A friend recently posted this on Instagram: I’d rather be someone’s shot of whiskey than everyone’s cup of tea. I spent a whole lot of energy trying to be everybody’s cup of tea and a) it wasn’t fun, and b) it didn’t work. I’d wager that we all do this at some point—contort ourselves into people-pleasing pretzels—and I’d also wager that the roots of this often can be found somewhere in our early lives. Who was it that first made us believe something was wrong with us, that something needed fixing? … Those injuries, small or large, are what form our early sense of ourselves. And a sense of our own value is the only way we can parse criticism and rejection—take what’s useful and shrug off the rest.

Do your soul a favor and read Dani Shapiro’s magnificent, breathtakingly candid essay on the titillation of haters and breaking the trance of people-pleasing. Shapiro is one of the most wholehearted and beautiful writers of our time, full of tremendous wisdom on vulnerability and the pleasures and perils of the creative life

Also see Anne Lamott’s definitive manifesto for dealing with haters

More than a century and a half earlier, Kierkegaard considered the psychology of why haters hate

[elliesimple] - Cazy hair recolor ombré

omg ! Cazy’s hair are really not easy to ombré… i add 2 news shades of ombré, hope you enjoy !


if you use my recolor tag me at #elliesimple.

please don’t claim as your own !