jessiray

Cis bisexuals, responding to your posts

Putting this in a separate post to respond to vampireredhead and jessiray. Several other folks raised similar points but I’ll just deal with them all here and link people as necessary. Cis bisexuals who have been collecting, feel free to link to this if you need to.

I did this FAQ style based on the arguments the linked posts were making, and a couple others I saw on reblogs.

Why are you only talking about bisexual people?

  • I am bisexual. Trans people share this label with you. Trans people argue for the validity of this label and try to destigmatize it all over this website and elsewhere (have you checked my bisexuality tag? I do it almost every day). Trans people are trotted out plenty of times to prove the bisexual label isn’t inherently transphobic or binarist, so there should be plenty of room for us to deal with in-house cissexism as needed.
  • I see posts every day from monosexual people, particularly from trans folks who share that identity with that group, to stop conflating their attraction to (or non-attraction) to genitals. Saying “I’m gay because vaginas are gross!” is cissexist and misogynist, saying “I’m a lesbian because penises are gross!” is cissexist and transmisogynist. You may only have sex with cis people and that’s your deal, but placing value judgments (good or bad) about people’s genital situations as related to gender and desire is usually bad for us trans folks.
  • I would like my bisexual communities to be a safe place for me as a trans bisexual.

Are you saying I can’t like people’s bodies as a big part of my attraction/sexuality/sexual identity?

  • No. Just that you should not conflate liking multiple kinds of bodies (esp genitals) with your attraction to multiple genders.
  • I’m asking that you consider the impact that genital-focused discussions have on trans folks, esp AMAB trans folks, because the effects it has on trans people and cis people are not equal.
  • This does not mean you can’t talk about what people do with their bodies or how they do gender or their presentation as a big part of why you like them/are attracted to them. I hope people notice my presentation and like me because of it, not in spite of it. I also hope they don’t conflate my genitals with my gender, too.

But I’m proud I like many kinds of bodies/genitals! That’s what makes being bisexual so great/different!

  • Except it’s not what makes bisexuality unique. For example, a lesbian likes women right? And women can have a variety of genital configurations, right? And lesbian is distinct from bisexual, right? So interacting with/being attracted to people with diverse bodies is not what makes bisexual so great, it’s a reality spread across all identities.
  • Phrasing your desire in this way means you necessarily spread multiple kinds of genitals across more than one gender to describe what makes bisexuality unique. That is conflating people’s bodies with their genders, and that is cissexist. 
  • That does not mean you have to abandon talking about what you like to do in the sack. Merely that you should be more careful and more precise while doing it.

Aren’t you being kinda prude with all this?

  • Not that it’d be a problem if I was, but I’m far from it. I talk about sex and what I like to do with other people ALL THE TIME. I have a nudie blog, have you seen it? 
  • If I were slut-shaming, it would mean I’d have to say “talking about genitals is gross” when I actually said, “conflating genitals with gender is gross”. I also said, “when you talk about desire/attraction to/sex with trans people and you focus on the genital talk, it impacts us in negative ways so could you be more careful with that?”

Furthermore, I spent an hour writing my first post, and an hour writing this response. You’ll notice that I repeat myself quite a bit in this post because in my original one, I laid out things with a lot of precision using the best word economy I could. I ask that cis bisexuals reread the original, and then this post, at least twice before I get any more messages or reblogs about why I’m being such a big meanie about all this.

I responded to vampireredhead and jessiray with an educational post because they asked for one politely. I will not put this kind of effort into posts for folks taking whiny cis shits any time a trans person calls them on some bullshit.

umbrakhaleesi asked:

As a bisexual, I'd like to point out that Leonardo could have been bi, both in real life and in game. In game he's seen hanging around with courtesans. So while he could be gay, he could also be bi... or he could just be a flamboyant hetrosexual. We'll never know for sure.

You might be right, but…

Seriously, are we going to argue about the sexuality of a man who lived 500 years ago? We know he was a great person and there’s no doubt about that. That should be enough for us.

Let’s just leave it here.

filthy enablers the lot of you (except jade)

kan-kara-rindo replied to your postgarciahotspur replied to…

Sobsob actually I would be too self conscious and I can’t group RP so count me outta this adventure ‘A’;;

……..okay

/HOARDS YOU TO MYSELF BUUU <3

garciahotspur replied to your postgarciahotspur replied to…

START IT START IT START IT START IT START IT START IT GARCIA TRAVIS CATFIGHTS 24/7 I WILL HELP YOU RUN IT IF YOU START IT OK

OH MY GOD WHY I PROMISED MYSELF I WOULDN’T DO PUBLIC RPS ANYMORE SCREAM

AND I DON’T KNOW HOW TO MOD THINGS AAAAAAAAAA

residue-of-design replied to your postgarciahotspur replied to…

#danni is the best travis ever

quiet you these are lies

jessiray replied to your postresidue-of-design replied to…

Haha maybe I should make a Samantha blog. I thought about making an “Ask Samantha Sitbon” a while back, but decided I did not have the art skills. (Besides, whoever runs the Garcian blog is just beautiful.)

garciahotspur runs the ask blog and I AGREE IT IS A WONDERFUL ASK BLOG

i….i don’t know how to moderate things so I have no idea how I would run it but I AT LEAST WANT THIS TO HAPPEN. YOU SHOULD MAKE SAMANTHA. DO IT.

i should have anticipated this killer7-induced brainache

residue-of-design replied to your postA couple possibly silly K7 questions for you guys.

i assume they traveled out of the states by boat (cruise liner, etc.) and that the government pays for all of garcian’s travel, considering he works for them. plus, between mills and the gov, that’s the only way he’s getting around

I was thinking government for the travel! Does…does Garcian get paid though? Or does the government just kinda support him enough that he can get that trailer and have food and stuff?

This also is making me wonder about the whole Emir thing. Does the government know he’s Emir? D:

MY BRAIN HURTS KFDJKFDSJ

jessiray:

True. They could be figurative, this is Killer7 after all. Then again, in the “Smiths are Imaginary” vs. “Smiths are real” debate, I’d always pick that they’re real because there’s stuff in game supporting it. And Samantha is in Harman’s room and I’m pretty sure she’s real. But that could just be imaginary Samantha, all in Garcian’s head. Ugh… my brain hurts.

Same!! And in the supplementary stuff there was another guy who saw Harman turn into another Smith, so I personally believe that the Smiths were real. Sorta. Until the end. And I also think that maid!Samantha is imaginary, while the other one is the real her which might be caused by Harman’s influence over Garcian but….I don’t even know dang it Killer7 my brain ow

zetsubouwill:

I’m pretty sure the order is Silver Case, FSR, then Killer7. I base this on the flimsy basis that Tetsuguro refers to Mondo as Kodai, and that Edo’s declared missing but then ends up in the Union Hotel. It gets a bit messy when you throw the Syndrome games in there, and since I’ll never play them I usually don’t factor them in. As for Garcian’s travel, he flies on Iwazaru’s back in my canon at least.

Ugh I so want to play Silver Case and the Syndrome games though :c From the videos I’ve seen on Youtube they look kinda dated, but I still want to just to say I did! also jesus they look creepy as hell and i’m not sure if that’s just uncanny valley or if they’re intentionally like that.

……….LMFAODFKSJHSDKJSKHSUJKFDADSFOJ THIS IS THE BEST EXPLANATION.

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Some pictures of me at the beach last week that I forgot to put on my computer. I look really strange in that one without my glasses.


I don’t know how to smile for pictures.

jessiray replied to your postakhrati replied to your post: also since ghm…

This is exactly how I feel about Bayonetta! Bayonetta is completely aware of and in control of her sexuality in the game. Julliet doesn’t seem to be. It’s more like she’s inadvertantly sexual just so male players can watch her? Idk…

YEAH GUYS THIS :(

MAYBE it’s better in the game, I’ve only watched a bit of gameplay. but dang. playing it like that is just uncomfortable.

Also this commercial was not okay.

jessiray replied to your postlittlereddish replied to your post: Oh man… oh…

Now I’m half way contemplating getting out of this math based field (computer programming) because I suck at math and I could just as easily get employed as a philosophy major.

Do what you want. Study what you love.

I was almost a Biology major, and I struggled with math and chemistry the whole way. I got a D my first semester of Calculus since I didn’t get it and wasn’t trying, and I barely got a C in Statistics, even after study groups and tutoring. It’s important to keep your career prospects in mind, but you should never get into a field of study for the job unless you know you’re going to enjoy that job.