My hair, beard, and mustache is honestly a constant validation of my individuality and a constant reminder that I get to make my OWN decisions about my appearance without having to listen to what ANYONE has to say.
“Oh, you should at least keep a clean shave to look more presentable.”
“Oh what’s with the beard, are you a terrorist now (laughs)?”
Also, in sharing this, I’m now thinking about individuality with respect to women. We, as men are always suggesting how certain women in our lives (or otherwise) ought to look or dress or appear…..if we all take a second to really think about how pathetic we sound most of the time, we wouldn’t say half of the things we say. Respecting their individuality is honestly the very least we could do, and I’m pretty sure that they are capable of making their own decisions without our two cents coaching tips.
Unlearning the things we’ve been taught our entire lives may be difficult but at some point we all have to grow up and see that we’ve learned to view the world from a male-privileged perspective.
Please, do better. Love yourself. Love others, as they choose to present themselves. ✌🏾️