Let’s stop HIV in New York City

  • If you are HIV-negative, PEP and PrEP can help you stay that way.
  • If you are HIV-positive, PEP and PrEP can help protect your partners.


Daily PrEP

PrEP is a daily pill that can help keep you HIV-negative as long as you take it every day.

  • Ask your doctor if PrEP (Pre-exposure Prophylaxis) may be right for you.
  • Condoms give you additional protection against HIV, other sexually transmitted infections, and unintended pregnancy.


Emergency PEP

If you are HIV-negative and think you were exposed to HIV, immediately go to a clinic or emergency room and ask for PEP (Post-exposure  Prophylaxis).

  • PEP can stop HIV if started within 36 hours of exposure.
  • You continue taking PEP for 28 days.

Many insurance plans including Medicaid cover PEP and PrEP. Assistance may be available if you are uninsured. Visit NYC Health’s website to find out where to get PrEP or PEP in New York City.


Friday Five #4 - LGBTQ

Friday Five is a new original weekly feature on my blog where I list five book recommendations in a new post every Friday. A lot of the time these will be themed, though they’re by no means the only books I’d recommend for each genre, theme, etc. Anyone is welcome to do their own Friday Five post - linking it back to my blog would be nice.

This week’s theme is on books that focus on sexuality, gay characters and same-sex relationships. I’m not going to lie and act like I’m the most knowledgeable person on these kind of books because I’m not. I’ve chosen these five in particular because they’re beautiful books that I’ve read and loved that feature a gay protagonist and in some way deal with sexuality. This feature only focuses on five books anyway but I’d struggle to recommend many more, so feel free to add books to this post. I have quite a few already on my shelf but I want and need to read more of them.

1. Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Saenz

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I always describe this book using only one word: beautiful. That includes the cover, the writing, the story, the characters and the relationship. It’s one of those books you can read quickly but it stays with you. Regardless of what your preferred genres are, you should read this book.

2. Ask the Passengers by A.S. King

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I discovered A.S. King’s books this year and this one is only just behind Everybody Sees the Ants as my favourite. It’s the kind of book I don’t want to talk about too much because I think you need to read it to properly appreciate it, yet it was such a wonderful book. It’s really powerful in dealing with Astrid’s confusion over her feelings and how people react to her being gay.

3. The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller

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If you love mythology, you should definitely read this book. The protagonists are Achilles and Patroclus, who have strong feelings for each other, and it focuses a lot on the Trojan War. It’s so beautiful but be warned: the ending is sad. You know what’s going to happen but oh, it hurts.

4. More Than This by Patrick Ness

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Patrick Ness is my favourite author after Markus Zusak, so I absolutely adore his books. More Than This is a very unique yet wonderful sci-fi book and his latest YA novel. Though it’s not a main part of the story, the protagonist is gay so there is an element to it. (Also check out the awesomeness that is the Chaos Walking trilogy for Ben and Cillian.)

5. The Realm of Possibility by David Levithan

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I’ve read a few of David Levithan’s books and hope to read the rest one day but I especially enjoyed this one. It is written in free-verse and from the perspectives of a number of teens, so it’s not entirely focused on gay characters, however there are a few there. I particularly liked Jed and Daniel, particularly how the book started and ended with them. Be sure to check out all of David Levithan’s books though, including Will Grayson, Will Grayson, which he co-wrote with John Green.

Notable mentions:

I hope you enjoyed this post! If you’ve already read these books, you’re welcome to ramble about them with me. You’re also welcome ask for more info about these books and to send in suggestions for what kind of books you’d like to see in next week’s Friday Five post. :)

[Image: Transgender flag.
Text: “Iam a trans* guy.

                     I never thought much of my dysphoria.

I thought I was just one of those girls with image problems.

And then I realized the image problems I was having were because I was uncomfortable in my own skin.

I used to go to sleep crying because I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me and now I know…

                           The problem isn’t me, but the body I was given.

(Now how do I come out? :/ )”

not-fedora said:

I'm sorry but gay males really don't like girlfags


I have never met a gay man (outside of tumblr) who dislikes girlfags. Sure, my gay friends are not sexually attracted to women, but there is little hostility towards girlfags. The related term “fag hag” (a straight woman who loves to be with gay and bisexual men)  is normally used as a term of endearment.

That being said, there are girlfags who have gay male lovers. Their lovers respond to their masculinity, not to their female physiognomy. 

It seem to me too many on tumblr reduce “girlfaggery” to an issue of “attraction to”. It is just as much a matter of “feeling like”.

Many of the girlfags I know are transgender (in the broad umbrella sense of “gender variant”). They dream of being a gay man with a gay man. In this respect, whether gay men actually love them back is beside the point. This is how they feel. This is their identity.

And in spite of what many believe, the fact that they want to be a gay man with a man, does not make it impossible for them to find love. Girlfags often bond with straight and bisexual gender bending men, men who respond to the girlfag’s sense of masculinity with some kind of femininity.

Note that I am using the words masculinity and femininity in their broadest sense here. This is not about living up to the pink and blue stereotypes. The masculinity of girlfags is as diverse and many-faceted as the masculinity of butch lesbians. 

I love the following quote from a gay man taking part in the discussions over at the Facebook girlfag/guydyke-forum:

"Masculinity and the erotic attraction of maleness do not have to be the sole preserve of bio males who are gay.  I love and appreciate the fact that girlfags appreciate gay men as other gay men appreciate gay men. I suspect that girlfaggery is much more prevalent than people think."

I have included the full quote in this blog post over at Crossdreamers.com.

And yes, he is right about this being much more common than people think. The popularity of yaoi comics, slash fantasies and M/M romances tells us that many women respond to the idea of being allowed to express some kind of masculine sexuality and/or masculine gender identity. This does not mean that they are all transsexual (although some of them are). It simply means that the world of sexual orientation and gender identity is much more complex than some would like us to believe.

(The woman in the photo is Katharine Hepburn. And yes, she was a girlfag.)

Attention fellow queers!

So I live in Fort Collins (northern Colorado), and we have very limited queer spaces to go out and have a drink without being potentially microaggressed. This week our community found out that an GLBTQ+ friendly club is closing and just found out that another beloved bar is on its way out. 

The Astoria bar is a GLBTQ+ friendly space that has drag shows every month and is very dear to the community here. The owner needs $35,000 by September 21st or they will be closing.

PLEASE if you are in the Northern Colorado go spend money here! 

Other Tumblr users, PLEASE donate to their IndieGOGO fundraiser!! There are ten jobs and a wonderful queer space on the line!

ANYTHING HELPS! And I will love you forever if I can retain one of the last queer friendly spaces in this town.

Here is the link to the article: http://latenightfortcollins.com/save-astoria/

Here is the link to the fundraiser: https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/lindsey-anderson-and-astoria-need-your-help#home

I have seen fundraisers successfully funded through Tumblr before. Please reblog and please donate.

I finally saw more of just how green his eyes were, and they were like marbles, like huge marbles coated in milk. Yeah, I’m a sap, I just called this man’s eyes marbles sitting in milk, but seriously what else could I say? They were also like heavily decorated Christmas trees sitting out in a blizzard, or like strands of seaweed wrapped around a child’s hands. Either way they were something to behold, my plain brown eyes didn’t stand a chance near them, but shit did they want to meet them personally.
—  Me trying to describe this dude’s eyes in my novel Teddy Bears.
I wanna know about these strangers like me..

I wanna know, can you show me
I wanna know about these
strangers like me
Tell me more, please show me
Something’s familiar about these strangers like me 

Yes I just quoted Tarzan.. but being a gay Christian
(Christian who is attracted to males) I have often felt out of place with both Christians, Gay guys, and Straight people.  Basically the world haha. 

Because for me, dealing with this is not easy and you want someone to talk to about it.  Not just someone, but you wish you had a friend that could understand how you felt or empathize with you.  When I try to talk to my straight friends about this I swear the conversation ends with an oh.  Or a well..yeah idk man.  Or worse, they just swap the topic back to themselves 

and it drives me crazy.. I have one friend I try to talk to my problems with lol and he told me once.. we’ll it’s cause you don’t try. (As in try dating girls) and I’m like it doesn’t exactly just work like that homeboy.  

And then when you try to talk to gay guys.. who are not Christian about Jesus it’s like.. they go on the defensive and just shut down and say well I’m sure God loves you, and if not why serve a God like that.  

And I’m just like.. okay.. brick wall #2.  Whose up for 3rds.   

So yeah I wanna know, can you show me?  I wanna know about these strangers like me.  

I can relate to Tarzan, I know what it’s like to be surrounded by apes. lmao.

Lol. No, but in all seriousness I know what it’s like to both things that make up a part of who you are and not be able to fully identify with either of them.

Something’s familiar about these strangers like me