Re: Men and Money ask.
I think its in poor taste to joke about it on here, but many teenagers (myself included) often have stability in mind when we consider marriage. I live in one of the poorest regions in my city; almost everyone is collecting government assistance (even my father), the power gets shut off so often that we have a designated neighbor to climb up the pole and jerry rig it when we can’t pay, the water runs white, there’s never enough food on the table, the grass is dead, ect. I don’t want to live like this anymore, and neither do many kids of both sexes that are stuck here too.
No, I wouldn’t be predominately superficial, and if I had to choose between someone I loved and someone who could take care of me, I would obviously go for someone I can see spending the rest of their life with me happily. But honestly the guys around here just don’t care about themselves or anyone else. The ones that do rarely get out anyway.
This sounds so much worse out loud, but I have to do what I have to do for myself and my future children. I want them to have beds that aren’t filthy mattresses with old sheets. I don’t want them to go hungry or sneak food home from school. I want to know that every time they leave the house, they are going to come back.
I am trying to get my education as well. I’m in advanced programs, get decent grades, and can probably afford community college by scraping together scholarships and a Pell Grant. I’m not going to bet all my money on one horse. Should I not find anyone who can actually support me, I won’t just lay down and die. But I have to keep my best interest in mind.
Yes, I am shallow. Yeah, probably a gold digger too, really. Call me whatever you want and then some. But when I look at some of the little kids around here with 3rd generation hand me downs and no meat on their bones, at the women whose drunkered husbands come home and slap them and their kids around, at my friends who either took to dealing or selling themselves to get by, at my own father who won’t even try to go out and look for a job or ANY source of income to try to support his children, I may feel shame, but I feel no remorse for wanting to run away from it.