especially given that Teddy is a damn shapeshifter who never got to meet his actual parents, who lost the only mother he knew the day he found out a major piece of his identity, has no connection to Skrull or Kree anything except like…meeting the Super Skrull and Xavin and Noh-Varr, and who has always struggled with questions of identity & insecurity.
back in middle or high school literally shifted from nerdy to more jock-ish to fit in with people and then pretended to be superheroes to get the approval of Greg (?) despite the fact that he was being used. Teddy is not a guy with a textually strong sense of self or a strong support network, you know? He defines himself relationally - so even though he’s physically strong and more visually dominant and places himself in a caretaker role, he’s also developed his sense of self through being a Young Avenger and being Billy’s boyfriend literally since they were 14 or 15. He’s never been single and confident really - he found the broken Avengers mansion with Greg and met Billy soon after (if not earlier)
Contrast with Billy who has the Kaplans and Wanda and (on and off) Tommy. Billy who told Wanda when he was being beaten up for being nerdy and gay before he had powers still never had a problem being different from others - other people had a problem with him being different. That’s a fundamentally different approach to this stuff. Billy is slighter but more brazenly IDGAF about other people’s bullshit. That comes with control issues & the belief that he can fix everything & paralysis / depression when he can’t. When you’re a reality warper, that’s one hell of a god complex.
ETA: Billy’s powers manifest when he wants to defend someone ELSE - he can’t / doesn’t need to defend himself against bullies but he stands up for other kids even his goddamn activation of his X gene or whatever he is now that Wanda isn’t a mutant anymore is all about protecting others / taking on responsibility / martyr complex. Like there isn’t a direct line from this to the difference between his reaction and Tommy’s reaction at the end of Children’s Crusade re: if bad guys or Billy are responsible for Cassie & Jonas’ deaths and whether they should keep Young Avenger-ing & also leads directly to the all or nothing overcompensation attempt to save Teddy’s mom from another dimension & the things would be better if I ceased to exist mindset later in V2. Dude is all about overachieving, guilt, depression & thinking in extreme binaries of success/failure, etc. etc. overidentifyingwithBillyKaplan dot tumblr dot com
and like Teddy’s support network is Kate who is off with Clint having adventures at the start of YA and Billy who is still shell shocked and guilt-ridden and whose one rule to assuage his guilt stops Teddy from doing the one thing - heroing - that is the central non-boyfriend part of his identity. Who else? Were he and Eli ever close, really? Tommy? Both of them are gone by this point anyway.
like, how is any of this stuff about being gay or out of character or not entirely logical extensions of these characters existing in the shadow of Vol. 1 and the Children’s Crusade and the family and friends they’ve lost and the totally intense kind of co-dependent way their relationship developed.