Do you know who said this? Yes. The Lord Jesus clearly reminded about going the extra mile in love :) Look into the Book of Matthew 5 and allow your heart to learn how to love those who are difficult, those who don’t love us back, and even those who persecute us. Read, pray, and be still.
Since it’s a #TGIF #FF (Follow Friday), make time to check how you’ve been and commit to follow the Lord Jesus. “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him. (John 3:16-17)
A blessed weekend, loved ones! #scripture (at lorraineanne.tumblr.com)
THIS IS IT! I AM Officially DONE THE CHOICE IS MADE! I want exactly this!!!! I love the size of this tattoo! To me it embodies grace and elegance, it is delicate and graceful but also hope strength and beauty, love and faith all wrap in one cute little design! ALL of the things and wanted my tattoo to represent. :)
3 Lessons I Learned Instantly In My First Week of Marriage (That I’ll Need For Life)
They say everyone gets a honeymoon period at the start of your marriage, but whoever brandished that idea: I want a refund.
Marriage is hard work right out of the gate. Our sentimental ideas about romance
get tossed out very, very quickly — and I want you to be ready.
Everyone told me what to expect, but no matter how much you prepare,
it’s still a jump in the deep end. The more you know about what’s
coming, the quicker you can stand on your two feet.
I know that marriage isn’t for everyone (contrary to our culture, singleness is not an illness),
but whether you’re not in the dating scene or you’ve been married for
years, here are three things I learned instantly in the first week of
marriage. These lessons could be valuable and necessary for our entire
1) Marriage pulls down the hologram and brings about the gritty reality of your spouse (and yourself too).
My wife and I dated for six years before we were married, and in those six years, I have never heard her pass gas once. I would constantly tell her that it was okay, but my wife was dead-set on maintaining an air of elegance. No pun intended.
About four days into the marriage, on a wonderful crisp morning in Florida, I asked my wife, “Are you boiling eggs?”
She said, “No. I’m not boiling eggs.”
“Are the sprinklers on outside?”
“No. The sprinklers are not on.”
“But then what’s that sm—”
And it hit me. Pun intended.
[By the way, I have my wife’s permission to share this story. I’m
proud to say that she now regularly passes gas around me with the most
In dating, we’re often on our best behavior. It’s like a job
interview, where both sides show off their impressive benefits and
credentials. In marriage, you see the rough, raw edges of the entire
person. Marriage creates perhaps the closest proximity you will ever
have with another human being. You’ll see every insecurity and neurotic
tendency. There will be friction.
This is more than just about keeping up a pretty image.
It’s also a way of learning how to love an entire person and not just the parts that you like.
In Timothy Keller’s The Meaning of Marriage, he discusses
how we each have fault lines in our hearts, like the cracks of a great
bridge. These fault lines get exposed when we collide with another
person, so that we spill anger or jealousy or anxiety. A married couple,
because they’re so close in space, will inevitably drive a truck
through each other’s hearts: which exposes all the fault lines.
Deep-seated flaws will shake out of us like shaking a tree in the
autumn. It’s in this exposure that we can choose to face our flaws, so
that they would be re-shaped by the love we share. The sooner, the
You’ll also see every dream, hope, talent, passion, and ambition in
your spouse. You’ll see what lights them up and gets them excited. This
means that marriage is often about showing grace for your spouse’s worst
and promoting their very best. Love sees a greatness in someone who cannot see it in themselves.
And if marriage is one of the most intimate unions in the universe,
then it has the power to encourage a person beyond their self-imposed
limits. Though this can happen in many types of relationships, marriage
offers a profound intensity to spiritual growth. Finally, we can pull
down our holograms of who we pretend to be, and actually become the
people we were meant to be.
2) Marriage means your stuff isn’t your stuff anymore.
In our first week, we didn’t fly off to the honeymoon, which was
another two weeks away. We spent time unpacking, opening wedding gifts,
frolicking in our new home, and merging our lives together. About five
days in, I wanted to meet up a friend to hang out, one of the groomsmen
in the wedding.
I neglected to tell this to my wife. This is one of those very
obvious things that I should’ve known from the get-go: but in my
defense, I’m an idiot.
Marriage is about Two-As-One, as We instead of Me. My time was no longer my own. It was our
time. Our things. Our bank account. Our bed. Again, this sounds
obvious, but I’ve spoken with so many singles and unmarried couples who
were dismayed at the idea of splitting a life in half. No one is quite
prepared to completely surrender unilateral decisions. We quickly learn
why Apostle Paul compared our relationship with God to the marriage
union — because we are entrusting our will to another.
The wonderful advantage is that rather than “splitting in half,” it
actually feels more like a merging of strength. Our individual abilities
can make up for each other’s weaknesses. Our knowledge and our view on
life is suddenly augmented with an entirely new angle. By the end of the
week, I was figuring out what she would want and why, which helped my
tiny brain to open to new avenues I had never considered.
While both dating and engagement can offer the benefit of unified
minds, the promise of marriage solidifies an active undercurrent of
cooperation. There’s now a lifelong goal: for the health of the couple,
and not what works for “me,” but for We. What works for you as an
individual might be good, but what works for the couple turns out to be great.
It’s not half plus half, nor is it one plus one, but with grace and
synergy equates to an exponential growth of each other’s hearts.
3) Marriage means there’s nowhere to run: except towards each other.
Our first argument in the first week was different than any argument we ever had.
When we were dating, our conflicts were always able to be delayed. A
few days of separation could cool us off. The problems might come back,
but a little bit of distance smoothed things over. We could just bury it
and move on.
Now we have no such apparatus.
No buffer, no denial, no escape.
We could either go to bed angry, or we would have to wrestle with our exposed demons all the way to resolution.
For those who are more likely to avoid confrontation, this proves extremely troubling. If you’re like me and you absolutely need
to resolve things on the spot, it can still prove difficult, because
you’ll end up defending yourself in the most tone-deaf ways possible.
It’s all rather very embarrassing when we realize how bad we are at the
Rules of Engagement.
We had to figure out a system. We had to know what words we would
never, ever use. If we were going to fight, we would have to fight fair,
with no low blows and no dragging up the past against each other. None
of this is a perfect process. The initial start of a conflict will never
be smooth; our first reactions are always emotional because it feels
like your own value is at stake.
It’s in these moments that my wife and I had to learn to seek an
end-point to our arguments. The beginning would always be rough, but
with enough humility and self-awareness, we could run towards intimacy
instead of towards an exit. This kind of spousal love is not only a
means to an end, but the end itself.
We’ve discovered that when confrontation has a direction, it’s always an opportunity to grow.
And if a guy like me can learn these things: I guarantee you, we all can.