Did I say that Jensen doesn’t love Jared? Did I claim that he didn’t want to be near him? Why are you trying to pick a fight?
Of course those are two ginormous reasons that factor into his decision to move, but here are some (probable) others:
1. He’s a dad and wants to raise JJ near the grandparents and aunts and uncles. When my first child was born, I did the same thing — moved from Northern CA to Austin because my parents lived in Houston and my husband’s lived in Dallas. Austin felt like the place in Texas most like the Pacific Northwest to me, the ONLY place in Texas that I would want to live.
2. He recently had issues with a stalker in LA, and Austin is just… SAFER. In fact, that’s why Sandra Bullock moved back. About 2 years ago, when her baby was 2, she decided to sell her Austin home and try to make LA her permanent home. But then she had a stalker make his way into her LA house, freaked the fuck out, and moved back to Austin because we’re way more chill.
3. Austin is his “favorite city.” He’s been saying that for years (long before Jared bought a place here), so it makes sense that he’d buy a house here.
Look, I’m not trying to fight, so this is likely the last I’ll say on this and the only anon I’ll answer…
But when my husband and I left the west coast, I left my boyfriend behind. He lived in Portland at the time. Yet my husband and I decided to do what was best for OUR family. That meant moving somewhere near family, meant moving somewhere where we’d be happy to raise kids, meant moving somewhere where the cost of living was lower so our income and savings could stretch farther.
It also meant leaving behind people we genuinely loved. Did it end our relationships with those people? No. I still flew out to Portland as often as I could to visit my boyfriend, and he would take vacations with us as often as he could manage it.
Rather than spending your emotional energy trying to pick a fight, why not try to open up your narrow definition of love?
IT IS POSSIBLE TO LOVE — REALLY LOVE — MORE THAN ONE PERSON AT A TIME.
Think of it like this. If you are a parent to one child, and one day you have a second, does that mean you’ll love your first child any less?
Is your love some finite thing that you have to divide up between your children?
More likely, you would find that your heart just… GROWS. You would discover that your capacity to love simply expanded as you had more children.
You would discover that your capacity to love is infinite.
Likewise, your capacity for romantic love is infinite. Loving one person romantically doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to love someone else, and it doesn’t mean that you love anyone *less* than anyone else.
So rather than spew vitriol anonymously in other people’s inbox, why not jump on a much happier bandwagon that celebrates ALL THE LOVE?
It’s a positive and happy place. Come join us.