I’ve been seeing a fair bit of posts and articles about polyamory, and open relationships. A lot of authors of these articles/pieces haven’t done their homework.
Those terms are not interchangeable.
Neither is Monogamous (Mono-amorous), and Committed.
Regardless of the amount of people in the relationship, or the structure of the relationship, it does not necessarily mean that it’s an open relationship. Poly is just that you have multiple people involved in the relationship. Open, is when they can consistently see new people.
The way I view it as there is multiple different terms that can be applied to a relationship (if it’s necessary for comfort, or explanation, BUT they are not necessary if some do not feel comfortable with it! [Yay choices!]).
Now, Going by terms alone!
Monogamous: A relationship with two people.
-You can have
— Open: See other people
— Committed: Don’t see other people.
Polyamorous: A relationship with more than two people (This can be done in many different ways, if you want to know more, please ask and I’ll let you know some of the ways)
- You can have
— Open: See more people than are in the relationship (dates, intimacy)
— Committed: You don’t see more people than are agreed are in the relationship.
Now, you may ask about how cheating would work in some of those instances? Well, it’s up to the people in the relationship to decide that.
From what I’ve read, heard, seen, and feel, it’s considered cheating when you feel like you have to hide it from your partners, and sneaking around.
These ARE Valid relationship types. If they just don’t work for you, then don’t go by them.
Now, please don’t take that you can’t be committed to your partner, and in an open relationship.
Using the term slightly differently from the meaning I knew it to be, that person can still be your rock, and the love of your life, and the person you go to first, and will always love, and be committed that way.
I also should have been using the term closed instead of committed. Yes, this rant was about terms, and yes, I got parts wrong.
This has been added after someone had pointed out that it sounded like I was throwing open relationships under the bus. I didn’t mean that at all. I apologize to those who took it that way.