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Vegan on a Budget: Freezing Avocados and Other Stuff.

Freezing Avocados

I like to buy avocados from Costco or just way too many when they’re on sale, so we’ll start there. Slice them, pit or no pit (doesn’t seem to make a difference). They all freeze the same. One little hint though, a quick brush of lime juice keeps them nice and green.

A few general tips on freezing food:
  • Always make sure it’s cool, don’t try to freeze hot foods.
  • Label and don’t forget the date! Most things keep 3-6 months
  • It costs less to run a full freezer. Pack it in and if you don’t have enough to fill it up, freeze big bottles of water.
Other things you can freeze:
  • Nuts and seeds: Buy in bulk and freeze what you won’t use within a few weeks.

  • Bread: Sandwich bread, buns, breadcrumbs, baguettes. If you freeze baguettes, wrap in foil and bake in the oven for 15-20 minutes at 400 degrees (depending on the size of your baguette.)

  • Baked Goods: Muffins, pancakes, waffles, cookies

  • Fruit: Great for fruit that’s about to be too ripe. Freeze it for use in smoothies or muffins later.

  • Soups: Make lunch size portions and pull out of the freezer the night before.

  • Vegetables: chopped onions, carrots, celery, bell peppers; all perfect for making soups

  • Wine: Use ice cube trays and drop it in your next recipes.

  • Homemade Garden Burgers

  • Cashew Cream

    Just freeze in little tupperware 1/2 cup or 1 cup portions. A vegan staple you’ll be happy to have on hand! 

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Here is the first rule of politics: if you never vote for what you want, you never get it.

A survey by the website reports that in blind tests (the 500,000 people it has polled were unaware of which positions belong to which parties), the Green party’s policies are more popular than those of any other. If people voted for what they wanted, the Greens would be the party of government.

I obviously don’t think that the Greens will ~seize power~ this year, but it’s still a VERY good idea to vote for them in the general election. It tips the balance away from UKIP, and sends an important message about people’s attitude toward climate change.

ecclecticmess asked:

Hello, I've seen a few of the "Affirmation of the Week" that you post. I think they're wonderful :) Do you have any affirmations or anything of that sort that are a good go-to for anxiety? Also are there any stones that I could carry with me or wear in jewelry you would recommend as well? Blessed be!

Hello there my dear. I’m so pleased you enjoy the affirmations posts. Here is a link to all of them for you (x) We’ll be posting some newly made ones from today on - here’s the first - so do keep an eye out >w< As to stones, Amethyst, Amber, Azurite-Malachite, Rhodonite, Sardonyx and Black Tourmeline are associated with anxiety relief.  

And finally, here is a post with general witchy tips and tricks for helping ease anxiety. There’s a spell in there too if you’d like to give it a go.

Blessed be.

rice cookers are straight up magic, okay? they always cook rice perfectly, always (i mean, as long as us lowly humans don’t get the water to rice ratio wrong…) but they can also cook so much more than that! for example:

and that’s just a few of the recipes out there! sure, crock pots are the versatility hero of the culinary world, but rice cookers are SUPER easy clean up, and come in super cute colors like the one above (seriously, can someone buy me that one for my femme dream house?).

so, here’s to you, rice cooker, you unsung hero. you will always hold a special place in our kitchens.


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I decided to make a reference post on most of the writing topics I’ve covered so far. If you’re looking for something specific, this might make it easier. Hope this helps!

General writing posts— Ideas Worth Your Time Antagonists How to Keep a Deadline How Anthropology Relates to Writing Incorporating Flashbacks When to Use Bad Language How to Write What You Know Is Your Novel Working Introduction to Screenwriting Writing with Others Working on Multiple Projects Simultaneously Picking Up an Old Story Developing a Well Paced Novel When to Include a Prologue Dialogue Writing Embarrassing Writing Habits Developing Good Writing Habits World Building 101 The Opening Hook Developing Your Style Types of Endings Plotting Failures Forging Friendships

Editing posts— Easy to Miss Writing Mistakes Staying Motivated During the Editing Process Is Your Story Too Telly? Editing: Who Should You Trust? When to Begin Editing On Editing Easy Editing Content Editing

Character posts— My Character is Drunk Writing the Significant Other Writing the Best Friend Writing the Best Antagonist Introducing Your Characters Character Trait Cheat Sheet Characters You Need to Stop Writing (Or Reinvent) Making Your Characters Likeable Prewriting Characters Writing a Young Character The Importance of Characters Is Your Character a Mary Sue? Character Development Exercises Strong Characters Too Many Characters

Genre posts— The Space Opera Historical Fiction What is High Fantasy? Figuring Out Your Genre The New Adult Genre Different Types of Science Fiction Writing Horror Novels Teen Sick-Lit Fantasy Clichés

Motivation— Keep Being Weird Important Writing Lessons My Favorite Writing Quotes You’re Not Perfect Where to Write Negative People to Avoid Quick Motivation Tips Using Rejection to Motivate Finding the Courage to Share Your Writing Staying Motivated How to Stay Motivated Over the Weekend

Publishing— Writing a Blurb How to Make Sure Your Novel Won’t Get Published Full Querying Guide What is a Crossover Novel?

Body Language— The Importance of Body Language Further Understanding Body Language

Random posts— Why Everyone Should Continue Writing Love Stories Why Writer’s Are Insane Don’t Preach to Your YA Readers Overused Situations in Fiction Writing Male Readers and Female Protagonists The Power of Silence Studying People Trends I’m Sick of in YA Fiction Virginity as an Identity

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-Kris Noel

General Tip #2: Writing vs. Planning

J.K. Rowling recently gave an interview where she talked about the romantic pairings in Harry Potter and how she’s not satisfied, in retrospect, with how the main characters ended up pairing off.

There has been a lot of talk about this, but the thing that’s interesting to me is the reason she gives for why it ended up the way it did: she was sticking to her original plan, while the story was growing in ways she didn’t expect.

There’s a message here for writers… or rather, two messages.

One is to always be aware of the story that you are writing.

I don’t mean plan it out in exhaustive detail, I mean that no matter what level of detail you have or haven’t planned it out in, look at what you’re actually writing—what you’ve actually written—with as little thought in your head about what it’s supposed to be as you can manage.

If you’re building a house and when you look at the construction all you can see is the way the finished product is supposed to be, you won’t notice if there are any problems developing. Or any interesting possibilities you hadn’t accounted for but might want to pursue.

The other is to never let plans get in the way of reality.

Sure, if you spot that your story has diverged from the plan, you can take steps to correct the course. But it’s always worth thinking about why the story went this way and not the other way. It might be that for reasons that were not apparent to you in the planning stage, one way just flows more naturally than the other way.

If the way things have unexpectedly turned out arises naturally out of the rest of the story and the way you wanted them to be would require you to root out a lot of stuff and rewrite it completely to avoid making it feel forced or phony… well, being surprised by your own work is not the worst thing that can happen to an author.

In fact, it can often be the best, most rewarding thing.

Because it is in those moments that your work can feel more real to you than any other time.

The painter Bob Ross is famous for saying “We don’t make mistakes, we just have happy accidents.” He also once said that the reason he paints imaginary landscapes and not real subjects like people is that no matter how it turns out, it’ll look real to someone. Someone will look at it and say, “I know that place. I used to go fish there.”

When you tell a story—a fictional one, anyway—you’re painting an imaginary landscape. These departures—these happy accidents—will not stand out as flaws to anyone who reads the story. Maybe you know it was supposed to go this way and she was supposed to end up here, but the reader only knows the way it actually goes and where she does ends up. 

Even when you’re just beginning to write a story, being more aware of the story you’re supposed to be writing than the story you are writing can inhibit you.

When you find you can’t write what’s supposed to happen next, write what comes naturally. If nothing comes naturally, write anything. If you can’t write anything, walk away and come back.

101 fashion tips and tricks

101. Despite what it says on the tag, cashmere is best washed by hand. To dry it, use a salad spinner, which releases excess water in seconds.

100. Use white wine to remove red wine stains.

99. Wash new jeans twice before taking them to the tailor. Why? Because jeans will always shrink in length when washed.

98. To stop angora or mohair from shedding, fold the garment and place it into a zip-top bag and freeze it for at least three hours.

97. Remove odors from vintage or thrift clothing by spritzing them with a mixture of one part vodka, two parts water.

96. “Remove white deodorant marks from a garment by gently rubbing the protective foam used on hangers against the fabric.” — Jonathan Simkhai, designer

95. If you get an oil stain on your favorite handbag, coat the mark with baby powder and let it stand overnight. By morning, the stain should be gone. If a bit still remains, repeat the process until the stain is completely gone.

94. The best at-home method to keep diamonds sparkling: liquid dishwasher detergent and an old toothbrush.

93. The secret to well-fitting everyday clothes is Lycra. The formulas to look for: 95% cotton/5% Lycra spandex for T-shirts, and at least 2% Lycra for jeans to hold their shape.

92. “Always organize your clothes going light to dark from left to right in your closet. Your eye will follow the color and thus help you stay organized.” — Melanie Charlton Fascitelli, Founder, Clos-ette and Clos-ette Too.

90. Wondering about the quality of your cashmere? Gently stretch the body of the garment to see if it snaps back. A lower-quality cashmere won’t.

89. “If you don’t have time to try on jeans in the store, try the Neck Method: You can determine your size by placing the waistline of the jeans around the diameter of your neck. If the waistline of the pant comfortably meets at back of your neck, then the jeans will fit.”— Sarah Ahmed, Creative Director, DL1961 Premium Denim

88. Cut down your closet by 25% by asking yourself this one question: “If I were shopping right this second, would I buy this?” If the answer’s no, out it goes. — Melanie Charlton Fascitelli, Founder, Clos-ette and Clos-ette Too.

87. “Never put your swimwear in the washing machine, and always hand dry. The machine will damage the suit and it will lose its elasticity. The only exception: At the end of the summer or vacation, wash your swimwear in lingerie washing bags on the gentle cycle with a bit if Drift or Woolite. But only after many wears.” —Shoshanna Gruss, Designer

86. To drop bloat five days before a big event, stay away from dairy and whole grains, which can do a number on the digestive system.

85. While fake designer bags are a huge don’t, fake diamond studs are a huge do. Faux stones are hard to spot to the untrained eye.

84. Dressy occasions aren’t the time to play with trends, so know your silhouette and stick to it to always look your best. Perfect example: Sofia Vergara knows she looks good in mermaid dresses, and always chooses variations of the shape on red carpets.

83. “Never put a garment on immediately after ironing, as this can actually cause new wrinkles to form. Instead, let it sit for five minutes to set the press.” — Althea Harper, Designer and Rowenta Brand Ambassador

82. The best way to de-fuzz a sweater: use a pumice stone.

81. Snap clip-on earrings onto flats for an instant evening shoe, or onto shirt collars for DIY embellishments.

80. If you get wax on a piece of clothing, layer wax paper over the hardened wax and then run an iron over it to loosen it up. Once you pull off the paper, the wax should come right out with it.

79. Pour a dash of vodka into vase water to extend the life of your flowers.

78. Spray tights with sticky (read: cheap) hairspray to avoid holes and runs.

77. To clean dirt off suede, remove the crust from a piece of bread and allow it to become stale. Gently rub dirt and stains with the edge of the stale bread, and they’ll disappear. To de-scuff suede, use an eraser or nail file.

76. Shopping for a wedding dress or another big-event outfit? Head to the store with makeup on, proper undergarments, and your hair semi-done to get a better sense of how it’ll look.

75. Double-stick tape work to shorten a hem in a pinch if you can’t get to the tailor before an event.

74. Blot, don’t rub, when you spill something on your clothes. Wiping or rubbing will actually further ingrain the stain into the weave.

73. “Panty lines are not okay! Every woman should invest in nude, seamless underwear.” — Giuliana Rancic, HSN designer and E! host

72. If you don’t feel like trying on a dress but still want to see where the hem will hit you, align the shoulder seam exactly with your shoulder bone (not your collarbone).

71. Repurpose old or thrift sweaters and blankets by using them to reupholster a throw pillow, a chair seat or cover a stool.

70. “Use hairspray to remove a lipstick stain.” – Kaelen Haworth, designer, KAELEN

69. Add a 1/2 cup of distilled white vinegar to the final rinse cycle while doing laundry to maintain the wash of your favorite pair of dark jeans.

68. To stretch tight shoes, fill two freezer bags with water and place into each shoe. Let it freeze overnight. As the water freezes, it’ll gently expand your shoes.

67. Frame vintage scarves for cool original artwork.

66. Due to its high level of surfactants, Dawn dish detergent is especially successful at removing grease and oil stains from clothing. 

65. “A flattering silhouette begins with the right underpinnings. Never underestimate the power of Spanx—they’re a girl’s best friend!” — Lucy Sykes Rellie, Fashion Director, Rent the Runway

64. Revamp an old coat by swapping out the buttons and having a tailor replace the lining with something eye-catching, like a pattern or a bright color.

63. When getting jeans shortened, always ask your tailor to reattach the original hem. It may cost extra, but it’s worth it.

62. If blush or bronzer breaks in your handbag, pre-moistened makeup removing wipes will clean up the loose powder flawlessly.

61. Break in stiff or too-snug shoes by slipping them on with socks and blasting your feet with a hot hairdryer.

60. Hang a shoe bag on the back of your bathroom door and use it to hold makeup, toiletries, brushes, hair ties, etc.

59. A vintage trunk not only makes a stylish coffee table, but it can also house shoes and clothing you rarely wear.

58. “To remove watermarks from leather boots, add a few drops of vinegar to a bowl of cool water and scrub the stains with a soft bristle brush until stains are no longer visible. Let dry overnight.”— Daryl Carr, Marketing Coordinator, Stetson

57. To stop squeaky shoes, remove the insole and apply Vaseline or WD-40 before replacing it.

56. To determine if pearls are real, lightly rub them over your teeth. Fake pearls will be perfectly smooth, and real ones will feel slightly gritty or textured.

55. When you’re shopping for a jacket, coat, or blazer, pay attention to the fit around the shoulders. While a tailor can tweak pretty much everything about the fit of a jacket—from tapering the waist to shortening it—they can’t change the shoulders. Make sure the seams sit perfectly at the bony tops of your shoulders.

54. Chic up a sporty puffer vest by cinching the waist with a skinny belt.

53. Unless they’re cropped or tapered, pant hems should just graze the tops of your shoes and be from 1/2-inch to 3/4-inch off the floor.

52. Always dry-clean coats before storing them, and place on cedar hangers inside cloth garment bags. This preserves the fabric and keeps moths away.

51. If you have a small closet, never keep your shoes in clunky shoeboxes. Instead, always line up them on the floor.

50. Going to a winter wedding or formal event? Try wearing a sleeveless fur vest as a top, cinching it with a skinny belt or piece of ribbon and pairing it with a floor-length skirt.

49. How to care for fur at home: “Pass the fur with a hairbrush and steam it for added bounce, volume and shine.” —Eran Elfassy, Co-Creative Director, Mackage

48. “Marquise ring shapes help to create the illusion of longer, more slender fingers, even on small wide hands. Pear or oval stones are also flattering.” — Carol Brodie, Fine Jewelry Designer, HSN’s Rarities: Fine Jewelry with Carol Brodie

47. Everyday bras should be replaced every three to six months, as that’s when they start to lose elasticity and support.

46. Ideally, a pencil skirt should hit just at the top of your knee. Any lower and it will start to shorten your leg.

45. Pants a bit too tight? Let them air dry and stretch the waistband by hand (or with a hairdryer) while they’re still damp.

44. Still look chic while showing some skin: If you’re wearing a miniskirt or shorts, cover up on top. If your top is skimpy, go for full-coverage bottoms.

45. Don’t underestimate the power of a well-fitting, stylish winter coat. You can be wearing pajamas underneath and you’ll still look perfectly put together.

44. Windex restores the glossy sheen on patent leather without doing any damage.

43. Fold jeans like a pro: Lay jeans on a flat surface, fold in half from left to right. Grab the stacked jean legs and fold them in half so the hem of the jeans lines up with the waistband. Fold the jeans in half one more time.

42. The power of a silk pillowcase isn’t a myth: Not only do they prevent “sleep crease,” they’re much, much gentler on your skin and hair.

41. “The best way to store fashion jewelry, including Sterling Silver, is in Ziploc bags. This helps pieces retain luster and reduces tarnishing and scratches.”—Jordann Weingartner, Founder, I Love Jewelry Auctions

40. If the garment you’re ironing has delicate buttons or detailing, cover them with the bowl of a metal spoon and press the surrounding fabric.

39. Don’t buy items you know you won’t properly care for. For example, if you know you’re never going to hand-wash that delicate cami or beaded sweater, don’t buy it.

38. “Pair flirty, feminine dresses with masculine spectator shoes for an effortless and unexpected look.” — Gabriella Perezutti, Designer, Candela

37. To achieve the perfectly effortless cuffed sleeve, keep the top button (which is called the gauntlet) buttoned while you roll.

36. V-neck sweaters and tees give the illusion of a longer torso.

35. Spritzed a bit too much perfume on yourself this morning? Use unscented, oil-based makeup remover to remove excess perfume.

34. Tend to wear certain leather shoes without socks? Always stuff them with a soft cloth when you’re done wearing them. This absorbs moisture and help the shoes keep their shape.

33. “Hoop earrings are a classic style that every woman—regardless of age—should have, but the type depends on your face. If you have a thin face, go for larger round or embellished hoops. If you have a round face an elongated hoop or drop style is best.” Elena Kiam, Creative Director, Lia Sophia

32. Freeze jeans inside a plastic bag for two days to zap odor without running them through the washing machine.

31. Looking for an easy trick to make your bare legs look longer? Try pumps the same color of your skin, which gives give the illusion that your legs extend a few extra inches.

30. Wrap an empty bottle of your favorite perfume in a handkerchief and tuck it into your underwear drawer for a subtle scent.

29. Heat can warp your glasses frames, so always keep them in a hard case and never wear them on your head on a hot day.

28. Spray shirts prone to sweat stains with lemon juice before washing. The natural acid dissolves alkaline sweat reside that could cause yellow discoloration.

27. “It’s a myth that loose styles flatter a large bust or a plus-size woman. The area just under the bust is a woman’s smallest torso measurement, so emphasizing it with a structured waistband that hits higher than your natural waist will make you look a size smaller. —BG Krishnan, President,

26. Use shaving cream and a washcloth to remove liquid makeup from shirt collars.

25. A modern trick to looking like the most effortlessly stylish girl in the room: Pair dressy bottoms (a velvet maxi, a leather or beaded skirt, silk pants) with a worn gray crew-neck sweatshirt or T-shirt.

24. When it doubt, always choose the smaller denim size, since jeans stretch with wear.

23. “Never dry a wet shoe with heat. Let it dry naturally in open air. Heat will dry out leather and the lifespan of the shoe will be cut in half.” —Jordan Adoni, Designer, Modern Vice

22. The easiest way to make your closet look organized: Buy all the same hangers for everything–same color, same shape.

21. Before bed, pour two or three tablespoons of baking soda into sweaty workout sneakers and tilt the shoe to distribute the soda evenly. This will eat any odor and absorb perspiration.

20. “For guaranteed weight loss, I advise people to follow my A, B, C’s – no Alcohol, Bread or processed Carbs.”—David Kirsch, celebrity trainer and fitness guru.

19. To prevent clothing from wrinkling in a suitcase, fold everything in plastic dry cleaning bags.

18. If you can’t fit two fingers underneath your bra band comfortably, it’s probably too tight.

17. Pile on good accessories—scarves, sunglasses, hats, statement jewelry—to instantly transform even the most basic outfit.

16. Confused about laundry settings? Remember this: The hotter the water, the cleaner the clothing will be. While warm water is fine for most clothes, linens and dirty white clothing are best washed in hot water to remove germs and heavy soil. Cold water is usually used for delicates.

15. A structured hat should rest about 1/8 to a 1/2-inch above the ears.

14. After a shower, use your hairdryer to de-mist bathroom mirrors in seconds.

13. A good tip when cleaning out your closet: Ask a friend whose style you admire to come over and help. She/he might offer new insight on how to wear certain items before you toss them.

12. It might sound “budget,” but a hot glue gun works amazingly well to hem skirts, pants and even jeans in a pinch.

11. Looking for uses for all the single socks you’ve amassed while doing laundry? When you’ve got aches or pains, fill a sock with dry beans or rice and pop it in the microwave for 30 seconds. Voila, an instant (and free) heating pad.

10. Wear your new real leather jacket in the rain to break it in. Water will soften up the leather and allow it to stretch and crease at specific points on your body.

9. Who has the time to hand wash bras? Machine wash them in cold water in a mesh zipper bag and drape them over a hanger to air dry.

8. Use a lemon wedge to remove excess or streaky self-tanner.

7. Track lighting is possible even for the tiniest closet: Buy a track kit, screw it into the ceiling, run the wire down the wall and plug it into the nearest outlet. Not only will you see all your clothes better, but you’ll feel like you have a more luxurious closet.

6. Invest in silk or satin pillowcases to keep your hair from breaking during the night. (They also keep your skin looking smoother than rough cotton cases!)

5. If you’re unsure about an impulse or sale purchase, leave it at the store. If you’re still thinking about it when you wake up the next day, buy it.

4. Have a sequin garment you don’t wear anymore? Remove the sequins and sprinkle them into a vase of flowers. Gorgeous!

3. A good shoemaker can fully rebuild your favorite pair, even if the arch is cracked.

2. To coax a loose thread back into place, gently tug at the stitches to the sides of the pull as well as above and below.

1. There’s nothing cooler than sticking to a signature style you know looks good on you. Slaves to fashion are never chic!

hey I know the tumblr horoscopes are fun and all but astrology is a very real spiritual and cultural branch of study in many asian countries… you don’t have to believe that astronomical phenomena connects with the human world, but there are people out there who spend their entire lives devoted to planets and moons so keep that in mind the next time you ridicule someone for talking about their star sign. the articles you see in western magazines are nothing


Ok, so, these questions mean alot to me, since, wow LOOK AT THAT I am also a big lady who has struggled with the way I look. And honestly, this applies to ANYONE, whether you are uncomfortable with your weight, your boob size, your hips, WHATEVER; this is for you. 

Here are my cardinal rules of feeling good in your own skin:

  1. Walk around naked; Yep I am serious. Being naked ALOT is one a surefire way to get comfortable in your own skin. 

    Sometimes when no one is home, I’ll just not wear clothes. And I LOOK at myself too. I get used to ever curve of my body, the way it moves when I walk, how the colors change from place to place, my stretchmarks and scars; I take it all in an ACCEPT that this is the way I look. I feel like the reason why alot of people dong feel comfortable naked is because we dont see ourselves naked alot without feeling the need to cover up. 
  2. I have said this before, but I will say it agian; MASTURBATE. No single activity got me more familar with my body than touching myself. DO IT.
  3. Wear things that YOU find attractive and are comfortable in. Whenever I am about to get laid, I always wear my special lacey underwear and a matching bra because it makes me feel incredibly hot and confident in myself. Whatever that means for you GO FOR IT. You cannot possibly feel sexy in something that makes you feel weird.
  4. Keep in mind that confidence is key. No one is going to find you attractive unless YOU do first. Its OK to be insecure about things (we all are.), but do NOT let that own you. Accept that you are going to be insecure about things, and work to accentuate the things you are confident in. I literally cannot say enough that BEING CONFIDENT IS IMPORTANT. NO ONE WILL QUESTION SOMEONES BEAUTY IF THEY BELIEVE IN IT THEMSELVES. Now, note, this does NOT mean arrogance; dont constantly talk about how beautiful you are. But also do not constantly berate your looks in hopes that people will tell you otherwise: being beautiful starts when you believe you are and do not need anyone to confirm. Its all about how you hold yourself. 
  5. Remember when it comes to sex MOST PEOPLE DO NOT CARE. In the mad dash to get clothes off and inside eachother, most people are not looking at the fine details of your body. For example, there is one guy who has seen my naked more than anyone else, and that was an old fuck buddy. we had ALOT of sex. and I mean alot. Constantly. And since we got used to it, we started to slow down and appreciate it. Long story short, I remember asking him if he ever noticed my stretchmarks and he said he honestly never even paid attention; they were just an insignificant part of the whole. Then he asked me if I ever noticed the scars on his chest (from a pool accident as a kid I think) and i can HONESTLY SAY I NEVER DID. But suddenly they were there, right in front of me, and they were pretty noticeable, but I just was always so absorbed in him as a whole, they never got my attention. And even after I noticed them, I didnt really care too much. This is what I mean when I say that when it comes to sex, most people are not going to be so critical of anothers body. What you are insecure about, others may not even notice. 
  6. PEOPLE SEE YOU. You arent hiding anything from anyone. When a man sees me, he knows my weight, no matter what Im wearing. He knows Im a big girl. He knows my face and my skin color. And when he decides to approach me anyway, hes showing me that it obviously is not an issue to him. When I take off my clothes later, while there is obviously difference in Jessie sans sweatshirt, he sorta already had an inkling of what was there anyway and if anything, being naked is just another improvement. I remember in my most recent relationship we got to talking about my weight and I asked him if he was surprised by how fat I actually was without clothes and he literally laughed and told me that hes not blind; he could tell my weight just from looking at me, and he couldnt see why I would try to hide it anyway. THAT was the moment I realized that Im fooling no one by trying to smoke and mirror my way out of what I weigh— people see see you, and most of the time, they do not care. And if they DO, are those really the people you want to take off your clothes for anyway?
  7. This is the body you have. Its yours, You cannot change it in a moments notice. You have to work with it, and accept that this is what you look like, and OWN it. This is the best advice I can give you. Love everything about yourself because at the end of the day, ITS YOURS. It belongs to you and no one else. 

Now mind you, these are all things it took me YEARS to master. Im 22 years old now, and STILL there are some days that I forget about one or more of these rules. I have to admit, it gets harder to remind myself when Im single, but its so important that people force themselves to be confident on their own; becuase in the end, people will always come and go, but you will ALWAYS have yourself.

I really hope I helped and if you take NOTHING else from this, remember:  no one will find you beautiful unless you do. Confidence is sexy, so OWN it. 

Writing Crime Fiction

Here are some links I found particularly helpful when you’re writing crime fiction or creating a crime RP.

General Tip #1: When/Why

This blog will include prompts for writing exercises, but when you’re in the middle of writing a story and you get stuck, sometimes you need to prompt yourself in order to keep writing. The prompt won’t always result in what we’d call “usable prose”. That is, you won’t always write something that you want to keep, but you will write something, and the act of writing something is always progress.

Our first self prompt is called When/Why. 

The way it works is this: tell the audience something (or look at what you’ve just told the audience), and then tell them why. It’s When/Why because thinking about when a person does something is helpful in establishing why “When” in this sense is not “when did you come home last night?” but "when do you come home?" 

As an example, if I tell you that Larry comes home when the bars close, I’ve told you quite a bit more about Larry than the hours he keeps. If I tell you that Susan sleeps when she’s lonely and she’s lonely when it rains… okay, that’s far from a complete picture of Susan as a person, but it’s evocative, isn’t it? It suggests things.

And now I’m thinking about why Susan is lonely when it rains.

Let’s run with this. Say you’ve just written a sentence beginning a story or chapter about Susan. “Susan is sleeping,” you write, but you’re not sure how to follow on from that sentence.

Ask yourself, why is Susan sleeping? She sleeps because she’s lonely. She’s lonely because it rains. So now we have, “Susan is sleeping. She sleeps when she’s lonely, and she’s loneliest when it rains.”

Well, why is she lonely when it rains? “The rain reminds her of Joan.” Why? “It was raining when they met. It was raining when she left.”

When/why is fractal. As long as you’re stuck, you can always drill down another layer. Why did Joan leave? Why does Susan care?

Writing a story is explaining something to your audience. They say you don’t understand a concept if you can’t explain it in terms that anyone can understand. A corollary to this is that the more thoroughly you understand something, the easier time you will have telling someone about it.

When you’re stuck, treat the page as an inquisitive pre-schooler that keeps asking you “Why? Why? Why?” Every time you answer, you’ll find you have something more to explain. Every time you explain, your understanding of your subject grows more complete. The more complete your understanding of your subject, the easier time you will have explaining it.

Note that the results you get from this self-prompt will often be the opposite of common writing advice like “Show, Don’t Tell" or the boiled-down techniques favored by Chuck Palahniuk. That’s okay! You’re writing.

Follow the prompt long enough and you’re likely to find yourself in a place where you can segue from spinning out explanations to moving forward and telling the reader about something else. Later on you might find yourself explaining the same things in a better way, and you might find yourself cutting some of the initial explanation or re-writing it. You might even treat the when/why portion of your manuscript as an outline for the rest. But for now, you’re writing something, not editing anything.

You can use this prompt at the start of a story, or any time you find yourself stuck. Why did this happen? Why does she do these things? When does it tend to happen?

More Fun Sex Facts!

god my sexual behavior textbook is a treasure trove of amazing facts

  • Its actually TRUE that women who live together synchronize their cycles. Why? Its actually from the sweat secretions of the women on their cycle that trigger the cycle of other women when they smell it. The sweat contains steroids that may function as pheromones. However this ONLY happens if the women in question do not use birth control or other period regulators.  (Cutler 1999)
  • Likewise, most womens cycles that are too long or too short will level out if they smell male underarm perspiration (Preti et al., 1986)
  • Women are more attractive to men (at least with scent, and sight) when they are ovulating. Women find men less unpleasant when they are ovulating. 
  • the term ‘horny’ comes from a history of people believing that ground up rhino, elephant, and reindeer horns would work as an aphrodisiac.
  • Saltpeter (or Potassium Nitrate) is a natural anaphrodisiac (the opposite of a aphrodisiac, where is turns off sexual response) because it increased your need to pee 
  • There is NO EVIDENCE that marijuana and an increased sex drive are related. AT ALL. Its your subjective experience that is effected, not your sexual response  Weed makes it easy to relax (for most people), and that makes it easier to enjoy sex (for most people)
  • The hymen can be found in only female humans and horses. It remains somewhat of a biological mystery because it serves no apparent biological function. . 
  • the clitoris has many names, my favorite of which being the French word bijou (meaning jewel)
  • The clitoris never really ages. Once it is mature, the clitoris remains at the peak of its power for the rest of a woman’s life. That means, you’ll have the same orgasmic capacity (and many swear increasing pleasure, too) at 95 years old as you did when you were a teenager.
  • Women can orgasm multiple times without a refractory period.
  • The clitoris hasabout 8,000 nerve endings — that’s twice as many as there are in the glans of a penis, and more than in your fingertips, lips or tongue.
  • if you put your fingers deep into the vagina (yours or a consenting adults) you can actually feel your cervix! It feels like a slippery little ball with an indent in the middle (which is where babies and period blood come from, and where sperm goes.)
  • with men, both pee and semen pass through the same urethral opening. For women, there are two separate openings. The urethra, for pee, and the vagina, for the penis (or whatever the hell you wanna shove up there, no judgment ladies.). Lady ejaculate does, however, come from the urethra, but is not 100% pee (it may have traces of urine in it, but its usually a clear or milky fluid and comes out in small spurts.)
  • Most men find the top of the penis the least sensitive.
  • the clitoral hood is like the foreskin of vaginas. and like foreskin, during arousal, it shifts to allow better access to the clitoris. 
  • about 57% of boys are circumcised in America, 17% in Canada, and 5% in England
  • There is, however, overwhelming evidence that circumcision has many many health benefits (like a decrease in risk for infections and STIs, and genital cancers (Tobian and Gray, 2011, Wright et .al, 2012)).
  • Ejaculation and orgasm, while usually occurring simultaneously, are NOT THE SAME THING. Orgasm is a pleasurable muscle contraction that is a result from mentally and physically arousing stimuli. Ejaculation refers to the expulsion of ejaculate.

So there’s a lovely person out there named Leanne Brown who put together a free cookbook specifically for people with a low budget! Apparently, this is a cookbook full of food that you can make for yourself for under 4 dollars a day, go check it out and I will be doing the same.

Dandelion - General Tips

There are plenty of guides for Dandelion around, but I thought I would compile my general experiences in case anyone might find them useful.  I will also include links at the bottom to guides that I used too.


  • Concentrate on interacting with characters and raising their relationship points first.
  • Then concentrate on satisfying their stats.
  • Quick Save/Load is the most useful thing in the game.  It’s a wise idea to quick save before each interaction.  If you don’t get the result you need, Quick Load and try again.
  • Always pay attention to your Stress and Pressure meters, and don’t let them get too high.

Relationship Points:

  • Wearing a bikini at the beach (found in the store for $100) will gain you one more relationship point during the interaction.


  • You can check to see if you are satisfying a character’s requirements by right clicking, choosing Status, and then choosing the character.
  • Once your heart gauge fills, the best thing to do is level up the Stress and Pressure meters a little first and then start adding new activities.
  • Cooking is a useful activity because it boosts all the stats in some way.


  • Don’t forget to check out the gifts they characters give you.  Some of them are usable and boost your stats.


  • Whenever you are out during the weekend, you will have a choice to Look Around. 
  • It’s a good idea to Quick Save first, and then look around for character stamps.  They appear as chibi faces.  If you don’t see any, Quick Load and look again.
  • At the end of a route, you can turn in stamps for sketches and a special CG.  You have to have 30 by the end to get both of those.
  • You can increase your chances of finding stamps by buying the Vision Pills in the store ($200). 


  • The fastest way to earn money is to look around at the beach for pearls.  They are worth $50 each. 


I started the game quite a bit after it was released, so I had the opportunity to use other guides for help.  Here are links to ones that I used and found helpful!

A general guide for early interactions by animefan135

Character Guides by noelswonderlandJiyeon/Jiwoo/Jieun, Jihae, and Jisoo