I still talk to my ex-bf because we are awesome friends, and our breakup was basically a result of me deciding that school, achieving my personal goals, and focusing on bettering myself were my biggest priorities at the ripe age of 19. Anyways, I digress.
Today he called and told me about a crazy conversation he had with someone he had intended to go on a date with.
He was casually texting this girl and decided to ask her if anyone else had shown any interest in her lately, and she told him,
“ No, only Blacks and Hispanics”.
The first question to pop into his mind was “ Aren’t Black people and Hispanic people PEOPLE period?”
And so, naturally he was alarmed by her statement. The conversation began to progress and she started to talk about television programs she enjoyed, one being the Voice. My ex began to talk about the season with Juhi Pathak, a pretty talented former contestant that he had enjoyed alot. All she could note about Juhi was that she was the “ dark-skinned girl” failing to acknowledge any other prominent characteristics (She was the spunky girl with the teal ends and soulful voice) Juhi possessed. So he asked her the big question:
“ Are you a racist?”
And at first she completely denied it and asked why in the world he would ask something like that. He referenced the two aforementioned instances, and she grew defensive. He explained to her that by technical standards he was Hispanic and that his uncle and his uncle’s partner ( Who was also Hispanic) had adopted two Afro-Latino sons.
She was shocked his family accepted his gay uncles and argued that he couldn’t be Hispanic unless he had brown skin and spoke Spanish. She said he was clearly white.
Obviously, this was further from the truth.
Then he told her he had dated a black woman (me) before, and she basically flipped shit, claiming that black women had ugly hair, flat noses, and were loud. She assumed that I had to be from the hood, I had to be impoverished, I had to be of a lighter complexion, I had to be dumb, I could only be attending a selective university due to affirmative action, and a slew of other negative stereotypes came from her throughout the conversation.
After he debunked her assumptions she basically asked why he would ever want to date a woman, especially a black woman, who was motivated and focused on her future instead of continuously thinking about him and catering to his needs. He told her that he enjoyed seeing women who were independent and ambitious. He wants an individual he can build with.
And, after it all she asked a surprisingly not-so-surprising-question:
“ Do you like that nigger more than me?”
He said, “ FUCK YEAH”
She flipped shit and told him he had fucked up, she never wanted to see him again, and that she had had such high hopes for him.
He gave no fucks.
She, being an 18 year old dance major from Queens, NY, thought that he was gonna be a good ol’ Southern Boy who flew the Confederate flag, loved the great outdoors, and country music after she walked in on a joke he had made about OU SAE and the confederate flag at a party.
The bitch thought.
A lot of people are still really ignorant outchea and no matter how much you try to educate them, ignorance is rampant. Racism is definitely not dead. This girl is barely an adult and she seems to be filled with prejudiced thoughts. She tries to dawn the mask of an accepting person, but people eventually see through bullshit.