Bride General of Hannibal VII (2015)

As always: Please do not remove the caption or the source. I would really appreciate that. Thank you guys! Reblog it to the end of time but don’t repost it without a source/link.

The Sources:

  • Abigail: Hannibal  Screenshot Season 2 (Credit: NBC ) [x]
  • Painting: Orlov Denisov by George Dawe [1825]  [x]

Other Bride General of Hannibal paintings:

  • Bedelia du Maurier [x]
  • Dr. Alana Bloom [x]
  • Bella Crawford [x]
  • Margot Verger [x]
  • Beverly Katz [x]
  • Freddie Lounds [x]
Thought of the day: toxic people

Sometimes in life, there are unfortunately going to be people who seem as if they are out to get you. If you’re lucky enough not to come across one of these people, I’m happy for you (honestly I am), but a lot of us have had these kinds of people in our lives..  there are so many different types of bad people, but I just want to talk about manipulative people..

They can make you feel as though you’re constantly doing soething wrong, they can send you into a constant state of paranoia and anxiety, and they can make you think you’re the worst person in the world. 

Please believe me when I say that you are not alone - there are people in this World who unfortunately will make you feel bad, and they will do the same to othher people.. IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU HAVE DONE ANYTHING WRONG.. When they treat you this way, it says more about the type of person THEY are, than the type of person you are. 

You deserve so much better, just remember you are not in the wrong.. Manipulative people have a sly way of making you think you are.. Never think that. You’ve done nothing wrong and nothing to deserve this. It will get better.. people who are bad for you will leave in the end and new people and new friends will come into your life and will show you how important and how good you are. Stay strong and hang in there

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This is so hard for me to post right now because I think I look awful, but there needs to be more reality on here. On the left you can see my super bloated tummy and stomach fat basically hanging over my tights when I bend over. On the right I am slightly twisting my core and sucking it in so a slight definition is apparent. DON’T believe everything you see on tumblr/instagram/facebook, because yes, even those super fit people look terrible sometimes! It’s all about the right angle, lightning and time of the day, not being bloated, flexing and sucking in, etc. Stop comparing yourself to girls and boys on fitness accounts, be your own motivation and love your body so it can love you back!

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Noam Chomsky - “10 strategies of manipulation” by the media

Historically the media have proven highly efficient to mold public opinion. Thanks to the media paraphernalia and propaganda, have been created or destroyed social movements, justified wars, tempered financial crisis, spurred on some other ideological currents, and even given the phenomenon of media as producers of reality within the collective psyche. But how to detect the most common strategies for understanding these psychosocial tools which, surely, we participate? Encourage stupidity, promote a sense of guilt, promote distraction, or construct artificial problems and then magically, solve them, are just some of these tactics.

1. The strategy of distraction

The primary element of social control is the strategy of distraction which is to divert public attention from important issues and changes determined by the political and economic elites, by the technique of flood or flooding continuous distractions and insignificant information. distraction strategy is also essential to prevent the public interest in the essential knowledge in the area of the science, economics, psychology, neurobiology and cybernetics. “Maintaining public attention diverted away from the real social problems, captivated by matters of no real importance. Keep the public busy, busy, busy, no time to think, back to farm and other animals (quote from text Silent Weapons for Quiet War ).”

2. Create problems, then offer solutions

This method is also called “problem -reaction- solution. “It creates a problem, a “situation” referred to cause some reaction in the audience, so this is the principal of the steps that you want to accept. For example: let it unfold and intensify urban violence, or arrange for bloody attacks in order that the public is the applicant‟s security laws and policies to the detriment of freedom. Or: create an economic crisis to accept as a necessary evil retreat of social rights and the dismantling of public services.

3. Self-blame Strengthen

To let individual blame for their misfortune, because of the failure of their intelligence, their abilities, or their efforts. So, instead of rebelling against the economic system, the individual autodesvalida and guilt, which creates a depression, one of whose effects is to inhibit its action. And, without action, there is no revolution!

4. The gradual strategy

acceptance to an unacceptable degree, just apply it gradually, dropper, for consecutive years. That is how they radically new socioeconomic conditions ( neoliberalism ) were imposed during the 1980s and 1990s: the minimal state, privatization, precariousness, flexibility, massive unemployment, wages, and do not guarantee a decent income, so many changes that have brought about a revolution if they had been applied once.

5. The strategy of deferring

Another way to accept an unpopular decision is to present it as “painful and necessary”, gaining public acceptance, at the time for future application. It is easier to accept that a future sacrifice of immediate slaughter. First, because the effort is not used immediately. Then, because the public, masses, is always the tendency to expect naively that “everything will be better tomorrow” and that the sacrifice required may be avoided. This gives the public more time to get used to the idea of change and accept it with resignation when the time comes.

6. Keep the public in ignorance and mediocrity

Making the public incapable of understanding the technologies and methods used to control and enslavement. “The quality of education given to the lower social classes must be the poor and mediocre as possible so that the gap of ignorance it plans among the lower classes and upper classes is and remains impossible to attain for the lower classes (See „ Silent Weapons for Quiet War).”

7. Go to the public as a little child

Most of the advertising to the general public uses speech, argument, people and particularly children‟s intonation, often close to the weakness, as if the viewer were a little child or a mentally deficient. The harder one tries to deceive the viewer look, the more it tends to adopt a tone infantilising. Why? “If one goes to a person as if she had the age of 12 years or less, then, because of suggestion, she tends with a certain probability that a response or reaction also devoid of a critical sense as a person 12 years or younger (see Silent Weapons for Quiet War ).”

8. Getting to know the individuals better than they know themselves

Over the past 50 years, advances of accelerated science has generated a growing gap between public knowledge and those owned and operated by dominant elites. Thanks to biology, neurobiology and applied psychology, the “system” has enjoyed a sophisticated understanding of human beings, both physically and psychologically. The system has gotten better acquainted with the common man more than he knows himself. This means that, in most cases, the system exerts greater control and great power over individuals, greater than that of individuals about themselves.

9. Use the emotional side more than the reflection

Making use of the emotional aspect is a classic technique for causing a short circuit on rational analysis , and finally to the critical sense of the individual. Furthermore, the use of emotional register to open the door to the unconscious for implantation or grafting ideas , desires, fears and anxieties , compulsions, or induce behaviors …

10. To encourage the public to be complacent with mediocrity

Promote the public to believe that the fact is fashionable to be stupid, vulgar and uneducated…

being seen as "manipulative"

Hey! I was wondering what you think about adults thinking of neuroatypical kids as “manipulative,” “charming,” etc. surely not everyone who says that is wrong, but it can’t be a coincidence that it’s usually said about neuroatypical kids?

realsocialskills said:

I think that people jump to that conclusion really quickly with disabled kids. “Manipulative” can kind of become a catch-all category for ways to delegitimize a kid’s interests, opinions, and self-advocacy.

Manipulative often translates as meaning things like:

  • “She resists doing what I tell her to do, and tries to distract me so I’ll let her do something else”
  • (without reference to what it is they’re telling her to do, why she doesn’t want to do it, and what she does want to do)
  • (Sometimes this means that she is 12 years old, and she’s resisting doing a preschool curriculum worksheet for the zillionth time)

Or this:

  • “He keeps trying to say things I don’t want to hear, and to convince me that what he’s saying is important even though I keep telling him it isn’t.”
  • (Without reference to what he’s saying, why it matters to him, or why it’s so unreasonable for them to listen to him about it)
  • (Sometimes this means that he’s in pain, and trying hard to tell them and get it to stop, but they don’t believe him or don’t care if he’s hurting.)

Or this:

  • “Other people sometimes believe her about things when I tell them she’s lying”, or
  • “Other people ask for her side of the story even after I’ve told them mine.”
  • (And expecting you to believe the adult automatically that it’s unreasonable to ever believe anything the kid says)
  • (Sometimes this means that they’re hitting her when no one who cares is looking, and they’re afraid that she might eventually convince someone with power that they’re doing something wrong.)

Charming can also mean “other people like this person more than I do, and more than I think they deserve”.

That said, being manipulative in a bad way is a real thing, and people with disabilities are just as capable of being manipulative as anyone else is.

Being manipulative in the bad sense involves doing things like:

  • Having highly developed skill at getting other people to like them and want their approval
  • Using that skill to ride roughshod over people’s boundaries
  • And/or get them to do things that they don’t want to do or shouldn’t do
  • Convincing people they want to manipulate that they are friends, and not actually reciprocating friendship in a meaningful way

Sometimes people with disabilities are manipulative. More often, they are manipulated. (For instance, adults often have nondisabled kids volunteer to pretend to be the friends of disabled kids. This usually results in the disabled kids being manipulated in really degrading ways and misled about what friendship is.)

Being manipulative is a real thing, but disabled kids are accused of it far more often than they are guilty of it. When a disabled kid is called manipulative, it often means that someone is objecting to their entirely justified attempts to get control over their life. (Which would be seen as normal and acceptable in a nondisabled person their age.)


Watch out for Manipulation

There are going to be a lot of men who will be ruthless in getting what they want, who can and will play you like a fiddle. Some are professionals, while some don’t realize they’re doing it; but either way, you will be the victim if you don’t stay on alert.

The Wikipedia article has a lot of good information about the tactics people will employ and what will be targeted. 

I had a sugar baby friend who unfortunately encountered a terribly manipulative POT recently. I’ve encountered my share of assholes too. Here are some examples of how they will try to control you:

Being hostile or petulant. They will use swears and curses, they will be threatening, they will sound angry and scary. They will set the tone of the conversation, making you keep up or try to adapt, leaving you to improvise and trying to make peace. You rather not have them be angry with you, so you spend a lot of energy to try to make them feel better, spend a lot of time not solving the issue at hand, exhausting yourself eventually. They want to make you surrender and meet their demands out of exasperation. Do not let them take control of the conversation.

Telling you how you feel or what you are doing. “You are angry at me, aren’t you?” “You don’t like me.” “I guess you won’t be coming to see me again.” Somehow they know you so well, that they can tell you what you’re feeling, they know you’re making excuses, or being irrational, and the such. The bias viewed point has been picked, and it is against you. These are accusations, and we often instinctively try to defend ourselves against accusations, we want to try to clear up misinformation; so we sound like we are defensive of doing something we never did, we take time to explain we’re not angry, we’re not trying to hurt him, we do want to see him again, etc. You can end up making promises to prove something to him, you can end up apologizing for something that is totally not your fault, but because you just apologized, you took responsibility. Never good.

Making himself self-sacrificing or noble, usually with you in contrast. “I keep my promises, even if you don’t.” “I trusted you and gave you my real phone number, yet you lie to me by giving me Google Voice?” He’s such a good person, and he has to put up with you. Once again, it’s to make you feel bad, to make you become timid. He can do no wrong, and everything is your fault. He wants you to be ‘fair’ and repay him, to be as ‘self-sacrificing’ as him, to see how nice of a person he is, so why don’t you do it as well? It’s BS, he has never been kind or fair, and you owe him nothing.

Rapid mood change. One moment he’s nice, sweet, thoughtful, complimenting you; the next he’s upset, devastated, mad. Obviously he was never being sincere in the first place, he’s likely changing tactics when the first emotional tone didn’t get him what he wanted. He was trying to lower your guard, put your trust in him; and when your shields are down, he strikes to tear you down. It could be that he also realized he went to far, and is trying ‘nice’ again to make you forgive him.

Giving an ultimatum, and forcing you to make a decision immediately. “If you won’t do next Saturday, we are through.” “I have better things to do with my time, you know, so I can end this right now if you don’t do this.” He’s a POT/SD because you see an opportunity to get money from him. You’ve invested quite a bit to get him to talk, to see you, to spoil you - and you don’t want to lose all that in a second, so you might listen to him so you can hang on, stay with this investment. He doesn’t care about your concerns or your plans, and he’s just got you to agree to something you didn’t think through on.

Flattery. He’s trying to charm you into sleeping with him, or forgiving him for not bringing money. “You are so kind and understanding, you’ll let me go this time, won’t you?” “You are so smart and mature! I need to meet you this weekend!” Being praised or complimented can make us be more lenient or agreeable to his demands or suggestions. Don’t fall for it.

Woe is me, and you don’t care. “Why can’t you understand my terrible situation?” “I’m so lonely, I feel so disappointed, why did you have to cancel?” Likely, he’s making a big deal out of nothing, he felt insulted by the smallest of things. He wants you to baby him and to comfort him. He is suffering, can’t you see? Coincidentally, it was you who made him suffer, or you’ve just added to his sadness. He’s trying to guilt-trip you into doing what he wants. Leave him in his pit of sadness.

There are endless tactics they will use, and you really need to have a sensitive nose to smell out bullshit. You need to be aware of the situation and what direction it’s going in, you need to be aware of your feelings so they can’t change it, you have to see, recognize, and understand what he’s trying to do.

Some more links on emotional manipulation/abuse; plus derailing, because it can be relevant.

Stay alert, and stay safe.

Facts about former friendships/ relationships

•You can be upset if someone hurts you
•You can be angry if someone hurts you
•When you are hurting, your emotions are valid
•Whenever, your emotions are valid
•Use second chances sparingly
•Fool you once, shame on them. Fool you twice, again shame on them
•Looking at their page will do nothing but make you more upset. Don’t do it
•Sometimes talking it out to someone can make it all better. Sometimes
•Realizing someone is toxic after you’re already out of a relationship with them does not make you stupid or naive
•When threatened, liars will always lie
•Physics tells us everything wants to be in equilibrium. The world will someday balance itself and you’ll get yours
•Sometimes people leaving you is the best thing they will ever do to you
•Someone in this world is on your side. Find them
•Someday you’ll see them and won’t even bat an eye and it will be fantastic
•Its okay if that day is not today
•You’ll get through this