One thing that probably pisses me a lot is when White parents adopt Asian kids, and attempts to raise them to their cultural heritage while growing up.
I’m okay with that. But the real problem is you might be raising that child into the wrong set of culture.
For example, in China, there are more than 56 ‘official’ ethnic groups, and more than 10 different Han Chinese languages. And in Thailand, there are many variations of the Tai languages (Including Lao) with their own set of costume, history and cuisine, and different ethnic groups, like Burmese, Malay, Cambodian, Karen, Hmong, Ahka, etc. etc.
Examples of Terrible People:
A good example is when a White family adopted a ‘Asian’ kid, and raised him up being Chinese, learning Chinese language, culture, knowing Chinese families, etc. etc.
Then it turns out the WHOLE ENTIRE TIME, their kid was actually Korean by the time he was in college.
A white family adopts a kid from the Philippines, he learns Tagalog, and goes to search his birth family, and it turns out that they don’t even speak Tagalog fluently, but a Visayan language.
Another example is this White family from Seattle that adopted a “Hmong” child as they claimed/assumed from Guizhou, China, and is seeking to raise her “Hmong” child with other Hmong-Americans.
The problem is that a MAJORITY of Hmong-Americans are from Laos & Thailand, and ALREADY in those country, they have more than 3 different dialects, and over 8 different costumes. They all have their own specific regional clothing, dialect and customs from city to city, and the fact that the White Family wants to raise their self-assumed “Hmong” daughter from Guizhou (A totally different dialect, language, costume, culture, religion, history) in a Hmong-Lao- American culture, is just outrageous. And what if the child isn’t even from Hmong decent? Then they fuck up more.
That is exactly like knowing you’re adopting a Chinese kid, and then wanting to raise them in a Japanese culture.
It’s so pathetic about how limited their knowledge are when they choose to adopt a child from a country they barely even know or come to fully understand.
I encourage people to learn about their child’s family history, before they adopt.
If there are none provided about their birth family background, then the second best choice is to at least provide them the current political “national” language of the country, where at least they can speak the standard dialect/language, and have a chance of communicating with their birth family, if ever they chose so.
Don’t be that family who raised their son Chinese culture, and he turns out to be Korean.
Don’t be that family who is raising their self-assumed ‘Hmong’-Chinese daughter from Guizhou, and raising her in a Hmong-Lao-American community.