anonymous asked:

Hi, the past few months(5 or 6), I've been feeling quite alone and it seems like I can do nothing about it. This is a factor that's pushing my depression and anxiety further. I'm not sure what to do..

Hi Anon,

I’m so sorry that you are struggling with feelings of isolation. Here are a ton of links and tips to help you cope with isolation:

Some common causes of loneliness:

  • Having a hard time with bullying or intimidation at school, college or work
  • Finding it hard to talk to others because of shyness or social anxiety
  • Living away from home for the first time
  • Friends moving away for work or college
  • Growing apart from people you’ve grown up with
  • Unemployment is a really big cause of loneliness and isolation as it means you’re at home all day without the opportunity to make new friends and keep busy. You can also feel like you don’t have much news when you meet your friends, or feel like you don’t want to see people
  • Certain stressful events or worries can be a cause of loneliness, if you feel like you’re the only person going though something or your life is different to people around you.

Coping with loneliness

There are lots of coping strategies for dealing with loneliness and isolation. A lot of them depend on what’s causing these feelings. For instance, if you’ve moved out of home or to a different country for college or a new job, it’s natural you’ll be lonely at first.

If there’s no clear reason why you feel lonely, it might be a sign something’s wrong. Some tips on how to cope:

  • Get busy

Keeping yourself busy is a really effective way of dealing with loneliness. If you’re in a situation where you’re bored or can’t find a job, volunteer with something you care about or think you might be interested in. Feeling needed and useful is really important sometimes.

  • Know you’re not alone

It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. For example, leaving secondary school or college to do something new can be a scary time for everyone. Being unemployed is also stressful. Life feels very different and the future is uncertain. Remember that everyone goes through lonely periods in life.

  • Boost your self-esteem

A lack of confidence can hold you back in social situations. Meeting new people can be stressful when you don’t feel good about yourself. Think of one thing about yourself that others admire, and build on that. See meeting new people for more.

  • Explore your interests

Taking up a hobby you’ve always wanted to get into can help you combat loneliness and isolation in different ways. If you’re on your own in a new place it can be a great way of meeting new people and making new friends. If you’re feeling lonely for no obvious reason, taking up an evening class or sport can help take your mind off it.

  • Enjoy your own company

It might feel weird at first if you’re used to being surrounded by other people. But spending time alone can be really liberating. The freedom to be alone with your thoughts can be a great way of winding down. Try and feel comfortable with just yourself for company.

Generally when we think of people we want to be around, they are people who have a self-assuredness that is attractive to others. Learning to be on your own and like your own company is a step towards this kind of confidence.

  • Try not to worry

Feelings of loneliness often come and go during life. Sometimes the best thing to do is accept your feelings and remember you’ll probably feel better after a while. If you’re lonely because you’re homesick, think about the point in the future when you’ll be reunited with your friends and family (see long distance relationships for more). Also try to enjoy whatever new experiences you’re having away from home.

If you’re persistently lonely for no obvious reason, it can also be a sign of depressionand something you should talk about, whether it’s to family, friends or a counsellor. See getting help for more.

Mind yourself

Sometimes when we feel lonely or isolated, we can become more vulnerable to outside influences. Here are some tips on taking care of yourself.

  • Take what you see online with a pinch of salt. What people put out there on the likes of Facebook or Twitter can make us feel worse if we’re feeling low. It can seem like everyone is having more fun with more friends than you, at every festival, having crazy night’s out feeding our feelings of inadequacy. Remember people project the best of themselves so try not to get sucked into a spiral of envy looking at other people’s photos and posts.

  • Think it through before you join any groups or clubs. When you’re lonely the idea of belonging somewhere becomes more attractive. Cults and gangs often target lonely people, knowing they might be vulnerable.

  • While online communities can be a great social outlet, don’t become too dependent on them. It’s important to make sure you balance your social life and make the effort to talk to people in person.

  • Sometimes when you’re lonely, you can place too much weight on new friendships and relationships. Build trust gradually, take it slow and accept your new friend as they are – not necessarily the whole solution to your loneliness.

Wonderful websites:

I hope this gives you a good place to start. Stay strong, Anon.

Best,

Lena

When you can’t stop the urge of self harm, of isolation, of self hate and you only can sit in your room looking at the walls because the ones you love will get mad if you do something “egoist”.

Now tell me, what’s more egoist: trying to get rid of my own demons the only way I’m able to do it; or not letting me do it because you consider it incorrect and a shame?

You make me sick.

—  panic attack’s thoughts 

-Damage.-

Model: Sabe

Photo by Hex Hypoxia.

Full set coming soon to Zivity!

I can’t express how excited I am about this set. I was in a weird place emotionally when we took these, and Hex just let me listen to music and crawl around her bathroom. It was honestly probably the most intimate shoot I’ve had so far, and I am beyond pleased with the results. :)

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“A j-joke?” he whispered. “Here’s one: Th-there were three Slytherins…Three f-fucked up Slytherins. The first f-fell in love with…with the Gryffindor’s P-Princess and became g-good. The second fell in l-love with Ravenclaw’s An-Angel and became good, t-too. The third…the third did…n-nothing…b-but…but he tried…” (x)

remake of this

Isolation offered its own form of companionship: the reliable silence of her rooms, the steadfast tranquility of the evenings. The promise that she would find things where she put them, that there would be no interruption, no surprise. It greeted her at the end of each day and lay still with her at night.