anonymous said:

As an INTJ, I'm usually very calm about my emotions. I get irritated with the people around me sometimes, but as far as expression of happiness, sadness or any other emotion, I'm pretty stoic. What I want to know is, is it normal for an INTJ to feel so emotional on the inside? Like we feel all this things, but expressing them is uncomfortable, so we don't, but inside, it's like someone smashed a pinata of emotion?

Yup. You’re just explaining Introverted Feeling (Fi) right here. It’s the INTJs third function. We usually don’t let our feelings take over our minds when making decisions though and we don’t use Fi as our first function (like ISFPs and INFPs do).



Jake is such an introvert!
  • I:Do you think it's difficult to cope with fame if you're not a natural extrovert?
  • Jake:Not really – it’s quite a private life once you’re off stage. A lot of performers are introverts, most in fact.
My child, you may not be born with looks that the majority of vain people love and that’s my fault, but I promise you, ill raise you to have a heart that others get jealous of. You will be like air to the people around you, they will need you, they will take you in themselves and feel alive with every word and action that sprouts from your passion.
—  Jordan Ibarra (Life through my eyes)

There are dozens of opportunities to meet new people and grow your professional network every day. Still, most people rely on formal networking events to pull out their business cards and start conversations. Instead, take advantage of less obvious opportunities.

A connection can happen in the most unlikely places including while you’re in line for your morning coffee, on an airplane going to your next business meeting, during a break at a seminar, or at a happy hour event.

The first rule of networking is visibility. When I started my business 16 years ago, I joined professional organizations, associations and other groups. But that wasn’t enough. I knew that I had to get involved to get recognized.  In other words, you must see and be seen in order for others to know who you are.

Volunteer to serve on the board of a local nonprofit or attend charity fundraising events. Volunteer to give a presentation or guest lecture to hone your public speaking skills. Don’t forget that you are your own best business card.

As you go about your day, keep your eyes and ears open for conversation starters. Look for opportunities to be of service. If a stranger mentions that he is looking for a good restaurant, chime in and introduce yourself and suggest some of your favorite places to eat. Search for things you have in common, especially shared experiences, to start genuinely interesting conversations.

It may seem awkward at first, but the more you practice, the more connections you’ll make. Networks grow exponentially. For every new connection you make, you inherit those secondary connections. After all, it’s much easier to ask for an introduction than it is to cold call someone or introduce yourself out of the blue.

Instead of waiting for an occasion to network, use these tips to start a conversation with a stranger.

Give a firm handshake. First impressions are powerful and a good handshake conveys confidence. Always stand when you shake someone’s hand because it shows respect for yourself and the other person. As you offer your hand, make eye contact, smile, say your first and last name, and something about yourself.

Find a connector. If you’re new at an event, ask someone in charge or someone who knows a lot of people to introduce you to others in their network. An introduction from an insider can be more effective than if you introduce yourself to a group of strangers.

Discover a person’s hobbies and interests. You could say something like, “What activities do you like to do in your spare time?” No one likes to talk about work all night, so your new acquaintance will appreciate your genuine interest. It’s always nice when someone takes the time to get to know who you are, not just what you do.

Give a sincere compliment. This can be a great way to initiate small talk. Everyone loves a compliment. When someone has won an award or done something noteworthy at work, compliment her on her business accomplishments. Accessories are safe conversation starters. Mention you like a person’s laptop case, pin, tie or handbag.

Know a little about a lot of things. Stay up-to-date on current affairs. If you are interested and interesting, people will be drawn to you. When you travel on business, grab a local paper as soon as you arrive at the airport or hotel. Familiarize yourself with local news and you’ll always have something to talk about. Stay away from taboo topics including sex, money, off-color jokes and politics.

Keep in touch. After you meet new connections, be sure to follow-up. Always exchange business cards so you can connect on LinkedIn afterwards. Send an email or a handwritten note to let the person know you enjoyed meeting him. If you come across a business opportunity or a news article that you think your new acquaintance might be interested in, let him know. When you stay in touch, relationships will naturally grow. 

Persona 3's Makoto Yuki, the INTP (MBTI Analysis)


Makoto Yuki, INTP, Cognitive Functions:

Dominant: Introverted Thinking
Auxiliary: Extraverted Intuition
Tertiary: Introverted Sensing
Inferior: Extraverted Feeling

OK, in this post, I’m going to analyse Makoto Yuki (as I said I would), the main character of Persona 3, in terms of Myers-Briggs Typology Indicator (MBTI), and also the mechanics of Persona 3 to some extent, as due to the information from director Katsura Hasino in Persona 3: Official Design Works, I believe the main character’s mental state/personality and the mechanics of the game are inextricably connected.

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Six Words At TEDx: Marion Correctional Institution

“Bold introvert who hides on stage.” —Dan Royston

“Spiritual leader who likes Grumpy Cat.” —Chaplin Tim Smith

“Wanted mohawk, got a bald spot.” —Clifford Dale Rose, Jr.

“Progressive, I’ve come a long way.” —Deonta Bell

“Finding sunrise reflected in your eyes.” —Adam Wetterhan

“Freer, fairer, and less corrupt, please.” —Iggy

“Proper education always corrects errors emphatically.” —Demale Rogers-Bey

“I’m knee deep in the hoopla.” —Lee Seibenick-Schwartz

“Why doesn’t anyone else smell that?” —Rusty Tarbet

How to Care for an Introvert

1. Respect their need for privacy and to spend time on their own.

2. Be careful never to embarrass them in public.

3. When they are in a new situation, allow them to stand back, and watch what’s going on.

4. Allow them time to process what you’re asking or saying. Don’t demand an answer right away.

5. Be patient if they hesitate to find the right words – and never interrupt while they are speaking.

6. If you are going to change or cancel plans, give them plenty of prior notice.

7. Allow them to practice and perfect skills alone.

8. Correct or challenge them privately – never in front of an audience.

9. Don’t force them to hang out with a crowd of people, or expect them to amass a lot of friends. A few good friends is more comfortable for them.

10. Don’t try to turn them into an extrovert. Respect them for being exactly who they are.

Do you spend more time on the internet than you should? Does the sudden brutal stabbing murder of a loved one give you feels? Can you remember at least one incident from high school that bothered you in some way? Relax; you’re not crazy — you’re an introvert! Welcome to the club!

Still not sure? Take a look at these telltale signs, compiled by someone who nearly looked up ‘introvert’ in a dictionary.

You might be an Introvert if…

  • You read books

Only introverts know how to read. If you enjoy this quirky, archaic pastime, you might just be an introvert!

  • You go shopping by yourself

Sure, it seems pretty ‘weird’, but you can do without the normal entourage required to pop down the shops for milk and bread. You see a gang of twelve to fifteen fashionable kids crowded in the freezer aisle, gabbing into their mobile phones while all cooperatively picking up the same packet of frozen peas and placing it into their single shared trolley and think, “No thanks; I like cats!”

  • You like cats

Or dogs. Or one single dog. Anything mammalian, really, and birds too even. Most people punch a baby rabbit in the face every morning before breakfast, so if you see a baby rabbit and go, “Aw, so cute,” you’re probably an introvert.

  • You like to stay at home

Normal people literally explode if they stay in the same room for more than an hour, which is why they’re always dancing in the street, paragliding, swimming to the moon etc. If you get home from a hard day’s work and just want to relax on the couch with a hot cup of tea, guess what, you big ol’ introvert? That’s right it means you are one.

  • You’re intelligent, creative and thoughtful

Wouldn’t you know it, introverts are all of these! Heaps more than the average ‘popular’ moron.

  • You have a rich inner world

Your inner world is just so rich, what with all of your observations about things; it’s a pity most people are too busy going “Blah blah blah, shopping, television!” to notice. But someone willing to humbly defer to your hidden genius will discover that you are a brilliant conversationalist who knows about a band.

  • You need your quiet time and personal space

Extroverts sometimes run up to you, wild-eyed, and just start yelling; just “AAAAARGH!!! AAAAAAAAARGH!!!” at the top of their lungs, their face an inch away from your own. Most people would be like, “Who’s this sexy extrovert? I wanna get down with this person,” but an introvert like you is more likely to think, “Yikes! I’m uncomfortable.”

So if you’re an introvert, don’t worry! There are others like you, out there somewhere, suffering the same nearly-monthly indignity of people saying, “Are you okay?” or “Wow, you came!” to them. Just remember: being an introvert makes you special and interesting, like a black or a gay. Let’s show some introvert pride!

Introvert, Extrovert, Does It Matter?

Nowadays we live in a society where being an extrovert is considered somewhat mentally healthier and many people think it is the best for learning - for example, school classes often get divided into work groups, assignment groups, study groups etc. due to this aspect. Think about how often it is advertised that working with people and as a group is the most effective way of learning or productivity.

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