I have this general rule that “unsolicited advice is ALWAYS bad advice”. This applies to… everything, really.
When someone comes to me and asks me a question and I answer it, I have generally tried to give a thoughtful answer. If I cannot I ASK for my followers to assist me in helping the person who asked the question.
If I have not ASKED for your advice.. it’s bad advice. And if someone comes to MY blog and asks for MY advice, and you offer YOUR advice… it’s bad advice.
See, there are certain things that I may have considered when the person asked me a question… because they are a follower of MY blog… that perhaps you wouldn’t have considered. For example, if someone tells me they can’t find shirts long enough for them and need help I will likely assume they are asking ME this because *they are fat*. And my personal experiences tells me that shopping at thrift stores and second hand stores are tedious and upsetting a LOT of the time when you are fat and just want a fucking shirt to fit you.
So, see… I make a choice to not include that.
Many of us have our own values and personal agendas that we inherently push on our own blogs. I 100% support everyone using their blog space to do so.
I am a proud supporter of “staying in your lane”.
Please also note that being rude or an asshole does not equate to being offensive or harmful. I don’t expect for people to let me get away with being harmful or offensive, ever. I support call out culture, and love it. I just also support asking yourself if you opinion is truly necessary and valuable to a conversation!