"Don't Hate!" vs. "Don't Hate Yourself, too!"
Ever since I overcame my own personal battle of self hatred, I’ve been in a rush to make sure that I am assisting others to overcome theirs. I’ve been in a rush to spread the precious promotion of self-love, hoping that the mood of the promotion will bring serenity in the air, so that when the wind blows, it will lightly kiss the skin of others so that they may feel the love that is being promoted. I’ve been in a rush to protect others from every iniquitous critic, who proudly spill such acidulous insults out of their mouths that tend to soil the sweetness in one’s confidence. I know what it feels like to be inspired by others to hate yourself so much to the point where loving yourself is fictitious to the mind. I know what it feels like to be a victim of someone who is so talented at being genuinely boorish. In fact, I know what it feels like to be the boor. I was so blind to the chance to love myself completely because all I allowed myself to see were what others thought about me, which influenced me to think about myself in that way, too. Again, I was not always the victim, for I once played a role where I made others become a victim to self hatred, as well. It’s pure criminality to be the person who is always bringing others down to the ground for plenty of absent reasons. I love to spread self-love, I really do, but it’s so hard to do so when others are constantly putting others down.
It’s a very strenuous thing to love yourself. I swear to you it isn’t an over-night type of miracle. The perfume that is scented on the idea of self-love is such a pleasing sense to the nose. The melody that is hidden in the discussion of self-love is so harmonious to the ear. It’s so easy to appreciate the idea of self-love and the promotion of what it’s all about, but when it comes to actually doing it yourself, it leaves you wishing that it is just as elementary as talking about it and hearing about it. I’m personally extremely elated to see self-love become more common and an even easier idea to grasp and I’m more than happy to have some of that responsibility to make sure that the world is seeing the charm that self-love clothes itself in. I love to give plenty of tips and advice on how to start falling in love with yourself and I’m sure God has a pretty long file of all of my prayers, praying that my tips are active in assisting others to love themselves. I want self-love to be a personality that we can all have. I want self-love to be an action that will be easy for us to perform. But, I’m starting to realize something that has truly got me thinking, something that I have very little thought about before. Just like how we need to say, “Don’t rape!” instead of, “don’t get raped,” and “don’t bully!” instead of, “don’t get bullied,” we need to start doing that with self-love. We need to start saying a lot of more of, “don’t hate!” instead of, “don’t hate yourself, too!”
None of us were born to hate others, nor were we born to hate ourselves. Hate is something that is learned, not a natural trait. With that being said, the hate that we may have developed for certain people is something that we were taught, not something that we had since our first day on earth. Being influenced by our prejudice surroundings may have caused that hate to go into action and caused us to be hateful towards others. So many hateful traits and hateful actions are easy to learn from that a lot of us fall right into its facility and end up containing hateful traits and hateful actions. It breaks my heart to see how easy it is to hate someone rather than love someone. Loving ourselves is already hard enough to do and the hate that is given by others only makes it more strenuous. Though we’ve all hated before and though we’ve all had hate hidden within our hearts, it’s time to delete hate from our beings. It’s time to get rid of our hate first so others won’t have a prolific amount of hate on their back while trying to love themselves.
As said before, hate is learned and maybe we’ve learned it from a certain experience we’ve gone through. We all have a story. We all have a tragedy. We’ve all been through a battle. We’ve all wanted to give up before. Personally, any hate that may still be alive in my heart may have originated from my own battle of self-hatred. It may have originated from being exposed to someone who was genuinely rude. It may have been from a grudge that is a battle in itself of trying to let go. Bottom line is that I learned to hate from an experience I’ve gone through before and I think that that’s where a lot of people learn to hate, too - from their past. I’ve learned, and still learning, that the people who I meet in the future are not responsible for my past. Yes, I put my trust in plenty of the wrong people before, but the people who I meet in the future may be different from that wrong group of people. Yes, people have hurt me, but the people who I meet in the future won’t necessarily hurt me, too. Holding a grudge on those who have hurt me needs to be let go in order for hate to leave my heart. I need to forgive those people and remind myself that the people who I meet in the future won’t exactly be just like the people who hurt me in the past. I think that’s an important step in letting hate go. People have been out to get us before, but that’s not everyone’s goal. People have hurt us before, but that’s not everyone’s goal. We tend to fall back on a certain pain we’ve been through and lash it out on others. They may not be like the last person. It’s not their fault for what happened. It’s going to be hard recovering from your past, but it will result in letting all of the hate and unforgiveness flow out of your body.
Forgive your past and forgive those who were included. Forgive yourself and let go of your grudges. I understand how strenuous it is to realize that not every hand that reaches out to you wants to abuse you, but some will reach out to heal you, instead. Let your hate drain out of your blood as you forgive and as you move on. It’s time to let it go. It’s going to be hard, but you have to let go.
Kindness doesn’t have to be anything major. As long as it isn’t mean, rude, disrespectful, etc., it is kindness. Kindness can be giving a smile on a Monday morning because let’s face it, it’s a huge deal when someone smiles on Monday morning. Kindness can be holding the door for someone or complimenting someone. Kindness can be listening to them when no one else is doing so. Kindness can be forgiving someone who has done you wrong. Kindness can be starting the conversation. Kindness can be listening to their choice of music. Kindness can be willing to listen to another side of an argument. Kindness can be offering to improve yourself. Kindness can be sharing your food, which is another biggie. Kindness can be anything that doesn’t resemble hate, whether that hate is rudeness, disrespect, or just flat-out mean. It takes $0.00 to be kind to someone. Why not pay the price?
Loving ourselves is hard to do when hate is such a commonality. It’s so hard to love who we are if we are constantly being reminded that we are hated. Yes, I will continue to spread the promotion of self-love, along with tips and advice on how to do so, but I also want to take some time to acknowledge the fact that it would be easier to do so if hate was removed from our hearts. You got to get rid of your grudge. You have to forgive your past. I never said it would be easy, but it’s such a huge necessity that you do so. Lashing out hate at others who are trying to love themselves is such a horrible thing to do. It’s a win-win situation if you forgive your past and let the hate dismiss itself from your being. You get to move on without your past at your tail, you will have the chance to replace your hate with kindness, loving ourselves will be easier without unresolved hate being lashed out at us, and with all that hatred oozing away from our beings, loving ourselves will be easier for all of us.