Go and live in a country, far removed from your own. Don’t stay in one place, for the the whole of your days.
Learn another language - even if only the basics. Try. Choose a place that intrigues or terrifies you - a culture you know little about and move there. Pack for a year, even if you do not stay that long.

Speak to the people and bond with them. Even if only for a moment in time - by facial expression or mime, connect. Learn how to eat in this new land. What rituals are meant for which part of day. Learn how to greet; whether to shake hands, hug or kiss. Find what being alive means to them and how love is expressed.

Do not compare it to what you have known, do not belittle it because it is strange. Life will teach you that even strange, is relative. And you are equally as alien to those you find alien, as they are to you. But even strange, is life. And even there, there is love and laughter.

What greater adventure can there be, than to find this out? What greater beauty, for a heart to see? When humanity and kindness, transcends all barriers? Where learning a way, and teaching them yours, can bind?

When the shopkeeper demands that you must stay for tea, don’t leave. Accept. Drink with him in his market stall. Have dinner with your neighbours and sit with them on the floor. Pay attention. Observe how they eat and eat like them too. With your hands, with sticks or even a spoon.

And if it becomes too much for your heart to bare. If the strange soil conquers your body and makes you ill - leave. Don’t stay. Go home. Eat your mothers cooking. Sleep in the house you grew up in. See the doctor, who treated you as a child. Eat the food that grew your body this big, for a time.

And when you are better, and when you are well. And when you find yourself searching for the food of the places you’ve been. Or receiving strange looks from friends, for the new habits you’ve brought with you home. Pick up your map and try again.

No experience is a waste. However short or difficult. You may not see the change, while it is happening. But you will change, nevertheless. But do not travel, intending to save the world. Do not presume, your way is the best way of all. Be open, be willing. Life has much to teach you still.

—  all this world awaiting, fgabdon
There’s a balance between tender and hard that I’m still learning.
Between soft and fierce.
Between vulnerable and boundaries.
They say the wound is the place where the light enters
But I’m not sure I want any more wounds.
Is this discernment? Or is it fear?
There’s a balance between the aching for
And the no more
And I may be falling in between.
—  Elyse Morgan

I really want to stray away from memorizing and actually LEARN the material. I want to really get a firm hold on what I’m learning. I want to grasp the total concept and be able to use it in multiple ways. I don’t want to memorize. What purpose could that serve?


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When arguments, disputes, heated discussions arise try to take that as an opportunity to embody spiritual disciplines that have, hopefully created a refined Ego-Consciousness.

From this place there is compassion for the ‘opposing side’, their suffering, and delusion. Rather than responding combatively, the spiritual-Ego responds with love, compassion, and acceptance of any fault.

The key is that the spiritual-Ego has the discipline to remain calm, and watch any anger, resentment, “i see it this way”-ness, and just arise and pass. This allows the ‘opposing side’ to feel they are being heard, and even that they have ‘won’, or ‘gotten what they wanted’. No audience, no show: don’t engage in argument, and emotional catharsis.

The spiritual-Ego is able to know within themselves what is truth, right, meaningful, and does not have to convince others or force others to see it their way.


See others as your teachers, as your mirror, as a reflection of what you need in order to grow. Notice when people who reveal your ‘uncooked seeds’, and allow the circumstances to unfold with a new level of consciousness.

Strive to evolve, to learn, not regress into old habits. Integrate your spirituality into all aspects of life, and this will become clear and simple.

There are no easy answers, but if you can remain clam, and centered all the pathways, the divine plan will be revealed to your heart and mind.

Sherlock Holmes, Vulcans, and how logic isn't everything.

Last month, Richard Dawkins said something shitty, as he is wont to do. I don’t want to get into his argument here, because it is personally painful for me to do so and I don’t think it’s necessary for the crux of this post. But it is related, and so I mention it.

I mention it because one of the defenses of his insensitivity (to put it mildly) was that his argument was logically sound. And that’s a point that gets brought up an awful lot in discussions of social justice and in general when someone is called out for doing something harmful. It’s especially a point brought up from men against women, usually as a way of gas-lighting us and saying, “You’re too emotional to get this, let me logic at you in a manly fashion.” It’s sexist, it’s dismissive, and it focuses on one aspect of a situation to the exclusion of all else.

As I said on Twitter in my original thoughts about Dawkins’ asshattery:

This is the kind of argument I see quite a lot from those who tend to hold a lot of privilege & experiential ignorance of the topic at hand. Honestly…it makes me think of that scene in the RDJ/Jude Law Sherlock Holmes. Holmes is holding something in his hand, the end of which is mere inches from Watson’s face. Watson: “Get that thing out of my face.” Holmes replies, “It’s not in your face, it’s in my hand.” That’s what these logical men are like. That’s their argument. TECHNICALLY, they’re right. But the practical application & observation of the situation shows that one can be correct but still wrong. In this situation, the argument can (& has been, repeatedly) made that Dawkins wasn’t minimizing when he was making the comparison. TECHNICALLY, he wasn’t. But functionally, he was. Just like the thing TECHNICALLY was in Holmes’ hand but FUNCTIONALLY was in Watson’s face.

I’m rather proud of that analogy, and I think it quite holds up in general in discussions of social awareness.

Fast forward to tonight. It’s been a long day fighting anxiety and just being wearied in general with people I respect making the classic blunder of saying “but I’m an ally!!” when faced with critique of their allyship. We put on an episode of Voyager to have some background noise while we ate dinner.

The crew of Voyager, Captain Janeway in particular is in a moral dilemma. They are stranded multiple hundreds of thousands of light-years from their home, and stumble upon a civilization that has technology that could theoretically get them halfway home. The problem is that it’s against the laws of this civilization to share that technology with anyone. Janeway agonizes over how to handle this news, recognizing that it would be unethical to take the technology by force, but fearing that she is making her entire crew suffer for her ideals. Tuvok, chief security officer and a Vulcan, serves as Janeway’s moral compass and logical consult throughout the episode, and assures her that she is making the right decision. Then, in a surprising turn of events, Tuvok seals a deal to exchange the ship’s library for the technology, against the rules of the culture and against Janeway’s express orders. This backfires spectacularly (turns out the technology never would have worked with Star Fleet tech), and Janeway learns of her crew’s betrayal.

Tuvok, in his detached and logical fashion, explains that he made his decision out of a desire to spare Janeway pain. His reasoning is that that if he made the trade, it would solve their problem of needing to get home without implicating the captain or causing her to violate her principles.

I’ll be honest, for most of the episode, I hardly paid attention. But suddenly I couldn’t stop watching. This was a story I recognized, and I wondered what direction it would take.

Janeway is stunned and angry. She tells Tuvok how important his relationship is to her, and how that closeness they share has made his actions all the more unacceptable. “You can use logic to justify almost anything. That’s its power — and its flaw.”

I sat with baited breath to see what would happen. This was the part of the conversation when normally someone like Tuvok would retort, “You’re too emotional about this. I only did the logical thing. You just can’t see it clearly.”

Instead, he replies, “My logic was not in error…but I was.”

My logic was not in error, but I was.

My logic was not in error, but I was.

It’s so succinct. It’s so on point.

And it is exactly the sort of thing a decent human being ought to say when called on the carpet for harmful behavior.

anonymous said:

its rly weird everyones asking for non-black poc to support black issues when blacks don't support native american or other poc or anti-war issues abroad. it goes both ways, no? and theres many poc that have received racist bullying from yes, even blacks so why are you forcing other poc to support black issues? Do blacks support other poc issues? because even black solidarity leaders express how the black community doesn't?

It’s rly weird that you think this a controversial issue.

I got like three anonymous asks about this really non-controversial post. No one reblogged my post and I have like 40 followers so I’m super confused as to who these people are/this person is…anyways.

Like, I feel like this ask and the others I’m about to post really demonstrate anti-blackness in action. I don’t know what your experience is but my experience has been witnessing black folks really stepping up for a number of causes including indigenous and anti-war ones and this assumption that there are clear cut black and non-black issues is also anti-black. Like, there are black Palestinians, black south asians, Afro-latin@s and black native people who are affected by those supposed non-black poc issues. 

I feel we owe a lot of the momentum poc have in racial justice work to black people who did that work before us and to whom we owe the term ‘people of color.’ If you don’t feel this way, then stop using the term.

Like everyone has the capacity to have racial bias and be racist…but I, as a non-black south asian, know it’s a categorical lie and just completely, flagrantly wrong to say “blacks don’t support native american and other poc or anti-war issues abroad”…LOL LIES. The only reason I’m even responding to this is because I think it’s important people see this.

Can people let me know some specific instances to highlight this lie? 

The Old Ones Remember

In addition to their unparalleled powers of camouflage, octopuses are equipped with incredible powers of the mind.

Octopuses have evolved a brain and central nervous system comparable to that of vertebrates, endowing these creatures with the ability to learn through observation, and form long-term memories of their experiences. 

The remarkable mental faculties of octopuses, the most advanced among all invertebrates, has made them ideal subjects for research on neurobiology. Scientists continue to call upon the knowledge of the Old Ones study these amazing cephalopods to discover more about the processes of learning and memory.

image source: Portland Aquarium website

reference: Hochner et al. 2006.