I know we’ve all talked about this scene between Bilbo and Balin, but now that there’s a dvd screener out, I just really wanted to break it down even further because it’s probably the most important scene that points toward Thorin and Bilbo having had a romantic relationship prior to Thorin’s death
Balin says, “…and Thorin Oakenshield will pass into legend.”
To which Bilbo replies, “I know that’s how you must honor him, but to me, he was never that.” and I just want to point out the moment of pure joy, even adoration, on his face when he says this, as he’s remembering exactly what Thorin was to him.
“He was… to me… he was-," and here is where is not only falters, but becomes visibly choked up, and can’t finish.
and Balin just watches him with the single most knowing look I think any of us have ever seen.
Then we have this reaction. It’s somewhere between a gasp and a sigh, still riddled with emotion. Bilbo is very obviously close to tears, and this little gesture says to me that he’s thinking, "Oh. You know. I hadn’t even considered…”
And this tiny little nod practically shouts a sad acceptance. Of course Balin knew. There was no need to say it out loud, especially since doing so would probably feel like losing Thorin all over again.
And to finish it off, the forced smile; “It’s okay. I’m okay. Please don’t worry." He looks almost immediately away, the smile disappears, and Bilbo proceeds to change the subject. "Well, I think I’ll slip quietly away. Will you tell the others I said goodbye?" He can’t even bear to see the rest of the company, not even to say goodbye. We know it’s because he’s far too sad to deal with much more at this point. Thorin is dead, as are Fili and Kili. He doesn’t want to say any more farewells. He does end up doing so, as we all know, and very strongly at that. But he did try to avoid it, and for what other reason than he just didn’t think that he could? Maybe, just maybe, on top of having enough of goodbyes, he couldn’t even begin to think that maybe they all knew about him and Thorin, and that was just too much, too soon.