The moment a woman is given a voice, an agency over her decisions, given a platform to express her feelings of anger, sadness or disappointment on a comic book show, she’s whiny and annoying.
The moment a female character on a comic book show doesn’t kick ass or is not the television version of cute (which is just hot but dressed down), awkward geek swooning all over the hero* that girls can project themselves into and fuckboys can jerk themselves off to (while at the same time trying to kick out all female presence from nerd culture), she doesn’t deserve the hero’s love or she’s useless.
It’s what happened with Laurel in Arrow and what is now happening to Felicity because she dares to cry from time to time. It’s what is happening to Iris West on The Flash. It continues to happen in every comic book fandom and fandom continues to let it happen.
We aren’t giving other women a chance to be as interesting and important to the shows as these girls we can project ourselves into. We’re telling them because we CAN’T see ourselves in them (though, personally I see myself in Iris West more than I see myself in some of these characters) they’re somehow less valid representations of women. That the independent, strong women that call the hero out on his bullshit are not given a place on television because they “get in the way of the fun”.
Why can’t they ALL coexist? Why can’t we have Caitlin Snows and Iris Wests and Felicity Smoaks and Laurel Lances and Lana Langs and Chloe Sullivans? Why is the only acceptable representation of women you can accept on a comic book show SO LIMITED and extremely narrow?
Why are we contributing to the sexism and misogyny of geek culture, when it’s already crowded with sexism and misogyny?
*Edited to add later: I want to clarify this because it can lead up to confusion: I am not undermining the “awkward female geek” character in any of these shows. I am arguing that the moment they step out of that box and become real women with feelings that dare to fight back the hero they also become “annoying”. What people want is for these characters to be reduced to an archetype that simply agrees to everything our male protagonist wants and says funny and quirky lines from time to time.