Tony, a Brooklyn, NY-based fashion photography duo, embarked on the Persuasian project earlier this year. 

"[Asian] masculinity wasn’t acknowledged," Tony Craig said. "It was stripped away … And the way Asian men are depicted in popular culture, [we’re] never the object of desire … we’re still very much ‘just a friend.’”

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Important Facts About being a Real Man:

  • All men are real men
  • Feminine and androgynous men are real men
  • Trans men are real men
  • Real manhood will not be lost or damaged by listening to women, learning from women, or working for women
  • Stringent requirements for being a real man: 1. be a man
  • Men who hurt people are real men, they have a problem but it isn’t being insufficiently real or manly
  • All men are real men
  • Except this one
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There is only one emotion that patriarchy values when expressed by men; that emotion is anger. Real men get mad. And their mad-ness, no matter how violent or violating, is deemed natural—a positive expression of patriarchal masculinity. Anger is the best hiding place for anybody seeking to conceal pain or anguish of spirit
—  Bell Hooks, The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love p. 7
Oftentimes when I am in a place occupied by butches and men, masculinity becomes a kind of currency. Butches start talking about how they’ve “fucked more girls” than the men, “gotten more pussy,” and are “better in bed.” Their sexual partners become objects rather than humans.

If there are women in the room, their objectification seems to be a bonding mechanism for the butches and men, laughing about who has the best ass, the best tits, who they’d fuck or not fuck. I can show a picture of my girlfriend to a man and know I will get instant respect from him based on her attractiveness. I know that because I’ve done it in the past, and that respect felt good to me, like my masculinity was confirmed by “the source.”

And that, my friends, is unbelievably fucked up.

Amazing photos prove “masculinity is not, and has never been, the sole domain of men”

What does your masculinity look like?

Vancouver-based photographer and self-proclaimed “gender terrorist” S.D. Holman gives us an answer with BUTCH: Not like the other girls, a photography project that delves into female masculinity and demonstrates that the “butch” identity is very much alive and well in 2014.

I always had a fucked-up view on masculinity. My father was a gun nut like Hemingway. He was also a junkie and a bully, mainly to prove he wasn’t effeminate, even though he was a painter and a poet, a mime and a storyteller. Every primitive culture has a puberty ceremony where children become men. Jews still have it, but it’s all religious nostalgia. For the most part, super-modern or industrialised societies don’t have them any more. We only have the harrowing journey – war in particular. If a man comes back from war, everyone agrees: ‘Here is a man.’ My dad told me that when he got back from Vietnam, his family agreed: ‘By golly – you look like a man, Jeff.’ I think the withholding of a puberty ceremony from young men in our society is a scheme which has been cunningly devised to make young men go to war. It creates an eagerness to fight; it’s an aggression that stems out 
of insecurity.

saltysamgirl asked:

1) I have one story I find interesting, kind of in response to all men who think that women/feminists should care more about discrimination against men. So my mother is a teacher in school, and she made a survey in her school, on kids 13-16 years old, about gender roles and gender discrimination in school. Some of the questions were about boys i.e. "Do you agree that boys should be taller and stronger than their girlfriends" or "Do you agree that boys shouldn't cry".

2) And guess which gender agreed more with statements like this? That’s right! Only 30% of girls agreed that boys shouldn’t be allowed to cry, against 70% of boys who thought that it’s true. So, men: it’s not women who limits you and set standards for masculinity. It’s patriarchy. If you’re really bothered by things like this, you should try to destroy this system, not feminist movement.

My sister just posted this on her Facebook and literally 20 people like it and I can’t even fathom how dumb it is to measure a man’s worth by his ability to fire a weapon.

I’m not gonna open a can of worms about gun control and whether or not we need to allow guns, but I wonder what would happen to gun related crime in the US if we stopped considering guns the height of masculinity and stopped putting such pressure on boys to be masculine?


I was able to recently catch up with Philadelphia Visual Artist shikeith! We conducted an interview about him as a black artist and about his new film, #blackmendream where you can watch here

#Blackmendream (2014) is a social practice activity film that utilizes social media as an outlet to provide contemporary black men a space for emotional expression often denied through intersections of race, and gender. To participate viewers are encouraged to utilize the hashtag to publicly respond to a set of questions asked during the film and engage in discourse about black male emotionality.

So check out out the interview on Black Culture! Comment and let us know what you think!