#268 Because of Miss and Mrs.
Tumblr blogger The Middle Eastern Feminist :
"Because we are taught that women are defined by their relationship to their fathers or husbands- their male guardians. Because we are taught that we are handed over as possession from one male guardian to another. Because we are told that our worth is interchangeable according to our status towards men, ignoring the fact that cis gendered heteronormative relations are not the only form of relationships. Because we are taught that our identities are not defined by us, that we do not have agency, and that it is the men in our lives and our relationships with them that determines who we are as women and as humans.* The importance of feminism in this regard is crucial and a moral imperative!”
"This is not a criticism of women who choose to get married and are happily engaged in matrimony. However, we are all political agents who repeat and reflect historical and culturally established practices that reflects a limiting view of human relationships- one that is heavily based on human ownership. But it is through having these types of conversations that gender and marriage equality has become possible within traditional relationships; and more diverse and complex human relationships are emerging, allowing expression of humanity that is more inclusive and empathy based ."
As mentioned in previous posts, feminism is not an ideology that exists to crush women who make traditional choices. It is simply about questioning and analysing both the “traditional”* options and why that choice is made. It is about raising awareness about the fact that we have choices and do not have to follow the blueprints society has set out for us. It is about raising awareness of the history of those blueprints and their purpose. And it’s about clearly stating that we are free to make choices and should be free from judgement and criticism when chosing for ourselves.
1. Read: #155 Because she’s someone’s sister/mother/daughter/wife.
2. A lot of the characteristics, activities and professions that we consider traditionally male or female aren’t that traditional. A lot of our “traditional” ideas about gender, such as girls wearing pink or IT being a male field, aren’t even a hundred years old.