When we enrolled Harper in her current day care program, we were really happy. Harper was happy. We liked the woman caring for our child. And the woman caring for our child seemed to have liked us. But after this past week, it’s all gone to shit. To be fair, it’s been going to shit, but I’ve finally had enough.
Our day care provider, let’s call her Amanda, has a problem with MM’s mom. In Amanda’s defense, MM’s mom can sometimes come off as critical. In MM’s mom’s defense, I know she is not being critical and I know she is not coming from a bad place. Amanda has expressed her dislike of MM’s mom since the early days and last week…well, last week Amanda went batshit on MM…in front of the other kids. Amanda was fussing at MM about how his mom has a “bad attitude” and the kids tell their parents they don’t like her. (Sorry, but I don’t think a 9 month old is saying much to anyone.) Amanda then expressed to MM that she has an issue with a request from me that she previously had no problem with. This request was that the other children do not touch her. I was mainly worried about them hitting or pinching her (not on purpose, but just being kids). I also asked that none of the other parents be allowed to “handle” Harper. My reason for this being: I don’t know you, you don’t touch my kid. Amanda assured me that these were not unreasonable requests, that she understood where I was coming from, etc. Needless to say I am confused as to why she has now decided this is something of an issue. MM suggested that we all sit down to talk things over. Amanda said “absolutely not." MM suggested that they go into another room to discuss her complaints about his mother, thinking that the children didn’t need to hear it. Amanda said "I can do this in front of the kids." I consider this unprofessional.
I do not question that Harper is receiving good care. I do question Amanda’s…sanity, or level of maturity. I’m now questioning if we should withdraw Harper and enroll her elsewhere. Somewhere that we’ll be able to ask questions without the provider feeling as though we are attacking her, criticizing her, or judging her. Somewhere that open and mature communication is not only expected, but where it the norm. And of course, somewhere that Harper receives wonderful care from licensed, state certified caregivers.
I don’t think this is too much to ask. But we are now faced with looking for another day care within our budget and with having to transition Harper from one place to another. ARGH!