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: Okay, sansan shippers, repeat after me: My ship is…
Interesting… I have however two questions: what are the Sandor’s actions you find problematic? And where does he make rape threats? (This is simply curiosity, nothing else. :))
Um, well, holding Sansa down to her bed holding a knife to her throat? Sandor is a violent alcoholic. That doesn’t necessarily make him a bad person or a monster, but it does lead him to make some problematic choices.
I guess the main problematic scene would be the night of Blackwater—even Sandor recognizes that what he’s doing is not the right thing. He tells her he’ll have a song from her—quite obviously meaning her virginity, her song either being moans or screams. Another time he does this is during the Serpentine scene. His heart is never in it, because Sandor is not a rapist but the fact that he does make these threats and uses sex as a power play in this way is problematic, especially in the context of a strong, drunk, violent 29 year old man and much smaller, weaker, terrified 13 year old girl.
But he leaves, he recognizes that he’s terrifying her, at leaves. He knows what he’s doing is problematic, realizes he has put himself into a position where he is of no help to her, and leaves. But it’s still problematic.
(And no worries, darling. :))