Scenario: Getting in the car to head to school today.
K: (*turning to me, out of the blue with tears in his eyes)
Mama, why didn’t my birth Mama want me?
Me: *stunned and immediately crying….
K: I mean…
Me: It’s ok to ask about her, my love. You know you can always talk to me about anything and ask me anything about her. But I need you to know that she did want you.
K: Why didn’t she want to keep me?
Me: Oh my love! She wanted you more than anything. I didn’t get to meet her yet, but I can tell you this, she loves you just as much as I do. There are lots of reasons that birth mommies make the tough choice to….
K: (cutting me off) Do you think she misses me?
Me: I KNOW she misses you. How could she not? I miss you when you’re at school during the day, so I know that she misses you each and every day! You know what, it’s dinner time in Ethiopia right now, I bet she’s thinking about you right now.
K: Do you think we could meet her someday?
Me: Would you like to?
K: Yeah. I think so. I would tell her that I love her.
Me: So would I.
K: Do you think that we could go to Ethiopia next weekend to try to find her and tell her?
Me: Well, I don’t think we can go next weekend, but why don’t we make a deal—when you’re 10, we can take a trip to Ethiopia and try to find her so that we can both tell her how much we love her.
K: I think that’s a good idea. And I would tell her Betam ewodishalehu.
Me: I bet she’d love that!!!! I know I love when you tell me you love me in Amharic. You know, if you ever have questions about her or are scared or confused, you can always talk to me about it. I love her and I know you do too. It’s great to have so many people who love you. Right?
K: Exactly. I love you Mama!!! (reaching out to hug me)
*We were both crying but it’s the first real conversation we have had about her ever. I love this kid. And I love his birth mom!