It is said that the love for oneself is the greatest love of all.The Golden Rule tells us to “love your neighbor as you love yourself”. You are likely to have heard it many times, expressed in different ways, thinking it is about loving others. Look a little closer though, and you will find that at its very center is the command to love yourself.(According to Tania Kotso).
Accordin to Tania we often make mistakes when trying to identify self love.”Self love is not about being arrogant or egotistical. It is not about comparing yourself to others to determine if you are good enough. It is not about always putting yourself first at the expense of others. It is not about always getting your way. It is not about always winning. It is not about only looking after number one.To love yourself is to be in awe of the miracle of your existence. It is to accept yourself as you are - the “light” parts and the “dark”, the “good” and the “bad” - while knowing that the real you is above the perceived dualities of the physical realm. It is to be willing to receive as much as you are willing to give and do both equally. It is about knowing your values and your boundaries and honouring them. It is about teaching others how to treat you by showing them how you treat yourself. It is about being kind to yourself. It is about looking after your mind, your body and your spirit; all three. It is about knowing you are worth it, not because of what you have achieved or what you look like or what others think of you, but because love is your birthright no matter what.
I think in our day to day life and activities,we often make small selfish decisions and claim we do that because we love ourselves more.Like putting our happiness before anybody elses.We think by putting ourselves first shows that we love ourselves more.But I think we are just being selfish at times.There are times when you feel the need to change certain things in your life without concidering how it will affect those close to you.For example when you decide to take a job in another city without discussing with your family if they are ready to move or not.
Then again a friend of mine told me that selfish people live longer and man who doesn’t want to live long.Am starting to open up to that idea but I dont want to be seen as selfish.’love your neighbour as yourself’In a nutshell, self love is a prerequisite to loving others. Your relationships are only as strong as the foundation of your self love. Release any belief you may hold that loving yourself is selfish or egotistical and replace it with the truth that your very essence is love, that unconditional self love is your birthright. When you know that you are one with the One Source of All Love, that you are connected to every thing and every one, you will know that you cannot possibly experience true love without first loving yourself. You will have discovered the truth that self love truly is the greatest love of all.