Honestly, I like the fandom. Even though each person has their own little sort of group that they’ve bonded and meshed with right away, it’s still a pretty good sense of community and everyone’s been really sweet so far. And the intense love for the guys really shows how true and faithful the 5ers are.
Everyone really contributes and cares for the guys and are amazing in that some are willing and able to go to every single performance/show/benefit the guys have or attend. The appreciation blogs are wonderful and really represent the fandom well. And I like that through the band, I’ve been welcomed into this incredible 5amily and have—at least I think I have—made some new, trustworthy friends in the process.
But, alas, I don’t exactly love the fandom just because the whole “new 5er,” “old 5er,” “fake 5er,” stuff is just dumb to me. It shouldn’t matter if you found IM5 when they were first starting out or if you found them through Disney Dudez. What matters is that the 5ers love and support the guys no matter what.
Also, it makes me sad that there are really hurtful things being said about the guys on certain “confession” blogs.. (no names shall be mentioned). I know that the confession blogs truly don’t mean any harm by it and that they do post really positive and sweet confessions too and that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but it just hurts to think that there are 5ers out there who would willingly put their negative comments about the guys online and the fact that it’s an anonymous thing is just sort of—for lack of a better word—cowardly to me. Like didn’t your parents ever teach you that if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all? And I mean, if you’re going to put your opinion out there, why do it through a middle man? Not to bash anyone who submits to the “confession” blogs but if you’re going to say your opinion about the boys, own up to it.
Last but not least, I know that we all love the guys. But to me, it’s more about infatuation with some of the 5ers. One of my favorite quotes is by the spiritual guru Osho: "If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up, it will die and cease to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is appreciation." If you don’t understand, let me try and elaborate. The boys, no matter what, will make their own decisions in life. They’ll grow, create more incredible music, fall in love, experience all the things that people need to experience in the process of growing up. Of course they’ll take the 5ers into account and consider what they’re saying, but at the end of the day, the guys will do what they want and we, as faithful 5ers, should support them. So if it goes around that, “I never liked/shipped Colassidy,” or “I’m sad that (so and so) are together, he deserves so much better,” it just disappoints me that the 5ers feel some sort of possession of the guys. Like the quote goes, “Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.”
I know I’ll probably get some negative feedback for this but it’s just my honest opinion and our love for the guys is what should unite us, not tear us apart. That’s all I have to say.