hirsuteness

Compilation of tips I’ve learnt through ten years of hirsutism

For waxing/epilating 

  • Applying baby powder beforehand helps sooo much since it means that there is less oil on your hair/skin which means the wax sticks better to hair resulting in a cleaner finish and less wax residue on the skin. It also helps with epilating because it coats the hair allowing it to be picked up with the tweezers more easily.
  • If you don’t have any fancy after wax lotion or wipes baby oil works just as well, it removes any left over wax and won’t irritate your skin
  • Don’t laugh but if you’ve ever seen at a barber or hairdressers they have this little brush for dusting any loose hair away, it’s a good idea to do the same thing wherever you’ve epilated because there will always be hairs lying about that have fallen out of the epilator. You don’t need anything fancy though even an old makeup brush will do the job.
  • On that note make sure you clean your epilator regularly to keep the tweezers sharp and give the cleanest results, most epilators now days come with a removable head and a little brush for cleaning out the old hairs. It’s also worth wiping the tweezers with rubbing alcohol/surgical spirit to keep them clean. 
  • Always use the edge of the wooden spatula when applying hot wax, the biggest mistake you can make with wax is applying it too thick or too thin, applying it with edge instead of the larger flat surface will make it just right. Also remember to apply the wax in the direction the hair grows and then rip off the strip in the opposite direction to the hair growth.
  • Also leave about a 1cm patch at the bottom for grabbing, believe me it helps if you leave a grabby bit instead of just sticking the whole strip down and not knowing where you’re going to rip it off from.
  • The sooner you can rip the strip off after applying, the better. Make sure the strip is smoothed down against your skin, take a deep breath in, count to 3 and then as you exhale rip the strip off in one smooth movement. Try not to pull the strip upwards as that can break the hair, but rather try and keep your wrist closer to your skin.
  • DON’T take a hot bath or shower for at least 24 hours after waxing or epilating. You don’t have to take a freezing cold, just make sure it’s not scalding hot and please don’t apply heavily fragrances lotions or deodorant if you’ve done your underarms, the alcohol can cause irritation. A GENTLE scrub is fine.
  • Red bumps are NORMAL, little whiteheads can be normal too even up to almost a week after hair removal if you’ve removed hair from a sensitive area such as your face or chest. Aloe vera gel/cream or chamomile lotions are miracle workers.
  • Don’t keep waxing the same spot over and over again in one go, if there are any stray hairs just remove them with tweezers. If you pull your skin taut whilst waxing it should help reduce the amount of strays.
  • Cut the strips into smaller pieces for smaller areas and remember that in some places such as the underarms hair often grows in different direction so apply the strips accordingly. Also giving the hair a slight trim might help for areas like underarms or bikini line where the hair can grow very long and curl about.
  • Make sure you’re pressing down hard enough with the epilator, I mean don’t go crazy or anything but don’t just have it lightly running over the top of your hair.

For shaving or hair removal cream

  • Keep your razor sharp!! This is such an important tip for a smoother shave, disposable razors, mens razors or razors meant for the bikini line are almost always sharper. Of course you should be careful because a sharper blade=easier to accidentally cut yourself. Keep your blade clean too, I find the that wetting it and then smacking it lightly inside the basin helps to dislodge some of those pesky hairs.
  • To help reduce the likelihood of cuts, especially in those bits that always seem to get cuts like your knee, gently pull the skin in the opposite direction of how you’re shaving. If you do get a cut, dry your skin, apply a little anti bacterial of some sort and hold a folded up piece of tissue hard against your skin as a diy compress. Once the worst of the bleeding has stopped apply a blob of savlon or sudocreme to help the blood clot and protect your skin.
  • Some people swear by shaving in a certain direction but I tend to find that first shaving in the same direction as the hair growth and then in the opposite direction gives the best results.
  • NEVER dry shave!! It’s so painful, it’ll irritate your skin and the results are generally crappy. Play around to see what gives you the best results out of shaving cream, gel or mousse. Some people even use hair conditioner!
  • Don’t go out sunbathing for at least 24 hours after applying hair removal cream.
  • Always scrape off hair removal cream in the opposite direction of the hair growth.
  • Make sure the room you’re using hair removal cream in is well ventilated! Every hair removal cream smells like satan’s anus EVERY SINGLE ONE. Don’t get caught up in that ‘fresh scent’ bullcrap, make sure you’ve got a window or 5 open.
  • Same deal with hair removal cream, don’t use highly fragranced products on your skin for 24 hours after applying hair removal cream. The alcohol in those products sting like a MOTHERFUCKER.
  • Please for the love of all that is sweet and holy don’t use hair removal cream on your pussy. Even those ones that are meant to be for bikini line hair or w/e. Somehow a little bit always ends up getting in your pussy no matter how careful you are and it will sting so bad your mum will feel it. You might as well just shave it.
  • Two words. TENDSKIN!!!! It’s awesome.

For when you can’t be arsed to remove the hair, or the hair hasn’t been removed properly or when your trying to transition into not removing the hair but still feel insecure af

  • Tights are the bomb for leg troubles. Cute patterned tights or tinted stockings are great because they hide anything you’re insecure about and look like you’ve  made more of an effort then you have.
  • Ditto with knee high boots or socks.
  • High waisted bikinis are awesome because they cover up happy trails, lower back hair, butt hair and a fair amount of bikini line hair and look really cute and retro.
  • Scarves are a saviour for neck and upper back hair.
  • There are a lot of really great tutorials on youtube for covering up facial hair and stubble for a variety of complexions.
  • Don’t laugh again but body glitter or sparkly body sprays, powders or creams help disguise the hair, make you feel like a fairy princess and once again makes it look like you’ve made more of an effort then you actually have :p

General advice

  • You are beautiful
  • And awesome
  • And deserve to be happy and have fun
  • You’re not alone in what you’re going through
  • No one is looking out for your hair, other people don’t notice it as much as you do.
  • You should tip your waxer unless they’ve done a spectacularly awful job if you go to a salon
  • Men don’t care about ingrown hairs
  • Your friends aren’t staring at your hair when you aren’t looking and secretly thinking that you’re ugly/disgusting.
  • No one is believe me.
  • Those who mind don’t matter, those who matter don’t mind
  • If you still feel bad after this remember that eurovision is next week so that’ll be good for a laugh

I hope this has helped a bit, I tried my best to call on all my hairy wisdom but if you still want to ask about something please feel free to do so! Love you all to the moon and back xxxxxxxxx

The Wonderful

Kramer’s neighbor from across the hall, a retired NYU professor, takes notice of his analytical and creative talents and encourages him to go back to school for chemistry, going so far as to even co-sign an educational loan. After graduation, Kramer lands a job as a biochemist at a leading pharmaceutical firm and soon invents the first effective cure for baldness based on a study of his own wild mane. The success of the product affords him the respect and freedom to work on more important projects, and within a decade, he discovers a universal tumor-shrinking serum that effectively cures nearly all forms of cancer. When he accepts his Nobel Prize, he is so elated that he can only manage to blurt the word “wonderful” before shuffling giddily off the stage.

No one is more thrilled to hear about the new hair loss formula than George, who asks his doctor for a prescription the very day it is approved by the FDA. His balding scalp is restored to its former hirsute glory within four months, giving him the confidence to finally ask out the gorgeous woman he keeps bumping into on his way to work. Elaine finds his directness so refreshing—and more importantly, his luxurious curls so captivating—that she almost can’t help but agree to a date. “Wonderful!” declares George.

The two hit it off immediately, and by the end of the night they can barely keep their hands off each other. Their shared cynicism and misanthropic views of the world resonate with each other like a chorus. They spend the rest of their lives together, happily sharing their hatred for everybody else. Elaine passes away first, at the age of eighty-one. “We were wonderful,” she says to George with her final breath. He himself dies hours later.

After an angel fishes Jerry out of a river, he learns that his friends’ lives would be significantly better without him around. Despite the angel’s pleas, Jerry insists on staying alive.

Who is Behind OurPCOS?

After three years, I decided it is probably the right time (ok, maybe a little late) to introduce myself to everyone on here. Some may know, but I realized that not many actually know who is behind the blog after the past couple of years. About a year ago, I had a Meet the Admin section, but deleted it during a clean-out on the blog. Since it has been a while, and people have recently started coming onto my personal, and introducing who they are to me because they realized I’m the admin on here.

So, hello! My name is Coleen, and you can find my personal blog at A Little bit of PCOS. I am twenty-one now, but my story with PCOS began when I was quite young, but we will get to that a little further on. At the age of fifteen, two weeks before my sixteenth birthday, I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. It was after years of testing that I finally had my answer, and what would later bring me to creating OurPCOS.

At the age of three—or around there—my mother discovered pubic hair on me, and brought it to the attention of my doctors, who said that I was too young for pubic hair, but dismissed it despite noticing it as well. Fast forward throughout the years, I was an active child who continually gained weight, despite eating relatively healthy, and always being active while on-the-go. I cannot remember the first time I bled, due to being so young, but I remember it was prior to the third grade. I only remember this because I have it memorized in my mind the moment I stared at the tiled floor in our bathroom, shouting for my mom to hurry upstairs. From then on, my periods were always irregular to the point I experienced it once or twice every year or two, or at times they would become too frequent. Every time, they would cause crippling pain, and it caused me to stay in bed. Throughout the years I always struggled with my weight, acne, dandruff, and a darken ring around my neck that would later be diagnosed as acanthosis nigricans due to insulin resistance. I was referred to Yale hospital for testing because doctors were baffled that I was healthy, but gaining weight rapidly, and maturing too quickly. My parents insisted they test my hormones, because they believed there was a hormonal imbalance, but doctor’s refused. They tested me for diabetes, and a range of medical conditions. A major part of my childhood was spent in the hospital for testing. I can remember it fairly well because I was always hooked to an IV, and unable to leave a hospital bed for six hours, so they had the entire collection of Mary Kate & Ashely movies for me to watch throughout the process. The results for every test showed that I was a healthy kid, and they told my parents not to worry about it at that point.

It wasn’t until I moved 500 miles away from my home state that I had doctors concerned with everything going on. It was my OB/GYN who had an, “Ah ha!” moment, and after doing blood work, she diagnosed me with insulin resistance, but referred me to an endocrinologist who could do further testing, and treat me, because I was a minor at the time. Now, this is where my PCOS story gets a bit messy, so hang in there.

I went into my appointment to discuss my lab work with the endocrinologist one day, and without explaining, she handed me three prescriptions, and said I had a bit of an imbalance. That I was to take the medication as prescribed, and would be fine. So with that, not thinking to question, we left. Later on in the week, a letter in the mail came, stating I had Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, in bold letters. The birth control she prescribed was the wrong dosage for my body, which led me to hemorrhage for over two months. After multiple hospital visits, we were told only she could treat me because I was her patient, and doctors just could not figure out why I was bleeding so heavily. When we went to the hospital she worked at, she refused to even come into the exam room to check on me. So after numerous calls, and complaints, the other endocrinologist took it upon himself to take me as his patient. And, he said it was a simple fix that she could have handled, but didn’t. He told me to immediately stop taking the birth control, and would put in an order for a new dosage. Within days, I was feeling well again, and the bleeding came to a stop. For the in-depth in this, you can see the post on my blog. The endocrinologist who declined to treat me had suddenly up and left the practice one day, and no one could find out what happened, or where she went. I was beyond grateful that the other endocrinologist took over with my care, because he saved my life.

For the first three years after my diagnosis, I was ashamed to speak about PCOS because of a few reasons. One, I didn’t know much about the syndrome so I couldn’t even explain it to people who asked; Two, I felt like I lost my femininity with the diagnosis, and I was worried about people’s views. It was as if the word was venom, and I refused to speak it. But it wasn’t until I realized that if I didn’t come to terms with my diagnosis, I would never be able to take proper care of myself, and bring awareness to something that I had a voice in. After three years of being lonely through life with PCOS, I decided to create OurPCOS. My main reason was because I didn’t want anyone to feel alone, I didn’t want anyone to go through a diagnosis without support. It was brutal those three years for me, and I had so much anger, and confusion because no one was there for me. I did not want anyone to experience that. I wanted to be support, and guidance. I wanted to be there when family and friends couldn’t, or wouldn’t because lack of understanding.

See, accepting my PCOS brought peace into my life. Despite all the symptoms, the complications, and the struggles. I had an answer through years of testing, and unknown. I had relief, because it’s manageable, and that eventually I would be okay. If I didn’t accept that I have PCOS, I wouldn’t be where I am today.

If you’re interested in knowing a bit more about me, you can check out my blog, alittlebitofpcos.tumblr.com.

Rant

Honestly we need more mainstream content for hirsutism. I search up the hirsute tag on here and I either get bombarded with porn or hairy men. Not that I’m against hairy men or anything, but men don’t face the sort of stigma women face. It’s socially acceptable for a man to be hairy, but god forbid a woman to be anything but hairless. 

I hated the feeling of being alone when I first discovered my hirsutism. I had no idea that such a thing was possible. All the articles I read were too confusing for a 14-year-old and I felt like I had the most obscure ‘disease’ ever.